To many people, this might not seem like
such a big problem. My boyfriend and I
can have sex / make love for hours and he
just can't come. Well, we only see each
other at weekends due to work commitments
and the first time we have sex is no
problem. But on subsequent times, he just
can't cum. He says he doesn't mind and
really enjoys the sex but I feel bad
because he makes me cum so much and I want
to return the favour! Also, and this
sounds really awful, it gets boring after
a while! I can't really cope with having
sex for more than 30 minutes or so. He's
very well endowed and it can get quite
sore, as well as a bit boring. Once i've
cum a few times, I just want to stop.
He says he's never been able to come from
a blow job, though masturbating on his own
is fine. Though he's stopped masturbating
since we've been seeing each other as he
says he'd never cum otherwise!
Also, sometimes the head of his penis gets
really over sensitive, almost painful.
Sometimes i'm giving him a blow job and he
flinches, like he's in pain. He says it's
not painful but just unbearably sensitive.
I wonder if the two things are
related?...
Also, he has a minor back problem. He's
had a bulging disc in his lumbar spine
area for a while now. He's getting physio
for it and it's getting better but I
wonder if this could be a factor?...
We have a wonderful sex life and are
really open with each other, talking about
what we like, don't like etc etc. I'd
love it if he could cum more often, if for
no other reason than we might be able to
get out of the house more often! He's
very highly sexed anyway and not being
able to cum just means he has a perpetual
erection. I'm pretty highly sexed myself
but am struggling to keep up!
Any advice, thoughts or suggestions are
gratefully received. Thanks
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Rocky52
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Posted: 11-20-06 13:54pm
Well for me, when me and my g/f are having
sex, it takes ages for me to ejaculate 2nd
time, thats why most men feel that they
can last longer if they masturbate before
sex. I think maybe masturbation has
something to do with his problem, theres
limits to the amount of times men can have
sex/masturbate, after that its pain. Also
u say he flinches, this is normal to an
extent (i dont kno exactly why) but ur
also sayin he says it uncomfortable so
that doesnt sound gd. Too much friction
can make the penis sensitive, u have to
remember the penis fills with blood and
swells up..Thus causing an erection..If
any part of your body swells up alot its
bound to be sore. I'm not an expert or
professional or anythin, just givin u my
opinion...Good luck
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mikal
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Posted: 11-24-06 03:34am
I'm no doctor but I think I can relate.
I've been with a few girls throughout the
current duration of my life but not one of
them has been able to make me cum. I've
tried all different kinds of positions,
and oral and handjob. Hell, i've even
tried some kinky stuff.
I'm not 100% sure, but somehow I think it
may be because i'm used to my own hand and
the feel. It could also be because I
don't use lube when masturbating, I like
the friction.
How long was he single before you met him,
and does he masturbate without lube?
Maybe you should try experimenting with
him... When a guy's been single for a
long time, he might start getting bored of
masturbating to "normal stuff" and maybe
start looking at what some may consider
"weird kinky stuff". Of course, ask him
first before you suddenly surprise him
with some kinky fun.
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prelude
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Posted: 11-27-06 08:50am
When guys masterbate they usually have a
tighter grip with hand than a vagina.
The tighter the grip the easier to cum !
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builder07
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Posted: 12-01-06 00:41am
I have trouble believing he's not
masturbating at all during the week; that
would be unusual for any guy, whether
involved with someone or not. I went
through a period in my 20s when I couldn't
cum and I found it was mainly due to
nervousness and lack of experience....The
older I got the better I got. And a lot
of guys can't cum from a blowjob....The
porno movies make it look so easy but they
actually film the cum sequence separately.
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mc11
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Posted: 12-28-06 21:46pm
That sounds like the same that happens to
me, although when my gf cums I just take
it out and make myself cum with the hand.
I also agree that being used to the hand
grip makes it so different when you get it
in the vagina, when it´s so wet and you
wear a condom its like feeling nothing at
all, even if your penis is large and you
take it in and out completely.
Just sucks a lot because cumming inside is
so nice.
A good advice anyways would be just, when
u are finished or tired of it, take his
penis out and start giving him a blow job
and masturbating him at the same time and
when u see he´s close then tell him to do
it, that´s what I do, is not the best but
untill I find a better
option...............
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