Am I Taking It All the Wrong Way Posted: 11-11-06 05:46am
I know this is a broken hearted forum and
that is the last thing I am but if I were
i'd still be talking about this situation.
You see I had this friend who I got on
really well with and we kind of decided we
wanted more between us and everything was
going pretty well...He excepted I had
quite a few problems with things...Emotion
baggage as many would put it and he didnt
walk away and obviously this build up my
expectations of this person. Then when we
got closer and he realised I had a few
intimacy issues due to things that have
happened in my past he couldnt deal with
it and walked...In my mind I feel rejected
because of my issues that side of things
is disasterous at the moment and to a lot
of guys thats very important. He says its
more that he didnt want to risk the
friendship but that sounds like bollow to
me. The thing is he still expects us to
be best friends...And expects me to be
able to watch him chase other girls on
nights i'm out...And at the same time
continuously be there for him ...Am I
wrong or is this totally inconsiderate...I
dont know whats right anymore. I care
bout him still and I dont wanna wreck my
friendship with him but it makes me feel
low and empty when I think of the
rejection especially of what it was
concerning
i just want to know what people think
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littlesqueaks
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 May 2006 Posts: 296 Location: Caldwell, Idaho
Posted: 11-13-06 00:04am
How long were you friends before trying to
have a relationship with him? I had a
best friend that we had never taken any
further than that (besides a few drunken
happenings) he had tried asking me out a
couple of times but I had to be honest
with myself and him that I didn't want it
to ruin a friendship if we did not work
out. He had always dated girls that were
of the model type (small bodies, done up
hair and faces) I am what they call a
basic kind of girl I don't dress fancy, I
don't wear make-up, and besides a brushing
and a pony tail I don't do anything with
my hair. So I felt that I would not be
right for him in a physical sort of way.
It's basically just being honest with
yourself in what is more important a
relationship or his friendship? They also
say that friends make better
relationships. So in time once those past
happenings can be put behind you who's to
say that you two may not give the
relationship another try. Right now be
friends and stand beside him in the
choices that he makes but it does not hurt
to tell him how it makes you feel to be
put in the situation of watching him hit
on other women in front of you.
He still cherishes what you have between
you two or he would not want to stick
around to be your "friend" don't let that
go, friends are a great thing to have
specially of the oppisite sex because men
are not quick at stabbing women friends in
the back and you can talk to them with
just about anything!!!!
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