im feeling really bad, I went to my doc
and he told me to just keep trying and
gave me folic acid. Its been 3 years now
and I really felt so stupid telling him as
I felt he was looking down at me for being
twenty. Ive done some stupid things but
I know for a fact im ready and have the
love, time and money for a child.
Can anyone give me advice as of where to
go now.
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jaemierin
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Oct 2006 Posts: 611 Location: Alberta, Canada
Posted: 11-12-06 20:44pm
This may not be advice so much as just a
reminder that you need to take a deep
breath and relax. I know it's easier said
than done, but sometimes "trying" and
worrying about it too much will actually
stop your body from conceiving. Stress
does a number on your body and it's
amazing on what it can cause it to do, and
what it can stop it from doing!!!!!
So many women that have tried and tried
for a number of years, all of a sudden
became pregnant when they actually stopeed
trying and thinking about it so much.
Being only 20 is ok for wanting a child,
but go and enjoy your life as well, and
make the most of it and learn from the
experiences you encounter. Trust me, I am
almost 31 and I am trying to take a dose
of my own "medicine" so to speak!!!!! I
don't know if a woman is ever fully ready
to have a baby......It's scary, excititng
and a total change of life all at the same
time. But, you are young, so you have a
very good chance of becoming pregnant
faster than some of us!!!! Live your
life, and it will happen when your body is
ready!
Good luck!
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Volaremos
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Aug 2006 Posts: 421
Posted: 11-13-06 02:22am
Hi dear
sorry to see you so down , I agree with
jaemierin.As she said, it's easier said
than done. But atleast try .
& I think you should change your doc
& see what he or she has to say about
it .
Goodluck & lots & lots of baby
dust for you.
May god give you the baby you always
wanted.
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ClarkHam427
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jun 2006 Posts: 91 Location: Creal Springs
Posted: 11-13-06 14:44pm
If you're really ready for it then I
suggest changing doctors. Sometimes
doctors let their personal beliefs get in
the way of their job so if he thinks
you're too young, he probably won't really
help you out for a couple more years or
until he thinks you are ready. Good luck
hun!
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Abbysmom
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jan 2006 Posts: 471
Posted: 11-13-06 15:12pm
I definitly think you should change
doctors. Any doctor who says just keep
trying when you have already been trying
for 3 years doesn't have a clue. It
doesn't matter how young you are, if you
have been trying for that long some basic
testing should be done at a minimum.
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foxy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 May 2006 Posts: 487 Location: Nassau, Bahamas
Posted: 11-13-06 16:05pm
abbysmom
wrote:
i definitly think you should
change doctors. Any doctor who says
just keep trying when you have already
been trying for 3 years doesn't have a
clue. It doesn't matter how young you
are, if you have been trying for that long
some basic testing should be done at a
minimum.
i agree with abbysmom, 3 years of trying
should raise a red flag to the doctor
regardless of your age, and he should be
trying to find out what the problems are.
Get a new doctor.
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 11-13-06 16:27pm
Has your dr ran any tests on you and your
hubby or b/f? If he/she hasn't, I would
think about seeing another Dr. I agree
stressing about ttc does not help the
situation.
Baby dust to you!
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Jolie_3110
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Dec 2005 Posts: 1755 Location: Essex, England
Re: I Just Dont Know Posted: 11-14-06 05:13am
~*klo*~
wrote:
hello,
im feeling really bad, I went to my doc
and he told me to just keep trying and
gave me folic acid. Its been 3 years now
and I really felt so stupid telling him as
I felt he was looking down at me for being
twenty. Ive done some stupid things but
I know for a fact im ready and have the
love, time and money for a child.
Can anyone give me advice as of where to
go now.
my advice is much the same as everybody
elses! See if you can get an appt with
another doctor, maybe just for a second
opinion (if changing doctors will be
difficult) ask for some tests to be run,
when nothing was happening for me I had to
demand to be referred to a gynae because
no-one would listen to me! You and your
partner need to be checked it could be
something thats easy to sort!
Whatever you do dont lose hope! And its
doesnt matter about your age, 20 is young
but if you are in a stable relationship
and you have a secure home and regular
income why should anyone tell you
otherwise! I had my first child at 19, I
am now 24 and going for baby no3!!
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~*klo*~
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Nov 2004 Posts: 353 Location: eng
Posted: 11-14-06 07:17am
Wow I wasnt expecting such a response,
thanks every1.
I suppose I should leave it this month and
relax about it all, which I have tried so
many times and then go back to my docter
and really explain to him my problems.
