Dumb Question From An Insecure Male Posted: 02-01-04 12:56pm
Hello,
first off, I apologize because this
question is not immediately related to
female sexual health. I do sincerely
respect the function of this forum in that
way and do not wish to compromise it.
However, I have a question related to a
big male insecurity. You guessed it,
penis size. This is more of a curiousity
question. I'm about average down there
(5 3/4 to 6 inches depending on excitement
level and proportional girth). I've read
in tons of places that size doesn't matter
and it's how you use it. Having said
that, all sexual position books describe
positions that will allow deeper
penetration or make the male feel bigger
inside the woman, implying this is
definitely a good thing. Likewise, my
past girlfriend preferred positions that
she said made penetration deeper. I
asked her straight out whether a longer
penis would feel better. She sheepishly
conceded that it would. This was near
the end of the relationship that I asked
this so she might've been trying to piss
me off by saying this. So my question
is, what is the ideal penis size? It's
likely different for everyone woman, and
the answer won't change what i've got, but
i'm fascinated to know. If I had to
guess I would say bigger than average but
not big enough to cause pain. I'd
appreciate a few thoughtful replies
Htes
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Jennifer2003
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Well... Posted: 02-04-04 00:35am
Honestly I think that 8 inches is perfect.
But I would take a 5 inch guy that knew
what he was doing over a clueless 8 incher
any day. Actually, width matters more
than length. Hope it helps.
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nikki_caro
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Posted: 02-04-04 12:48pm
All girls' opinions are different. I do
not prefer big ones at all. 8 inches is
not for me. I was with a guy like that
and I never liked it. My hubby is about
the same as you and I love it, I wouldnt
have him any bigger. He asked if he
should be bigger and my answer was no, I
love him like that and hes the perfect
size. I think it depends on what woman
you are with. The right one will love it
as is and no...Size does not matter at
all. I think you are fine and maybe the
girl you were with was a bit loose, so she
could not enjoy it as much. But I think
your size is average and its perfect!
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Jaydensmommy
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Joined: 28 Jan 2004 Posts: 1705 Location: Wisconsin
Posted: 02-08-04 14:23pm
I have to agree with nikki....Its not
about the size. It is about how the man
uses it. Some womens perspective of it
is different.
~sara~
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kitty_55
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Joined: 18 Aug 2003 Posts: 1473 Location: Canada
Posted: 02-08-04 17:35pm
Size does not matter!!!! Most people say
it does but honestly it doesnt. It only
matters if they know how to "work it" lol.
I always perfre thickness over legnth.
Alison xoxo
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wilsam
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Joined: 09 Feb 2004 Posts: 32 Location: England
Posted: 02-12-04 06:03am
Alot of women like myself cannot take a
big penis without experiencing pain.I
would say you have an average size penis
and she probably did say it just to get at
you.
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2ferano
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Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 02-16-04 02:32am
Size does matter! No, one of us cannot
say that it does or does not matter,
becuase it is only a personal preference.
For me, it definately does. But I must
agree with the person in the first post.
If you have a nine inch penis and do not
know how to please a woman then what is
the point? I am not a promiscuous person
or anything, but I have had small men and
large men. The largest was between nine
and a half and ten inches. Now, I have
also had small and large who did and did
not know what they were doing. Size does
not matter if you cannot use it. But in
my eyes, even if you are the best person
in bed in the whole entire world, you have
to have something to work with. I mean,
if your penis feels like a long finger,
then why don't I just please myself?
Sorry if that was too graphic, but that is
how I feel. I need to know with
certainty that I am making love to a man,
not a finger or whatever.
Anyway, point being, your penis size
sounds fine, I have seen much smaller.
And yes, a lot of women cannot have a
large penis because of pain and infection
and such. Although my perfect length
would be about 8 or 8.5 with good girth,
technically I should not go over 7 because
of infections. But, that is what I like
regardless.
Anyway, you will find someone who loves
you for you and your penis will please her
just fine. And maybe you two can use an
occasional "toy" for variety.
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lilbit08
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Posted: 02-18-04 19:29pm
Dont worry about penis size, if shes not
happy then she maybe she was loose. I
always thought that a good position is
with the girl on her back and you hold her
legs around your neck, that certainly adds
length. Another thing is do it from the
side with her on her side and you doing it
as if it were doggy style. Sorry about
being so graphic but you asked
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2ferano
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Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 02-18-04 21:22pm
Loose, huh? When a girl is "loose" and
has not ever given birth, if she abstains
for one week, her muscles will contract
back to the size they were before having
sex. So, "loose" is only possible to be
a temporary thing. So, if she was
"loose" it would be because you two had a
lot of sex, which would loosen her
muscles, or she was sleeping with someone,
but I doubt that.
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wilsam
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Joined: 09 Feb 2004 Posts: 32 Location: England
Posted: 02-19-04 02:36am
You can do exercises to help the
muscles.Just clench it and hold for a few
seconds and let go,you can also do it when
you go to the toilet wee a bit then hold
it then carry on.It's good because you can
do the exercises any where and noone knows
you are doing it.It may help anyway.
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sdwood2
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Posted: 02-20-04 18:53pm
Size does not mater
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2ferano
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Posted: 02-20-04 20:45pm
You mean, size does not matter to you!
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aimee
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Size Is Not Important...i Can Prove It! Posted: 02-29-04 23:04pm
Relax friend...
The reason your woman wants you to go
deeper has nothing to do with size.
Assuming your facing her in some way and
as you happily try to accomodate her and
go "deeper" your pushing your pelvic bone
against her clitorous. This induces
climax in lots and lots of women. That's
what she really wants. Maybe she doesn't
realize herself, I don't know. But I do
know that after the first two inches
inside a womans vagina she doesn't feel
much. If you bump into her cervix (easy
to do in a man - behind position) she may
feel that and not like it...But that's it.
Good book to recomend "intended for
pleasure" by ed wheat, md. See page 87.
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2ferano
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Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 03-01-04 13:24pm
No one person can prove that size does or
does not matter because it is a matter of
preference. And I don't know who has
been lying to you, but you can feel way
more than the first two inches! And
maybe she does like his pelvic bone on her
clitoris or maybe she just wants it to go
deeper! I am sure that she realizes
exactly what it is that she wants. She
doesn't need someone else telling her.
Size does not matter to a lot of women but
it does matter to a lot women.
Every women (and man) likes different
things sexually and no one can say what
someone else wants or likes. He will
find someone who absolutely loves his five
inches! But some women just want more!
Reading books and such to improve your sex
life is fine and can be helpful, as long
as you keep in mind that everyone likes
something different. You can read as
many books as you like, but if you start
living by them, you may end up sucking in
bed. Confidence is one thing (and is
necessary) but believing that you are "the
man" and that you can please any woman
will probably fail you. Simply because
to one woman you may be "the man" and do
exactly what she likes when she likes it,
but to another woman those same things may
turn her off!
Honestly, do not worry about your size
because five inches is going to make
whomever you end up with for the long haul
very happy. As you have read above size
really does not matter to a lot of women.
It is probably about a 50/50 ratio. So
there are plenty of women out there who
will be quite pleased with you. And the
other 50% will either learn to love it(if
they are worth it, and care about you) or
if it is that big of a deal they will find
a way around it.
I know that not everyone agrees with me
and that is absolutely fine, but no one
can say for sure that size does or does
not matter, or "prove" it. It is a
matter of preference.
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wilsam
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Joined: 09 Feb 2004 Posts: 32 Location: England
Posted: 03-02-04 04:26am
I don't understand what htes(questioner)
has to worry about really it's not like he
is exactly small anyway.My man is about 8
inches and we can only do certain
positions as it hurts.Everybody has
something about their bodies they don't
like,the reason I don't is because other
people have scars,birth marks on their
face and have birth defects so just be
grateful with what you have been given and
try to make the most of it.There are so
many sex shops that giving or receiving
pleasure should not be a problem for
anyone small,medium or large.
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RubyFerrera
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You'll Just Have to Work a Little Harder, That's All... Posted: 03-05-04 12:04pm
I like a nice big one for aesthetic
reasons--- however, the women in here that
tell you it's how you use it are 100%
right on. What is a turnoff however, is
a guy that stresses over it. Take that
energy and go buy yourself some kama sutra
books or tasteful yet slightly raunchy
porn videos and get to work! Be a good
lover. Small peter or not, they're
toughest to leave.
Ruby
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htes
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Calm Down Ladies Posted: 03-10-04 07:55am
Hi there,
i'm the guy who originally posted here.
Man, some people are really up in arms
about this issue actually, the whole
"insecure male" line was kinda tongue in
cheek. I really don't obsess that much
but was a tad bit concerned and also
interested in the responses I would get.
I bet we've all played the game as kids
where we pass a story around the room and
see how it changes as it gets back to you.
Well, as the posts continued I became
more insecure in everyone's eyes and my
penis actually got shorter! Ha! Thanks
gals.
Htes
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2ferano
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Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 03-10-04 08:40am
Sorry htes, I was trying to make you feel
better! I mean, yeah, I like a big one,
but there are a ton of girls who prefer an
average one. (you are not small at all.)
and as long as you have confidence and
know how to use it, (which I am sure you
do) you have nothing to worry about!
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wilsam
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Joined: 09 Feb 2004 Posts: 32 Location: England
Posted: 03-10-04 18:36pm
Htes you have nothing to feel insecure
about the average erect penis size is 5/6
inches.Everyone has something about them
that they would change but believe me you
really have nothing to worry about just
enjoy what you do have and be grateful.
