Joined: 09 Nov 2006 Posts: 2 Location: Norwich, Uk
Exhibitionism Help Posted: 11-09-06 07:00am
Hi there this is my first post here so im
hoping ive posted in correct spot if not
im sorry, im looking for some advice for a
male friend of mine, he is a 39yr old
male, he is a virgin and his only sexual
experience is masturbation, when he was
younger he was bullied at school and also
sexual bullied, what I need input on is my
friend cant stop flashing or masturbating
to friends, family or strangers and he as
one it to my daughter and minors off the
net, which for me is extreame when he
shows his penis to young girls etc, he as
flashed me a number of times and even
masturbated which is alittle uncomfetable
but rather him do it to me then some
strange women or young girl, but he as no
control at all and its way out of hand and
he also admits he needs help, he as told
me even cried for help so now im out there
seeking it and getting advice for him, ive
recently found a topic about chemical
castration and this is done I think by
tablets or injections so lower his
testrome in his body, which then can make
it hard for him to get aroused and with
that he would find it hard to masturbate,
also heard they can make it hard for a man
to get an erection at all and can become
limp for live, I know to him and most of
you this might sound extreme but to be
honest if he cant get a hard on, then he
cant masturbate and upset people (women
and girls), I have mentioned this to him
and one min he says yes he will take these
drugs and wants to be limp so he cant
upset people, next min he is says he
doesnt know as this will mean he cant
masturbate but for me thats the whole
problem I as now control he as to flash
his penis and masturbate in public and
that has to stop, so this is were you come
in I dont know if anyone as heard of
chemical castration but if you have I
would like to infomation and tips to help
him sort this major problem, and btw my
daughter is 8 and hes flashed and
masturbated to her as I caught him, he as
flashed young girls in public and online,
so or me he must become limp and yes as he
says his penis only used for one thing
pee'ing, I dunno maybe im being selfish
but if he carrys on I think he will end up
havin no choice about treatment or be in
jail. So please help thanks.
Ps sorry this is a long post for my first
post but hope you all understand.
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Jpegger
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Joined: 24 Nov 2006 Posts: 4
Posted: 11-25-06 12:29pm
Wow, that defiently is a huge problem. I
am supprised nobody has ever called the
police on him before. Yeah chemical
castration would work but it would leave
him limp for life, he would never be able
to get it up again. Personally I would
say get him in the dating scene! Try
internet dating, take him to bars and have
him talk to random women, hell if it would
keep him from jacking off in public take
him to a weekly prostitute. You should
also get him some physological (sp?) help.
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Ingi
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Posted: 11-25-06 12:41pm
Actually, chemical castration does not do
anything to the desire to continue
commiting these kinds of acts. Just
because his penis would no longer become
hard, doesn't mean he isn't going to keep
flashing people.
They have proven that chemical castration
does not prevent sexual assaults. They
still happen, just differently than
before.
How can he not prevent what he is doing?
He has absolutely no control over whether
he flashes someone or masturbates in front
of them? It sounds like he needs some
therapy and you need to call the police if
you ever catch him doing something like
that in front of your 8 year old daughter
again.
That is child abuse and if anyone knew you
allowed that kind of behavior - didn't
report it - you could be in a lot of
trouble. It is damaging to your daughter
as well!
I would not allow any one with that kind
of issue to be near my children. I don't
care if it was my 'friend' or not. There
is some serious problems with a man who
cannot control his own sexuality.
Tell him he needs therapy and he needs to
take ownership of his own deeds.
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Steelbutterfly
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Joined: 09 Nov 2006 Posts: 2 Location: Norwich, Uk
Posted: 04-22-08 07:44am
Yeah i know what he is doing is very
serious, and he as been honest and open
with my and said when he get horny and a
hard on, he HAS TO masturbate either in
public and private, but as told me he
likes a female to see him masturbating or
having orgasm, and as told me he as lost
very personal friends through not
controlling himself sexualy, i will admit
he is more then a friend hes more like
family, and im worried for him ive only
caught him the once masturbatin to my
daughter but told him that was a no no and
if i caught or ever found out he had
flashed her etc i wouldgoto my doctor
aswell as police, but hes admitted to me i
cant stop when hes hard heas to masturbate
and likes to be seen, he lives with his
mom and shes told me she catchs him alot,
or he leaves signs for her to see so she
knows what hes been doing, now i admit i
did let him do it with me there as i didnt
want him gettin into trouble maybe was a
bad thing but me trying to be there for
him of such, he as recently been seeing a
shrink (female) as he says he cant talk
about this to male therapists as to
embarssed to admit hes 40 now and still a
virgin, plus would find it hard to talk to
a guy about his masturbating issues and
erection issues, but he as also told me
hes scared of telling her everythink even
about my daughter and his frneds 14yr old
daughter) that walked in on him
masturbating in her parents toielt but
says he didnt intend to do that, usualy a
key in door but wasnt at the time, and
the second day the same girl asked him to
do it again and he said he cant and she so
called put her foot on his crotch etc, to
me he needs to tell the therapst
eveyrthink especialy the sexual side, and
what he also went through at school which
he told me and maybe the cause, he had a
bad experiecne with his gf but what
happend i thought was nrmal for a boy his
age, but this so called girl told her
friends and he got bullied by 2 girls and
alot more, sorry im rambling on now, but
he as said he wishs he didnt have a penis
or even balls then wouldnt get in to
trouble like he is and could end up in
jail or a madhouse, he said the therapst
as told him to ask his doctor about
chemical castration but his doctor is male
so he wont ive even said i would go with
him, but female doctors can help him also,
but he is still scared, and im worried for
him.
sorry about the delay and long post i do
ramble (i am female of course lol)
