Dannzibelle
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She Is Making My Life Hell
Posted: 11-14-06 08:10am
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Yet again it's dom's mum making my life
hell. She calls every other day and trys
to bully my mum into making me get an
abortion saying i'm a sl*t, i'm going to
be a terriable mum and if I have this baby
she will get the social services to take
the baby away from me and put it in care.
Oh the joys. Every time ahe calls a fight
always erupts between me and my dad and he
seems to think he's the one in the middle
of everything h.E.L.L.O i.'m. T.H.E
p.R.E.Gn.A.N.T. O.N.E!!! I ended up in
my bedroom in tears and they both knew
that and didn't bother to come in and see
if i'm ok. Seriously can someone please
tell me the point
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 11-14-06 08:44am
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I think this could be considered
harrassment. I would think about calling
the authorities if I were you.
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Tayzia
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Posted: 11-14-06 08:45am
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There's no point. There are health forum
people in the world who think that they're
smarter than you. Honestly, not listening
to her, answering her phone calls, etc.
Will make you happier and give her the
message. Don't let yourself be affected
by her, especially in your present
hormonal state. 
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 11-14-06 08:47am
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I would call the police but I don't think
it's fair on dom, he's still living with
her and gets in an argument with her
everyday and it will just make matters a
million times worse. I just wish my dad
will stop blaming me whenever she calls
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diamondsz
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Posted: 11-14-06 08:48am
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Call the cops for harrasment, inform her
that if she doesnt stop you will be
pressing charges for harrasement trust
social service will laugh at her later
too!
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 11-14-06 08:50am
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It's not easy on him either way. At least
if she knows you have legal rights *not*
to be harrassed and will call the police,
she might back off a little. It's not his
fault she's losing her mind.
How much worse can it get if she's already
calling every day?
You deserve *not* to be harrassed. Stand
up for yourself, your parents, and your
child. Motherhood is about growing a
backbone. (sorry if that came off a bit
mean, but it's true.)
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 11-14-06 08:51am
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I just want her to leave me alone. She's
said she wants nothing to do with me or
the baby so why doesn't she just leave
off? Also she is convinced that I am
forcing dom to stay with me and have this
baby 
I just want to get on with my life and
raise my baby
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 11-14-06 09:55am
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Tell your mom to threaten her with the
police next time she calls. Your mom
doesn't deserve harrassment either,
because she has nothing to do with this.
Doing nothing is obviously getting you
nowhere.
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AlliE_18
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Posted: 11-14-06 10:10am
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What a health forum ugh cant your parents
just hang up the phone everytime she
calls? Or answer it and just put it on
the table or something so she can talk to
herself and waste her money lol
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Ingi
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Posted: 11-14-06 10:31am
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The very best way to deal with someone
like that is to say into the phone, "i
will listen when you make sense." and
gently hang the phone up.
But, seriously, by letting her rant and
rave, it is only feeding the situation.
Next time she calls, just explain to her
that you don't have to listen to that (or
your mom can say it) and until she has
something nice to say she shouldn't call
back - then hang up. Don't argue. Don't
fight. Just hang up. Don't let her get
to you.
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 11-14-06 14:08pm
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I try not to let her get to me but when
she starts to personally insult most of my
family it's a bit hard.
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Sail Away
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Posted: 11-14-06 14:26pm
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Okay
i've seen a lot of these posts from you
and I think and i'm seriously not trying
to be rude at all but I think you either
need to 1. Stop talking about it, or 2.
Actually do something about it. If you're
too scared to call the cops and to "make
it worse" then deal with her harrassing
you and stop complaining about it.
We can't do anything to help you if your
not willing to call the police, and until
you are ready to call the police so she
will quit bugging the crap out of you and
your poor mom & dad I think you should
stop b*tchin about it!!!
My apologies if you thought that was rude.
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 11-14-06 14:30pm
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Well yes I did think that was rude as all
I want to do was talk about it because my
parents refuse to and I want to call the
police but she has threatened to get the
social services on my parents and me when
my baby is born and to be honest I really
don't want that. I have been in tears for
most of last night and today because of
this and I have plently of people in my
life having a go at me so I really don't
need it here
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Posted: 11-14-06 14:32pm
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Does she have a reason to call social
services on you?
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 11-14-06 14:34pm
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Trust me when this women is determind
she'll think of any reason. But no she
has no real reason to have to call them
she's doing it out of spite because she
doesn't want dom to be with me anymore
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AlliE_18
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Posted: 11-14-06 14:36pm
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| dannzibelle
wrote: | | well yes I did think that
was rude as all I want to do was talk
about it because my parents refuse to and
I want to call the police but she has
threatened to get the social services on
my parents and me when my baby is born and
to be honest I really don't want that. I
have been in tears for most of last night
and today because of this and I have
plently of people in my life having a go
at me so I really don't need it
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listen she cant get anyone to take your
baby away from you unless you are doing
something majorly bad. Shes just trying
to scare u and you're letting her win.
Theres no way social services would take a
baby away for no reason, or just because
the grandparent is pissed off. I doubt
she will even try anything like that, its
all a big act to bully you into getting an
abortion. She cant do anything period!
Its your baby not hers, you dont have to
have anything to do with her! I feel
sorry for your bf having to live with such
a cow. Its sick how shes harrassing u
over this. Cant u hang up the phone
everytime she calls? Even unplug the
phone if she calls at a certain time of
the day? Totally ignore her!
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Sail Away
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Posted: 11-14-06 15:54pm
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| dannzibelle
wrote: | | trust me when this women is
determind she'll think of any reason.
But no she has no real reason to have to
call them she's doing it out of spite
because she doesn't want dom to be with me
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okay, unless they go to your house and see
a reason to take your baby away from you
then they can't do anything. My mom is a
social worker and I see sh*t like this
everyday.
They can't take your baby away for no
stupid reason, it has to be a good reason
when your considered as an unfit parent,
and I doubt the woman that is trying to
ruin your life is going to be able to do
that.
I'm sorry my comment was rude but it's
true...If your not going to do anything
about it then why bother saying anything
about it at all? Your just complaining
and wishing you could do something but
wont because she threatens you with social
services?
And if you are doing something bad and you
get caught, your baby will go to the
father, and if he dont want her then she
will go to your mom & dad.
I can also tell you the reasons why you
would get your baby taken away if you'd
like.
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ThriftyGal
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Posted: 11-14-06 15:59pm
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I would call the police, get her in
trouble for harassment, get a restraining
order, etc. Believe me, when sh*t gets
really sour it's going to be good to have
that on your side. Not doing it would be
stupid.
If you do this now then when in the future
she tries to do anything she will lose
credibility with stuff like that to her
name.
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AlliE_18
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Posted: 11-14-06 16:02pm
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Would your bf be ok about u going to the
cops about her tho? It puts him in a
difficult position, if he agrees with u,
you should do it, then she'll get a scare
when the cops turn up on her door step and
warn her to leave u alone! Haha kodak
moment
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 11-15-06 05:57am
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I called the police and they went to see
her last night. They can't do anything
because she denied everything and the only
proof is our word. As I thouht it did
make things worse she's thrown dom out and
is having the locks changed
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