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My Thoughts. Posted: 11-24-06 03:01am
I consider myself pro-life for myself and
I am not happy that 'social' abortion is
so prolific but I would not wish it to be
outlawed. With that in mind, I was
thinking about the course that my life has
taken and whether the choices I have made
would be different if the circumstances
had been different.
For example, I had an unplanned pregnancy
when I was 24 but I was engaged to my
partner of 4 years and we were living
together and very much in love. I did
not even consider abortion. We got
married and are very happy and content
with our little family.
However, I was seeing a man before I met
my husband who was quite abusive to me but
I was young and stupid and thought he
would love me one day. The only birth
control we were using was condoms.
Fortunately, that method never failed us
but what if it had? I was in my final
year of university with no job, no money
and a boyfriend who would have scarpered
the minute he found out, I have no doubt
about that. If I am truly honest with
myself, I would have had to have
considered abortion very seriously. I
don't know if I would have gone through
with it but a part of me thinks I would
have...And that makes me feel very sad
i know that if I had had an abortion then
it would weigh on my mind for the rest of
my life because of my beliefs that I would
have killed a human being.
The point I am trying to make is that I
have been thinking very carefully about
this subject and I think it's sometimes
too easy to judge the women who have
abortions and thnk less of them. It's
easy to be judgemental when you have not
been in their position.
I still don't like abortion but I am
trying to better understand the women who
do it.
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Jules
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Posted: 11-24-06 03:26am
Or am I just being weak and corrupted by
society?
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diamondsz
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Posted: 11-24-06 12:13pm
purestgreen
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or am I just being weak and
corrupted by society?
not at all, you are putting yourself into
other womans shoes!!!
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diamond splinter
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Posted: 11-24-06 16:52pm
purestgreen
wrote:
or am I just being weak and
corrupted by society?
only you can answere that
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sandyallen
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Posted: 11-24-06 18:32pm
I kind of agree with diamondsz and I think
that you are being more understanding
about others stuations aand their is
nothing wrong with that, I too do not
believe that any child should not be brout
up around those types of situations, what
would have happened if he would have taken
it out on on an innocent child and believe
me, it happens.
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Meandering Away
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Posted: 11-25-06 13:59pm
sandyallen
wrote:
i kind of agree with
diamondsz and I think that you are being
more understanding about others stuations
aand their is nothing wrong with that, I
too do not believe that any child should
not be brout up around those types of
situations, what would have happened if he
would have taken it out on on an innocent
child and believe me, it happens
.
yeah sandy it happens all the time, its
called abortion.
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justgottaloveit
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Posted: 11-25-06 15:23pm
cowboys
wrote:
sandyallen
wrote:
i kind of agree with
diamondsz and I think that you are being
more understanding about others stuations
aand their is nothing wrong with that, I
too do not believe that any child should
not be brout up around those types of
situations, what would have happened if he
would have taken it out on on an innocent
child and believe me, it happens
.
yeah sandy it happens all the time, its
called
abortion.
i wasn't aware men could terminate their
pregnancies. @@
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diamondsz
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Posted: 11-25-06 17:17pm
cowboys
wrote:
sandyallen
wrote:
i kind of agree with
diamondsz and I think that you are being
more understanding about others stuations
aand their is nothing wrong with that, I
too do not believe that any child should
not be brout up around those types of
situations, what would have happened if he
would have taken it out on on an innocent
child and believe me, it happens
.
yeah sandy it happens all the time, its
called
abortion.
i wasnt aware abuse was called
abortion!!!!
Why not worry about the kids who actually
get abused arrgh u guys irritate me!
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Posted: 11-25-06 19:43pm
I am going to go out on a limb here...
I was sexuall molested for years by a
family member, I was forever chnaged and
scarred because of it.
I still hurt today for certain reasons,
which you can read about on the aboriton
support forum. I answered a question by a
poster, that is why it is there.
Being aborted would have hurt me far less
than the sexual abuse I endured as a 5
year old little girl.
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sandyallen
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Posted: 11-25-06 20:19pm
Thank you diamondsz and .Cairifairy,
whether it be abuse or sexually molested
it is all wrong, it should not be
happening and yet it still does and
continues to do so, unfortunately!
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Meandering Away
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Posted: 11-26-06 04:57am
diamondsz
wrote:
cowboys
wrote:
sandyallen
wrote:
i kind of agree with
diamondsz and I think that you are being
more understanding about others stuations
aand their is nothing wrong with that, I
too do not believe that any child should
not be brout up around those types of
situations, what would have happened if he
would have taken it out on on an innocent
child and believe me, it happens
.
yeah sandy it happens all the time, its
called
abortion.
i wasnt
aware abuse was called
abortion!!!!
no abuse is not called abortion but
abortion is abuse.
arrogant diamonz
wrote:
why not worry about the kids
who actually get abused arrgh u guys
irritate me!
first of all, what right have you got to
say we do not do things for the ones who
do get abused, oh thats it you people
think you are the only ones who do things
[ though I would lke to see how many of
you actually help kids ], you irritate me
with your attitude towards pro lifers, you
are so arrogant, like your beliefs are the
only one anyone can have.I had started to
believe the rubbish pro choice spout but
luckily I spoke to sane pro lifers and
realized that I was compromising my
beliefs something pro choice would never
ever do.Untill I came back on here and
read the abuse of pro life I was half way
there but I cannot be as judgemental as
you lot, I could not be as hypocritical
has pro choice are.I have finnaly realized
that pro choice is just me, me, me all you
lot care about is yourselves.I am glad I
came back one last time to see the
hypocrisy and arrogance of the so called
pro choicers on here.
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Jules
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Posted: 11-26-06 07:29am
I was sexually abused as a child too but I
don't feel that I would rather have been
aborted. I think that child abuse is a
separate issue to abortion; it's easy to
use hindsight and say, for example, that a
woman should not have had her child
because it ended up being abused. Child
abuse is the fault of adults and the child
should never be blamed; if it was not that
particular child then it will usually be
another.
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Jules
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Posted: 11-26-06 14:05pm
cowboys
wrote:
i am glad I came back one
last time to see the hypocrisy and
arrogance of the so called pro choicers on
here.
you leaving us .Cowboys?
just call me .Sherlock...
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diamond splinter
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Posted: 11-26-06 15:53pm
purestgreen
wrote:
cowboys
wrote:
i am glad I came back one
last time to see the hypocrisy and
arrogance of the so called pro choicers on
here.
you leaving us .Cowboys?
just call me
.Sherlock...
most pro lifers have left a few of us
still lurk but I doubt if there will be
any serious posting by pro lifers on this
board again we have a new home it
is a shame though because a lot of good
peeps have gone and as I say will only
lurk just to keep up with the site
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Jules
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Posted: 11-26-06 16:05pm
Where is this new home? Can I come and
play?
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sandyallen
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Posted: 11-26-06 17:06pm
That's strange and I was not even talking
about abortion, see how people like to add
things and twist things and I realize this
is the abortion debate but I was not
talking about abortion at that moment.
Abortion is not abuse, abortion at times
is necessary. Abortion can also be
choice.
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diamond splinter
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Posted: 11-27-06 13:55pm
purestgreen
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where is this new home?
Can I come and play?
i will pm you the link
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Jules
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Posted: 11-27-06 17:24pm
diamond splinter
wrote:
purestgreen
wrote:
where is this new home?
Can I come and play?
i will pm you the link
thanks!
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justgottaloveit
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Posted: 11-27-06 23:30pm
cowboys
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i am glad I came back one
last time
if we had a dollar every time we hear
this...
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Posted: 11-28-06 06:42am
justgottaloveit
wrote:
cowboys
wrote:
i am glad I came back one
last time
if we had a dollar every time we hear
this...
you would still owe your drug dealer and
pimp a fortune, merry christmas and may
you live in interesting times.
