Confused?!? Too Much of An Age Gap?? Posted: 11-26-06 12:53pm
Hi, I am a 20 year old female. A couple
months ago I started to like a guy that is
about seven years older than me. We
constantly talked and he flirted with me a
lot. We got really close to each other.
And I thought that he really liked me
until he suddenly said what he was doing
was wrong. This left me with a broken
heart. But the thing that confuses me is
that we still talk a lot, he still flirts
with me, and it seems like he still cares
about me a lot. What's his deal? Is the
age gap too big? I really like him and I
think that he is the one, but I don't know
what to do.
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 387 Location: Canada
Posted: 11-30-06 08:52am
At my age i'd say no, but at your
age.................A very impressionable
age...............I'd say
yes...............If only a little
bit...............He did the right thing
by backing off...................But by
hanging around he's giving you mixed
signals....................Demand an
answer either way you can take it from
there.
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stavrous523
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Dec 2006 Posts: 4 Location: san diego, ca
Posted: 12-01-06 00:59am
I recently went on a few dates with a
woman 10 years older than me (i'm 28, she
is 3. I've got to be
honest here, I think this is too much of a
difference. I think it is different when
the male is older though... Seem to
notice more of those types of
relationships.
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Sereena
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jan 2006 Posts: 33
Posted: 01-14-07 14:05pm
I'm also 20 and dating someone almost 7
years older than me. Trust me, the age
difference is fine. Neither of us notice
it. I have no idea what his deal is, and
quite frankly I think something is wrong
if he thinks flirting with a 20 year old
is wrong. Does he think he's taking
advantage of you or has he been
brainwashed by his peers to think it's
wrong? It's possible he doesn't want to
lead you on if he doesn't think anything
will come of it. But I get the feeling he
thinks there's too much of a mental age
gap or the two of you are in different
places in life and it just wouldn't work
out. Definitely ask him what he thinks if
you haven't by now. If he's going simply
based on chronological age, then forget
him, he's too immature/ignorant to handle
it.
. I've got to be
honest here, I think this is too much of a
difference. I think it is different when
the male is older though... Seem to
notice more of those types of
relationships.