Joined: 23 Aug 2003 Posts: 18 Location: Houston Tx.
!!help Me Be a Better Boyfriend And Maybe a New Dad!!! Help Posted: 08-23-03 01:06am
Im 18 and have a 17 year old girlfriend.
We been date for a year and a couple
months. And this month she is late big
time. I dont need any talks of "your dumb
and stupid why did you do that" ill hear
that from my mom bet you. We are going to
take a p.Test soon to make it for sure.
?What should I do to give her surport and
let her know that we are going to work it
out? And to top it off what should I do
about my and her parents. My mom kicked
me out long time ago and not the best of
friends. Her parents are nice her mom had
a kid at 16 and her dad is pretty big...
How should we tell them?
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Dillon70
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Aug 2003 Posts: 5
Posted: 08-23-03 22:12pm
Well, it's time to stand up and face it.
Regardless of what happens now both of you
have a bigger responsibility to the baby.
His/her needs always have to come
first--no matter what! You have to be
there with her and tell her parents
together, that should show them that you
are trying to take responsibility for it.
Try to plan things with your girlfriend
so you can have an idea what you both want
when you tell her parents. Ask them for
their input on the situation, especially
since her mother was in the same as a
teen. They will be upset i'm sure but
you just have to take it and reassure them
and your g/f over and over that you are
going to be there. Best of luck to you
all
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Santacruz85
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Aug 2003 Posts: 18 Location: Houston Tx.
Haha Posted: 08-23-03 23:21pm
Haha patrick funny its cool... I left
myself open
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chynadoll34
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Sep 2003 Posts: 9 Location: Detroit,MI
Dont Worry...... Posted: 10-17-03 08:24am
Santacruz85
as a man you have it much harder than a
female, because the situation you are in
is difficult. I wish we had more men out
there to be scared and want to be there
for there kids. My boyfriend and I were
in the same situation and later on I found
out I wasnt pregant. My boyfriend was by
my side every step of the way. I dony
know you but whatever you do dont like
her down. Stay by even if you think
things are going to wrong. The best thing
to do if she is not pregant is to get on
the birth control pills.
Good luck!!
Chynadoll34
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dulin22
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Nov 2003 Posts: 7 Location: ms
Hi-been There,done That Posted: 11-18-03 16:37pm
My husband and I were worried about the
same thing about 8 yrs ago. I was way
under age to even be thinking about having
a baby. But hey,it happened and what
could we do about it? He wanted to be the
one to tell my mom and I was really
worried because she didnt like him very
much anyway.Of course,my mom had a fit and
his parents were ok with it. And now my
mom nor anyone else would have it any
other way.We have 2 kids ages 7 and 4 and
to give you a hint about one reason my mom
had a fit,now im only 22.Everything is
fine now.Not to scare you but it took my
mom and I about a year before we got back
on track.
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phil dennison
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Nov 2003 Posts: 71 Location: illinois
Posted: 11-19-03 03:05am
You will work this out.
If you ever wonder what your life will be
like in the future. You don't need physic
. You will be just like your parents.
You just said no way, look at the old
people,and you will see they are just like
there mom and dad.
Mom and dad no money. Me no money
mom and dad no school ,me no school
mom and dad kids at 16, me kids at 16
mom and dad bad job no job ,me no job-bad
job
don't pass it on
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raverbaby
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Nov 2003 Posts: 55 Location: P.A
Posted: 11-19-03 08:44am
Hey, whatever you do stick by her while
she is preg-o. I'm a single teen mom and
it's hard for my daughter. Some guys say
they will be there for the girl but after
they back out. Keep your word straight
with her. My mom kicked me out but we get
along great now. You can't always about
the parents anymore its you and what you's
want. Good luck!!!
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Mommy_2_b
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Oct 2003 Posts: 811 Location: Brookfield, N.S.
Posted: 11-19-03 10:03am
I agree with raverbaby - stay with her.
It is much harder being a teen mom and
having children by yourself than it is
with a boyfriend or husband supporting
you. Trust me im 19 and single and I dont
have parents to turn to. Stay with her
and good luck melissa
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ne-ne
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Nov 2003 Posts: 32 Location: PA
I Know Posted: 11-20-03 13:43pm
I dont know if you told them yet but he
loving about it. If they kick you out
they kick you out. I understand they are
your parents they will get over it. Trust
me mine parents did. Whatever you do dont
leave her because it will be hard for her
believe me its hard for me. So take your
responsible and show how good of a father
you can be and eventually they will come
around because they wont be able to stand
that they cant see their beautiful grand
child. Dont delay telling them the far
she getts pregnant the harder they will
take it. Cuz you are lying to them
i hope this help
ne-ne
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beccaliz
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Dec 2003 Posts: 119 Location: OC, cali
Just a Little Advice Posted: 01-03-04 01:03am
The only thing you can do is be right
there by her side and lover her with all
of your heart. If you really love her it
will show and will streingthen her. I
can see that your heart's in the right
place.
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