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Q: Drinking & Partying Before Finding Out About Pregnancy
asked by: Amber_Irene on November 13th, 2006
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It's during that window of time when you can't take an accurate pregnancy; before you actually miss your [next] period. Basically, it's before you can know for sure if you are or not.

I had unprotected sex about a month ago w/ my boyfriend. Since I didn't think much of getting pregnant, b/c we have been having unprotected sex for months now & b/c I never conceived, I kept on living the high life of a 20-yr. Old. For the last couple of weeks I have been partying, which means drinking large amounts of alcohol.

I took chaser pills once to help w/ my hang-overs, and lots of aspirin the other times to ease the headache. I'm young, so I figure I have all the freedom in the world to enjoy my youth. [don't label me as wreckless b/c i'm very mature - i've been living on my own since I was 19-yr's old & I work between 40 & 50 hours a week, plus college]. Despite my stupid mistakes, i'm a good person w/ a level head on my shoulders.

I'm nervous, however, b/c for the past couple of weeks [when sober] I have been feeling sick. I thought that perhaps it was due to all the drinking, but I only go out on saturdays. My feeling of nausea comes & goes, and when it subsides I become extremely hungry, but perhaps that is b/c I can finally eat w/out feeling like it won't stay down? I didn't think pregnancy at all, b/c I have been pregnant once before [but opted to abort due to my young age & a medication I was using; severe birth defect warnings], and I know that when I was pregnant then I just felt it; like I knew before taking an tests. I don't have that feeling this time around.

My period is 3 days late, which isn't normal. I'm giving it a couple of more days & if it still hasn't arrived, i'll take a test.

If I am, will I stand a chance of giving birth to a healthy baby even though i've gone out drinking? It was during the time when you couldn't tell, so how was I supposed to know not to do this or that? Of course, if I am [pregnant], i'll stop everything harmful while I carry out the rest of my pregnancy. I don't smoke or do drugs, but aspirin & chaser pills aren't something a person should take while pregnant. I'm probably over reacting, but since my last pregnancy was in jeopardy due to a medication I used while not knowing, I was afraid to chance the health of my baby. [i was told I was more than likely going to have a child w/ severe problems]. I'm afraid to be told those things again.

I had a friend who was careless before finding out about her pregnancy, smoking pot & drinking, etc. But as soon as she found out, she stopped. Her son is perfectly healthy. She told me, "it's amazing how much your baby can shield itself from in the very beginning." is this true?

Please, any advice would help. I'm just paranoid. I'll let everyone know what happens w/ me. If I don't get my period by wednesday, another 2 days away, i'll be taking a h.P.T.

Confused Amber
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BabyGirlsMami
replied on November 13th, 2006
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As long as you arent one of those girls that finds out she is prego in her 6 or 7th month of pregnancy, I wouldnt be too worried about it. You can just start the change now
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16 And A Mom To Be
replied on November 13th, 2006
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Take a pregnancy test in a couple of day's.
I had this problem too I had drank a couple of times before I found out I was pregant and was very worried about it as well.
Usually when the baby is very young it does not effect it as much, it effects it more so when the baby becomes a fetus.
My advice stop drinking and partying unitil you take that test, you don't want to endanger your baby.
My thought's are with you hun, I know how that situation is, from the looks of it I had the same life style as you accept I am younger until I found out I was pregant than everything changed.
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16 And A Mom To Be
replied on November 13th, 2006
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Oh and don't beat your self up if you find out you are pregant and you drank before you knew.
If you know you are pregant and you continue to drink , when you are that makes you an unfit mother.
You thought you were doing nothing wrong at the moment but if you continue to do something wrong when you know, that's when it makes it completely unacceptable!
Take care hun. Pm me if you need to talk.
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megums1211
replied on November 13th, 2006
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Don't stress. I know a girl who is only 17 and just found out she is pregnant last month.... She is due dec 28!!!! Shocked she just saw her doctor for the first time through the pregnancy 2 weeks ago and her baby looked just fine on the ultrasound
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tim_horton
replied on November 13th, 2006
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Before I found out I was pregnant I smoked pot every day. One night I also had a few drinks, which included a couple tequila shots. I also smoked cigarettes.


It's quite common. Although it's not optimal, there's nothing you can do to change it. Focus on staying healthy, eating right, getting lots of rest, drinking lots of water, and staying as stress-free as possible.
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Bridget
replied on November 13th, 2006
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Re: Drinking & Partying Before Finding Out About Pregnan
amber_irene wrote:
i had unprotected sex about a month ago w/ my boyfriend. Since I didn't think much of getting pregnant, b/c we have been having unprotected sex for months now & b/c I never conceived.




amber_irene wrote:
[don't label me as wreckless b/c i'm very mature ].




Rolling Eyes
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Sandbox Party
replied on November 13th, 2006
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Lol @ .Bridget
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HcoBrunette06
replied on November 13th, 2006
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Hahaha @ b.

Nice point.
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tim_horton
replied on November 13th, 2006
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Re: Drinking & Partying Before Finding Out About Pregnan
iheartmybostonterrier wrote:
amber_irene wrote:
i had unprotected sex about a month ago w/ my boyfriend. Since I didn't think much of getting pregnant, b/c we have been having unprotected sex for months now & b/c I never conceived.




amber_irene wrote:
[don't label me as wreckless b/c i'm very mature ].




Rolling Eyes


the point isn't whether or not she's mature. The point is that she came here for advice, not to be scolded.
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HcoBrunette06
replied on November 13th, 2006
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Ooooh she didn't scold her, just made a face, it's her opinion is all, seeing as how shes had unprotected sex for months & parties and drinks at the same time and claims to be mature, that's all.
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Sandbox Party
replied on November 13th, 2006
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Exactly. It was just kinda, well... Ironic that shes all like, *oh im so mature but I had unprotected sex, and drank like a fish!*

yeah.. Maturity at its best.

Oh I fear for the youth today.
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ClarkHam427
replied on November 13th, 2006
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If you're pregnant and you quit the drinking now, your baby should be fine. My best friend was a heavy drinker when she found out she was pregnant and her son is fine. You're 20, if you're not pregnant now then use some sort of protection in the future. Just because you didn't get pregnant the other times doesn't mean it won't happen, it can take up a to year for a perfectly healthy couple to get pregnant naturally. Enjoy your youth while you have it. Enjoy the partying, the drinking, and hanging out with your friends because once you actually have kids....You won't have that option for another 18 years. Please use protection
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Shawnina
replied on November 14th, 2006
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Sorry to play devil's advocate here, but I have to disagree with some of the other posters. For what it's worth i'm a nursing student and I happened to do some research on this very topic.

The most critical period of a baby's development takes place in the first 8 weeks, in the embryonic stage, not the fetal stage. Ironically, this coincides with the time that most women do not realize they are pregnant. It's never too late to start making positive health changes, but the first 8 weeks are critical.

Having said that, many posters here have offered anecdotal evidence of friends who drank while pregnant and have delivered healthy babies. I also witnessed the same thing during my rotation in maternity. But life isn't fair. I have also seen women who took "perfect" care of themselves during pregnancy only to have less favorable outcomes.

Bottom line: no alcohol is best when pregnant.

Don't beat yourself up about it. First, find out if you are pregnant. If you are, it doesn't mean you won't have a healthy baby. But inform yourself, and use that information to make healthier choices in the future.
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ThriftyGal
replied on November 14th, 2006
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... The first 4 weeks of pregnancy the baby lives independently from the womans body, so nothing put into the mother's system affects the baby for the first four weeks. This is contradictory to a lot of other things i've read, but it is what they are currently teaching my sister at university.
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Jayb
replied on November 14th, 2006
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You should be ok, however you must stop drinking. My girlfriend's mother drank throughout her three pregnancies and tried to convince my now pregnant girlfriend to go out, party and get drunk. As you can imagine I bit her mom's head off and she will not even mention alcohol in front of me! Saying that her kids were all ok, but as the other poster said it affects different people in different ways and some folk are lucky, others not. Just eat and drink healthy, take supplements with folic acid, eat leafy green veg and nurture the life inside of you! Enjoy the pregnancy and don't worry as stress can also cause negative effects.

Congrats and good luck!
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