Does Anyone Understand Me??

I'll try to give you a reply....................That hopefully isn't too lame?!

Depression is a very debilitating condition.............Ie you can't go it alone, you do need to tell someone you trust, so they can help you through it...............................Stop puttin on a front......................They can't help you if everything seems fine.............Why would they?

I admit, I do not know "the answer".......................Like most things it's probably a very individual thing.......................Meds for some, therapy for others............................And those with mild depression may only need an understanding ear and perhaps a boost in self esteem.................Getting back in the workforce, losing weight, gaining a new exciting interest etc

.....................If a perfect stranger cares.........................Just imagine how your family would feel..........................Give them the chance

I have severe depression (started mild when I was a preteen and exploded in my teen age years) and I know exactly what it feels like to feel that no one understands you. I'm sure that you probably feel that I don't even understand you, because i'm not you. Depression can be managed but it will never be gone completely. I take prozac to help me, but it took me a few tries to find the right medication for me, and everyone responds differently. Currently i'm ttc, so I have to be off my meds until after I am 3 months pregnant, which really sucks. Besides medication, it really helps to have an unbiased person to talk to. This doesn't neccessarily have to be a pschologist or psychiatrist, but it's hard to find someone who is unbiased and understanding otherwise. If you don't have a lot of money, check with your state, and you may be able to speak to a psychologist for free (these are not the greatest pschologists, but they are more understanding than family or friends and will give you someone to talk to). As for your husband, it is likely that he will never understand how you feel, even if he were to try. My husband tries to understand me when my depression acts up, but men's brains just seem to work differently, especially if they don't have depression. He just can't comprehend how my emotions make things so complicated. He just tells me, "it's simple, there is no problem, everthing is fine. Everything is ok." or if I do have a specific problem attached to my depression, he will come up with some simple blunt answer, and doesn't understand when I explain it won't work. My suggestion is that if you find yourself a counselor, to get your husband to come to a couple of sessions so they can explain how he can best help you to deal with your depression, because (i don't know if he means to be or not) he is being a real jerk and adding fuel to the fire by telling you that you are stupid. Also, if he refuses to come with you, I would wonder how much he truly cares about you.

Men don't understand what a women wants no matter how hard we try to get them to understand. Men are basic where women are complex. Like my husband tells me, and I laugh, is that I am high maintnance but not in a buy me...Buy me... Sort of way but in attention. I will get depressed over my weight quit often and all he says is your just fine to me who else do you have to impress. Well that isn't exactly the response I am looking for but he does not know how to express himself anyother way. What I am trying to say here is that men express them selves simply where alot of women would like to have more. We want the whistles, the gawking, putting us back on that trophy arm. Well that all fades away specially after children because there is so much more on their minds (responsibilty) men just think that women should just naturally know that they still think of us, still think we are pretty, and that everything is going to be ok if they still come home at night, kiss us goodnight and tell us I love you. But occasionaly it would be nice to have that first love feeling that you had in the beginning back once in awhile. Well girl sometimes if you want something just reach out and grab it. Try to let go of those feeling though I know it is hard, specially being pregnant and all, but it just pushes you farther from him and him from you. Talk to your ob about it and be honest. I went through a bout of depression my self and my ob was the one I spoke to and he was alot of help. Good luck to you and I hope I have been of some help sorry for rambling on.

I just wanted to thank you guys for responding!! After I give birth to my baby I will consider getting on some kind of pill to help me with my depression!! Yesterday was my daughter's b-day and we went to disney land and oh my god these 4 girls were staring at my husband and I got soo mad, and to make it worse they were trying to take a picture of him!!! I was sooo pissed that I took it out on him and I ruined the day!! I didn't even speak to him the whole way home!! One thing about my husband is he never flirts or stares at girls, I go crazy thinking that he'll leave me for someone who is skinny. No matter how much he tells me he loves me I never believe him!! I know i'm always depressed, but he told me one time that I didn't know what I was doing to him!! I accuse him a lot, I guess it's because I feel ugly all the time! My whole life I struggled with the way I looked!! I never really felt pretty, even when my family tell me that I am beautiful I don't believe them!! I've even thought of divorce, but I don't want to put my children through that whole mess!! But I really thank you all for you comments!!! I am doing my best to love myself and believe in my husband because we've been married ever since I was 17 now i'm 22 and I pray that things we'll get better and we'll try the best we can for our children!!! Once again thanks!!!