Is This It?

Hi there,

it does sound as though you may be suffering a bout of depression. I am sorry to hear you are going through such a difficult time. It's really awful when you get to a point in your life where you feel something is so bad that life is not worth living, but only you can change that. You need to be strong and make some severe changes in your life if you want to be happy. From reading your post I have the assumption you are a little suicidal, and let me tell you that is not the answer. You were given this life to make a difference in the world, so don't throw it away. You are just as important part of this world as the next person, you are no lesser just because you have a problem that seems hard to fix.

Have you ever tried a healthy eating plan ?? I don't mean one from a dietician or doctor, I wouldn't blame you for not wanting to see one of them, I doubt I even would myself. I had major weight trouble when I was about 16, and I hated myself but I decided that only I could do something about it. I am now 30 years old, and I am at my ideal weight, i'm not overweight but i'm not underweight. I eat only foods that are either low in fat or contain an average amount of fat, I never ever eat high fat foods. I eat heaps of vegetables, white meat, fruit, cheese, eggs and lots of bread. I also love different breakfast cereals which are usually very low in fat. The funny thing is that all these things are so yummy, you don't need to go on some diet where you have to eat things that are disgusting. All the right things are right there in front of you. Being active will help you lose weight three fold. Sitting around the house does nothing. I guess you need to think about it like this, if you are eating the right things and becoming more active, you can't get any bigger, you having nothing to lose apart from the weight. I know your probably thinking all this is easier said than done, and your right. But nothing in life is easy. It wasn't meant to be. Sometimes when I start thinking about how hard my life is, I only have to sit and watch documentaries on people in other countries such as nigeria, where people are still today being stoned to death for having sex outside of marriage. Or the kurds who were gassed to death. People living with cancer, multiple sclerosis, aids, or those who have been in terrible accidents and can't walk anymore. My situation seems so insignificant.

Good luck.

Thanks for writhing back the thing is i'm underweight but I need to lose more weight altough I am underweight I have still put in a little weight and I really can't stand it I know this may sound stupid but its ruining my life. I used to be so happy and outgoing but that person is gone. I have thought about what if I wan't here anymore but I don't know if I would actually have the balls to do it. I know what you mean about other people who are in so much worse situations than me I feel so mean to be thinking about myself when they are surrfing i'm sorry but thanks for replying anyway.

I have had the feelings you have.
I stumbled threw always trying harder each time to get threw.
And this day iam glad I did!!!
It is so hard at any age to deal with those things you are.
Is there a school counsler that you could talk to?
I was never brave enough at your age but now I think it would of helped me
alot!!
So try that if you can and there is alot of pressure that builds up at that age and you are dealing with alot.Surround yourself with people
that know you and tell yourself you are important.Becuse you are!!!!

Lostoyou: sounds like you might really need to talk to someone. Maybe your depression is caused by your fixation of diet & body image. It sounds like you have an eating disorder. I always thought that when I lost weight I would be happy... Well I lost weight and still am not happy. I would love to be boney & underweight. I guess since I was heavy my whole life, to me, being underweight is beautiful. I am in therapy trying to deal with that and other problems. I really hope you can get some help at your age. I am 32 and still dealing with it. Good luck and please talk to someone.