I Really Messed Up But Couldnt Know It Posted: 02-02-04 09:49am
when my girlfriend and I started to date I
did not tell her right away that I had had
unprotected sex with someone else before
her, I did tell her though. She recently
developed symptoms of hpv, or genital
warts. Of course she is blaming me since
I was the only partner she has ever had.
If I have it I didnt know at the time.
And when I went to get tested at planned
parenthood they told me that there was no
test for me to see if they have it or
not.
She now feels like she cant trust me and I
have basicly ruined her life. She says
she still loves me but I dont think we
will ever get back together.
I am wanting to know from a womens point
of view, how would you react, and what
could I have done differently.
I wanted this girl to be my wife one day
and to know that I broke her heart makes
me want to die.
Heartbroken
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san54
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Dec 2003 Posts: 227 Location: Virginia
Unprotected Sex Posted: 02-02-04 10:23am
With so many stds out there and so many
diseases, always,always,always,always have
protection. I would not trust you either.
She may eventually forgive you, but give
her time.
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Jennifer2003
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Feb 2004 Posts: 12
Dear Brokenhearted Posted: 02-03-04 20:04pm
I had to respond to your posting. The
very same thing happened to me. I lost my
virginity to my boyfriend (ex now) and two
weeks later I develped hpv symptoms. He
had told me that he had never had
unprotected sex before and I believed him.
I felt disgusted and betrayed. I didn't
love him, and our relationship wasn't
worth repairing. So I broke up with him.
I haven't slept with anyone since then (it
happend about five months ago). I'm
terrified about what I might contract from
someone else and the whole experience
eliminated my sex drive. The thing of it
is I never told him that he gave it to me.
I was worried that he might confide in
one of his big mouthed friends and peopel
would start talking about. I know that is
kinda selfish, but I don't really care.
It sounds like you really love your girl.
If I really loved my boyfriend and saw a
future, I could see me working through it
with him. Get back to me...I'll answer
any other questions if you need me to
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 02-18-04 01:41am
Well, to the above post, you should tell
him, because he may not even know! He
can go and give it so someone else without
even knowing it. There are a lot of
std's that show few or no symptoms
especially in men.
This is what you could have done
differently: use protection!
Obviously you knew there was a chance you
were infected with something because you
had previous sexual experiences. She,
however, was with you and only you and now
she has to pay for that for the rest of
her life. I doubt you gave it to her on
purpose and I am sure that she knows that
you didn't mean to, but that doesn't make
it go away. If you two are in love then
maybe you will get back together, but it
will take her a heck of a lot to forgive
you.
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TX_momy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jan 2004 Posts: 120 Location: TX
Hi Posted: 05-21-04 10:33am
You ask for the truth here it is... I
will react the same way... What would be
better ? Use some condoms and you will
not get all kinds of nasty things . Btw
did you tell her that you want her to be
your whife one day? This is just a little
tip for you, she might rethink that but
don't you lie to her if you dont really
mean it please don't break her heart you
already gave her some nasty hpv.
