Hello all,
i've been divorced now for eight months.
I'm the father of an eight year old boy as
well. My relationship with my now ex-wife
was rocky from the begining, but we went
ahead anyway. We both had our demons we
were fighting. As it ended up we both
adjitated each others bad side. When I
walked out of the courtroom there was a
sence of relief. It didn't last!
I ended up with half custody, she got no
equity in the house and only took the car
she drove away in. Since then i've
addressed the baggage i'd taken in. I
sought profesionall help through a
psychiatrist (sp?). He put me on a
sleep/anti-depressant and things have
dramatically improved!
Here's my quandry. While we were married
she'd cheated on me once. Even now I
still here about the fact I like to work
on my own vehicals. Shoot, I bought a car
to restore just to keep me on the straight
and narrow after we were divorced! We
more than likely should never have gotten
married in the first place, but I still
live with the regrets! I can look at it
logically, but it does me no good. My
heart doesn't listen. I have all the
potential to be better off, but some part
of me can't let go of those hopes and
dreams I had nine plus years ago. Is this
normal??? If so what's the cure?
Thanks for taking time to read my
unloading,
-"lemmy"
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Re: Just An Intro Posted: 01-11-07 13:06pm
lemmy
wrote:
hello all,
i've been divorced now for eight months.
I'm the father of an eight year old boy as
well. My relationship with my now
ex-wife was rocky from the begining, but
we went ahead anyway. We both had our
demons we were fighting. As it ended up
we both adjitated each others bad side.
When I walked out of the courtroom there
was a sence of relief. It didn't last!
I ended up with half custody, she got no
equity in the house and only took the car
she drove away in. Since then i've
addressed the baggage i'd taken in. I
sought profesionall help through a
psychiatrist (sp?). He put me on a
sleep/anti-depressant and things have
dramatically improved!
Here's my quandry. While we were married
she'd cheated on me once. Even now I
still here about the fact I like to work
on my own vehicals. Shoot, I bought a
car to restore just to keep me on the
straight and narrow after we were
divorced! We more than likely should
never have gotten married in the first
place, but I still live with the regrets!
I can look at it logically, but it does
me no good. My heart doesn't listen. I
have all the potential to be better off,
but some part of me can't let go of those
hopes and dreams I had nine plus years
ago. Is this normal??? If so what's
the cure?
Thanks for taking time to read my
unloading,
-"lemmy"
hi lemmy, I know my reply is coming a
month later than you posted, but I figure
maybe you're still around.
I think time will heal your wounds, I
really do. You need to be strong and
pour your energy toward that young boy of
yours, trust me when I say that he needs
you, his father, to be there for him.
Explain things to him the way he can
understand things, but don't be negative
about his mom. Try to keep things
positive and my bet is you'll both come
out of this thing stronger and with a
great relationship!
