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Sail Away
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Posted: 11-30-06 02:54am
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Okay, so a few of you know that my
childrens father passed away before bray
was born and that his mom & dad are
complete psycho's and won't leave me
alone. It was all cool for a while and I
didn't hear from them at all, and then I
got a phone call tonight from my daughters
parents saying that he had got their
number and keeps calling them and
harrasing them. They are changing their
number and they moved out of state (thank
god) because i'm seriously not sure what
they would of done if they still lived
here, and I am really scared guys.
Cole's dad called me saying he wanted to
see brayden and had rights to because he
is the grandpa and etc and I told him he
has no rights at all and if he comes near
us I have my shotgun waiting for his face.
I've called the police before and they
seem to do nothing so I figured i'd fend
for myself.
I called my mom, and she said that if he
tries anything and ends up coming in our
house then I am allowed to shoot him, and
I really do have a gun in my closet! So
if he breaks in I am really going to show
him what's up, but it scares me because
what if brayden was around and seen all of
it? That would be really bad. Cole's
dad has beaten me up before, when I was
pregnant with miliana and he went to jail
for a few months because he pulled a knife
on me on tried to stab me. We took
photos of everything on my body that he
done and took him to court.
I mean i'd let him see brayden if it
wasn't for the simple fact that he's so
crazy...And I know cole would have not
wanted him to see our kids .A.T. .A.L.L.
Chris and I are thinking about moving out
of state, and I know we just moved in here
but I want our family to be safe, and if
anyone hurt brayden I seriously would kill
somebody, it makes me wanna cry thinking
about my child (or any child) being hurt
by a psychotic freak.
I wouldn't be so afraid except for the
fact that he's taken his other son's kid
from his girl before and kept her on the
run for almost a year and ended up giving
her back. He got arrested for it but
wasn't even in jail for very long.
That's kidnapping! Our cops are so
crooked here and i'm positive he is good
friends with a lot of them.
What should I do? This is so crazy and I
should not have to be worrying about this
stuff. I am so scared I am really
thinking about quitting my college courses
and my jobs just so I will be with brayden
24/7.
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 11-30-06 03:04am
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Holy sh|t, .D.
How did he track your daughter's family
down? And how did he get your number?
Jesus, what a stalker. Does he live in
the same state as you? And is there any
way to get a temporary restraining order
against him, since he has a past history
of assault against you?
Regardless of whether he might know them
or have friends in the force, I think you
should try calling the police and see what
your options are. Bolt your doors, make
sure you and .Chris are able to protect
yourselves and .Bray (make sure he can't
get to the gun!  ), and try to
maintain as best you can. Maybe consider
staying with your mom for a few days if he
doesn't know where she lives, or sending
.Bray there until things calm down. Or
hell, maybe you should hire a lawyer?
I'm so sorry this is happening to you hon!
Keep us updated, okay?
if this is a touchy subject I completely
understand, but how did .Cole die?
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 11-30-06 07:29am
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Damn .D! I agree with everything laura
said.I don'tt hink you should quit your
college courses though.Don't they have
alike a daycare there or something so you
can bring him with you?How much longer do
you have in college?Maybe you could get
transferred to another college. Just be
real careful.You should file an injunction
on him and see how that goes. He's done
plenty to get into trouble and I can't
believe they didn't keep him in jail
longer for what he did!Hope everything
gets better!
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SamanthaM
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Posted: 11-30-06 09:47am
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He sounds like a psycho. If you weren't
in school i'd say that you should move to
another state. I can't believe they
didn't put him in jail for longer. That's
crazy. If you want to talk i'll be on aim
all day.
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Sunflower_pie81
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Posted: 11-30-06 10:22am
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Ok you know you can get a restraning order
on him. That way if he does come around
then you call the cops on his ass. If
you do shoot him you had better have a lot
of people around as witnesses....Because
you in for a long ass time of defending
yourself if you shoot him and dont' have
any witnesses.
Just put out an order on him and be done
with it.
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SamanthaM
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Posted: 11-30-06 10:40am
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A restraining order isn't going to mean
anything if he comes to her house and
hurts her, or takes brayden. Sure he
would go to jail after the fact, but that
doesn't mean he can't do something.
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hopefulmjz
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Posted: 11-30-06 11:24am
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Yikes .D, i'm sorry you're going through
such a difficult time. I can't even
imagine how you feel. Do you know of
anyone that could maybe stay with you guys
for awhile, maybe someone with a lot of
self defense under their belt? I would
suggest a dog, but .I don't think .I'd
trust a dog with my child if .I didn't
know the dog, and the dog didn't know my
child...And a puppy....Hmm not exactly
gonna be much help. But maybe a
friend/family has a dog you know really
well that you could borrow to scare him
from coming? That's a sticky situation,
especially since you've already contacted
police and they haven't done anything.
Have you contacted the city guys, or have
you gone out to the county or state boys
perhaps? Let me know if you need
anything, or .I could possibly be of some
help.
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Ingi
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Posted: 11-30-06 12:02pm
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Make sure you have everything possible to
protect you and your son. A restraining
order is the first place to start. I do
not believe in gun violence.
Statistically, you will never get to your
gun by the time anything may happen
though. And you aren't 'free and clear'
if you shoot him in your house. You will
still have to defend youself with the
authorities - but you have more rights if
you shoot someone on your property/in your
home than you'd have if you shot someone
on the streets.
Change your phone number. That is the
easiest way to get someone to stop
contacting you. Move out of state, if you
want. But continue to have an
anti-harrasment stalking order in place in
that state so if he does contact you, he
can be thrown in jail. Stalking orders
(in my state) are different, in that the
stalker is given more jail time. 
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Sunflower_pie81
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Posted: 11-30-06 13:46pm
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I didnt' say that it's going to stop him
from doing anythign because obvously(sp)
he isnt' worried about going to jail
because he has already been there a few
times. But there are laws that come
along with a restraining order. These
laws will help you in the long run. He
already has a record for violence and
there is only so many times that he can
get away with a slap on the wrist.
Change your phone number to an unlisted
one and also chagne your cell number and
take the proper precautions.
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Sail Away
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Posted: 11-30-06 15:36pm
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| ayamiyaki
wrote: | holy sh|t, .D.
How did he track your daughter's family
down? And how did he get your number?
Jesus, what a stalker. Does he live in
the same state as you? And is there any
way to get a temporary restraining order
against him, since he has a past history
of assault against you?
Regardless of whether he might know them
or have friends in the force, I think you
should try calling the police and see what
your options are. Bolt your doors, make
sure you and .Chris are able to protect
yourselves and .Bray (make sure he can't
get to the gun! ), and try to
maintain as best you can. Maybe consider
staying with your mom for a few days if he
doesn't know where she lives, or sending
.Bray there until things calm down. Or
hell, maybe you should hire a lawyer?
I'm so sorry this is happening to you hon!
Keep us updated, okay?
if this is a touchy subject I completely
understand, but how did .Cole
die? |
bray would for sure not be able to get the
gun!!!!!!
And for everyone saying a restraining
order, i've already done it and it does
nothing. He comes around, gets arrested
and gets back out, starts sh*t again! I
already have a lawyer from the last times
we took him to court over the brayden
battle, my daughters family knows all
about him but they're pretty safe
considering they are out of state.
He lives in the same town as me!! I can't
even go to the grocery store without him
following me, so it's gotten to a point
where I won't even take brayden with me
anywhere I go. It's pretty sad I can't go
anywhere feeling safe.
Nothing has happend today though, I have
stayed home all day. It's also 22 degrees
outside and there's snow and ice! so maybe that'll
keep him away for a day or so. I swear
i'd kill him guys. It angers me off so
bad that he thinks he can do this to
people. How can people actually be this
crazy!? He's mental guys!
And to your question, he committed
suicide.
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 11-30-06 15:42pm
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| dalicialovesyou
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nothing has happend today though, I have
stayed home all day. It's also 22
degrees outside and there's snow and ice!
so maybe that'll
keep him away for a day or so. I swear
i'd kill him guys. It angers me off so
bad that he thinks he can do this to
people. How can people actually be this
crazy!? He's mental guys!
And to your question, he committed
suicide. |
i just bought a stun gun off of ebay,maybe
you should get one? It might help!
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taya
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Posted: 11-30-06 17:08pm
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D, i'm really sorry this happened to you,
hon. My friend was adopted, and for a
long time after she was born, her
biological father (who had denied
paternity) started harassing her family.
He demanded to see her, demanded to send
them to court to try and get custody, but
it was really a big mess.
I can't believe that the police aren't
doing anything about it, that's insane. I
don't think that it's right that you feel
so threatened that you have to move out of
state, I think they should throw his ass
in jail. He has no right to be doing what
he's doing.
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Sail Away
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Posted: 11-30-06 17:35pm
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| taya
wrote: | d, i'm really sorry this
happened to you, hon. My friend was
adopted, and for a long time after she was
born, her biological father (who had
denied paternity) started harassing her
family. He demanded to see her, demanded
to send them to court to try and get
custody, but it was really a big mess.
I can't believe that the police aren't
doing anything about it, that's insane.
I don't think that it's right that you
feel so threatened that you have to move
out of state, I think they should throw
his ass in jail. He has no right to be
doing what he's
doing. |
i know girl it really does suck, but I
guess it'll take blowing his face off for
them to realize he is serious about his
threats. I know he's gonna try
something...I'm just waiting for it to
happen.
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taya
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Posted: 11-30-06 17:38pm
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Grrr, the more I think about this, the
more it angers me off. Watch me stomp
down to missouri to kick some ass. I am
that hormonal right now.
You shouldn't be waiting in trepidation
for someone to come threaten you and your
family. This is ridiculous.
*hugs to you*
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SamanthaM
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Posted: 11-30-06 17:41pm
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| taya
wrote: | grrr, the more I think about
this, the more it angers me off. Watch
me stomp down to missouri to kick some
ass. I am that hormonal right now.
You shouldn't be waiting in trepidation
for someone to come threaten you and your
family. This is ridiculous.
*hugs to you* |
you are so pregant..Lmao. Eating funny
things and being all hormonal!
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taya
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Posted: 11-30-06 17:41pm
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no comment.
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SamanthaM
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Posted: 11-30-06 17:42pm
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| taya
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no comment. |
did you think I was trying to be mean?
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taya
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Posted: 11-30-06 17:42pm
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Lol, no! I'm just avoiding the 'p' word.
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Posted: 11-30-06 18:06pm
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D that's reallllly crappy. But if you do
get a restraining order and he violates it
or something, then he will get in more
trouble than if he just bugs you and
didn't have one. I honestly wouldn't
know what to do in your position if the
cops were that unhelpful. I know when I
got a restraining order on someone they
took me very seriously (the situation
itself wasn't even that serious) and I
just had to go to the station once and he
got hell. I'm not sure how the school
semesters are divided where you live but
here in canada it's almost time for second
semester for both highschools and colleges
and universities. I would really want to
leave if I was you, if the first semester
is almost over maybe you could still leave
when it's done without losing the credits
you already worked for?
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LaurensEntourage
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Posted: 12-01-06 23:55pm
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It's totally not worth it to shoot
someone. Even if you are totally in the
right it's expensive to shoot someone,
lol. You have to go to court pretty much
no matter what and defend yourself and
it's ridiculous.
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