Help Im 31 And Have Never Ever Orgasamed While Awake.. Posted: 11-09-06 00:30am
Im a 31 year old woman who has had 4
children and I have never ever had a
orgasm and the closest I came to it was
when I was 17 and with my first love...I
mean sex is hardly enjoyable and my
clitorous seems numb ..Yet when im asleep
I can orgasm or wake up excited and finish
the job of my self and then I can orgasm
..People say masturbation is the key but
when im awake my clitorous feels numb
whats wrong with me I have a new man in my
life who I love dearly and we are to make
love when he visits me ...I want him to be
the one..Help plsssss
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Melissa_20
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Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 11-09-06 16:01pm
Question: how do you know you had an
orgasm if your sleeping?. . . . First
you say you never had one and then you say
you have and you wake up and finish
yourself off. . . .
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dewella_okechukwu
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Nov 2006 Posts: 4 Location: Australia
Posted: 11-09-06 20:43pm
Hey ...
I'm sorry I should have been
clearer,what I mean to say is that
sometimes I will be dreaming of making
love and im orgasiming in my dream then I
wake and I am orgasiming...But recently
like for a year now I dream im about to
orgasm and I wake up and so I finish the
job my self...And when I wake up like this
im right on the verge of orgasiming.So I
have to masterbate to finish orgasm.
Which I guess is a good sign that I
actually can orgasm but how do I get to
that point of being excited enough when I
have no feeling down there only in my
dreams?
Maybe I do need someon who goes long but
in the past I m so used to faking and
concentrating on pleasing the guy and
hurrying it up coz I get no
enjoyment...Sighs
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noelleW
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Oct 2006 Posts: 2 Location: mississippi
Try Pleasing Yourself While In the Tub Posted: 11-09-06 21:31pm
I had the problem of not being able to
orgasm until I learned to please myself.
Then you can learn what your body reacts
to and what it doesn't react to. Try
turning the bath water up fairly high and
letting it run on your clitoris until you
orgasm. It works better if you have a
shower head that detatches from the wall.
After you have achieved an orgasm that way
or any other way you can try experimenting
with different way to achieve an orgasm.
Once you realize the ways that work best
for you, you should be able to get one
with your partner. Try to forget about
p;easing him and focus on yourself. Good
luck!!!!
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dewella_okechukwu
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Nov 2006 Posts: 4 Location: Australia
Posted: 11-11-06 18:45pm
Ok I tried doing that..And I went for a
while and I actually had feeling there I
wasnt numb..I just need to go for a while
to get me to that point ..And it felt
really really nice I was on the beginning
verges of having one then the weirdest
thing I started crying...And calling my
mans name is this normal then it went a
bit and eventually stopped as my arms
were sore...Come to think of it I never
really fully tried masturbating b4 so this
was the first time in 31 years I really
trully allowed my self to enjoy myself..I
figure if I dont know what pleases me then
how can I teach anyone else to please me
heh any other ideas besides gross
pornoghraphy to get me excited...
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casidee
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Nov 2006 Posts: 16 Location: cardiff
Posted: 11-15-06 10:23am
Try using a vibrator .. In gentle
circular motions around the clitoris using
pulsating occasional pressure....... It
will do the job in no time at all....
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noelleW
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Oct 2006 Posts: 2 Location: mississippi
Posted: 11-21-06 01:30am
The only thing else that I can think is to
get your man to perform oral sex on you,
it is one of the best feelings that I have
ever felt. Other than masturbating that
is the first way that I ever had an
orgasm. And yes it is normal to call your
man name while masturbating, at least it
is for me. The main thing is you are
pretty much fantasizing about him while
pleasing yourself. Try the water thing
again, and be patient if your arms get
tired before you get there, then stop for
a moment, then try again. And when you
feel you are about to orgasm, stop rest
for a moment, then go again when you
finally orgasm it makes it that much more
intense. Again, good luck!!!
