Joined: 10 Nov 2006 Posts: 1 Location: Southeast USA
Not Sure What Steps to Take Posted: 11-10-06 22:55pm
For the past six years my wife has in one
way or another been unfaithful.
Six years ago she had a one night stand.
Then about a year ago, she started going
online to sex sites and dating sites and
chatting with men. I found out and she
promissed to stop. It turns out she
hasn't. I'm affraid to leave because we
two children. I think the oldest
(10/girl) suspects my wife has been
unfaithful. I don't think anything has
escalated to where she has been physical
with someone else since the incident six
years ago, but it has become obvious to
me, that I cannot trust her. I tried to
get her to go to counseling, but she
won't. I'm affraid to give her custody of
the children. She is unstable. Anyhow,
really confused - b/c she tells me she
wants to work things out and she still
loves me, but at the end of the day her
actions speak louder than words.
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Euphoric
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Jul 2006 Posts: 47 Location: ,
Damnn. Posted: 11-12-06 20:06pm
I am really sorry to hear about what is
going on right now. As much as I want to
give you the words that will make it all
better, I cannot. I know that there is a
reason that you have come on to this
forum. You know that we can give you
advice here and tell you what we think you
should do, but ultimately, I believe you
already know what to do, and what you want
out of life.
In my opinion, it seems like your wife
doesn't have much respect for you or her
family. I am truly sorry for your pain
and hurting, but can only suggest help of
someone who knows about custody laws, (for
you to be able to keep your children), if
you decide to leave. I don't know how
your home life is, but I do know that you
have many decisions to make about where
you want your life to be years down the
road.
I do wish you luck, with all of your
endeavors, and hope nothing but wonderful
things come of this. Take care..
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littlesqueaks
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 May 2006 Posts: 296 Location: Caldwell, Idaho
Staying Unhappy?? Posted: 11-13-06 00:59am
I know the feeling of the words "staying
together for the kids" I was saying the
same thing. But when it comes down to it
when the kids are old enough to see that
there is unhappiness between their parents
they begin to have conflict with it
themselves. Kids can not only see
unhappiness they can sense it also through
body language, facial expression, voice
tone, mood changes towards them and much
more. You and your wife need to "fix" the
problem between the two of you for the
kids sake not stay together for the kids
sake. If counceling is the answer then
thats great but if taking different paths
has to happen then that is sometimes what
has to happen so that you can be happy
again for the kids.
Ask your self what is going to happen if
you do stay till the kids are grownup and
gone? Would you continue in the
relationship or would you move on? The
hard part about staying then leaving when
the kids grow up this might hurt the kids
more because they would feel that they may
have been the ones that kept you there and
would feel quilt over you not finding
happiness.
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