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Medical Vs. Surgical Abortion! Need More Info And Help Pls.
Posted: 12-09-06 20:39pm
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Hi there. I recently found out I was
around 6 weeks pregnant. My partner and
I have decided we are not ready for this
baby, so we're getting it terminated. I
live in a country where abortion is legal
so I went to a clinic to set up an
appointment and such. The doctor asked
me what kind of process I would want,
medical or surgical.
Medical abortion is when they give me
medicine(?)on one day, I go home, get
contractions and whatnot, then go back.
Then I take another one and then I bleed
it out. (i think that's how it goes
anyway).
Surgical is when I go there, and they give
me local anesthetics and then take the
fetus out with some aparatus.
My question is, what do you guys think is
the safest way? I live at home, and I do
not want my family to know. They said
with surgical, the process takes a few
minutes, and I just have to stay there for
a couple of hours after. But I am not
entirely sure if this is safe or not.
The medical route seems painful, and my
parents might find out. And I want to do
this with the least amount of pain as
possible. And is the number of women
getting complications afterwards really
high?
If anyone can give me more information, or
advice with this, I would really
appreciate it. I'm having it done in 2
weeks time and am really scared.
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Posted: 12-09-06 22:54pm
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My opinion if you have totally made up
your mind that this is what you want is to
go surgical because it does not take long.
You do not have to go back except for a
follow-up appt. You can pm .Cairifairy
as she works in an abortion clinic and can
give you further information on this. You
will be experiencing some cramping and
will probably need to go home or somewhere
and rest for the day but like I said, you
should pm .Carifairy.
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Posted: 12-10-06 00:58am
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Medical abortion does tend to be more
painful than surgical, and it takes
longer.
Both are equally safe.
Surgical abortion is done with suction, it
only takes 3-5 minutes, so it is very
quickly done.
You can be asleep for a surgical abortion,
but you would have to find a clinic that
offers this kind of service. I am sure
you could find a clinic which offers
asleep sedation.
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dj12
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Posted: 12-10-06 03:54am
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Thanks. I read most of the threads and I
think i'll go for the surgical one. Do
people usually experience complications
like the "horror stories" we keep hearing?
Or are there more people who doesn't
really go thru a really horrible time. I
know about the bleeding and the cramping
and thats fine.
I have really decided on this. My partner
and I were using a condom, but god knows
what happened because I did not get my
period on its due date (im regular, 28 day
cycle) so I took a home preg. Test and
here now I am 6 weeks in. I really don't
plan to have a child right now. I cant
take care of it and i'd probably end up
just not loving it, so yes I am really
decided.
I really have no one to talk to about this
except my partner, who is very supportive.
Everyone else is super anti- abortion.
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Posted: 12-10-06 15:03pm
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I work in a clinic, and I see a lot of
successful abortions, not horror
stories.
I have had 3 abortions, and all were
positive experiences.
I know that a lot of people are
anti-abortion, and some people do have
negative experiences, but that doesn't
mean you will.
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Posted: 12-11-06 01:02am
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You are welcome.
Abortion care is a field of medicine, and
just like any other field, you are going
to find displeased patients. I always
tell women to ask for reccomendations of
good clinics, and ask a lot of questions/
in my experience, the women whom have
regrets are the women that were forced or
coerced into an unwanted abortion.
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Posted: 12-11-06 01:18am
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Im gong to agree with cairifiary with any
medical procedure there is risks, I got
uterine infections from giving birth and I
know its a possibility with abortion.
For my d&c I was given antibiotics
after but not afyter the burth of my kids
which I think is abit messed up!
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Local Anesthetic?
Posted: 12-13-06 05:11am
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Can someone give me a clear picture here?
Because on the brochure they said they
will only give general anesthetic (the one
that puts you to sleep?) if both doctors
agree you're not strong enough or you
really really need it.
Will I feel anything when they're doing
the abortion if they give me local
anesthetic? I am going to be awake and I
really do not want to see anything/ (i.E.
Me being injected, the docs doing the
whole process). I am really scared of
needles. And how will they give the
anesthesia?
Sorry about this, ive never had any
medical procedures before so I am totally
clueless.
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Re: Local Anesthetic?
Posted: 12-13-06 10:46am
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| dj12
wrote: | can someone give me a clear
picture here? Because on the brochure
they said they will only give general
anesthetic (the one that puts you to
sleep?) if both doctors agree you're not
strong enough or you really really need
it.
Will I feel anything when they're doing
the abortion if they give me local
anesthetic? I am going to be awake and I
really do not want to see anything/ (i.E.
Me being injected, the docs doing the
whole process). I am really scared of
needles. And how will they give the
anesthesia?
Sorry about this, ive never had any
medical procedures before so I am totally
clueless. |
as per my friend> you are so knocked
out on drugs you dont see anything
supposedly they give you laughing
gas/demerol by iv according to her!
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Re: Local Anesthetic?
Posted: 12-13-06 11:28am
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| dj12
wrote: | can someone give me a clear
picture here? Because on the brochure
they said they will only give general
anesthetic (the one that puts you to
sleep?) if both doctors agree you're not
strong enough or you really really need
it.
Will I feel anything when they're doing
the abortion if they give me local
anesthetic? I am going to be awake and I
really do not want to see anything/ (i.E.
Me being injected, the docs doing the
whole process). I am really scared of
needles. And how will they give the
anesthesia?
Sorry about this, ive never had any
medical procedures before so I am totally
clueless. |
if you don't get general anethesia, then
closing your eyes and laying your head
back is going to be not only the mot
relaxing but also the most comforting
thing to do.
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Posted: 12-13-06 14:37pm
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If you are not knocked out you will feel
the abortion, I reccomend you get knocked
out.
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First Appointment Tomorrow
Posted: 12-14-06 06:23am
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I''ll see if I can get knocked out.
Maybe I should just take valiums before I
go in? Im going to the hospital...I
think thats the only place they do
abortions here. I wasnt given any
"private clinic" options at family
planning.... Im getting
scared...Aaaaaaccck
ummm ok...1 more thing... What does
dilation of the cervix mean?
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Re: First Appointment Tomorrow
Posted: 12-14-06 12:03pm
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| dj12
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ummm ok...1 more thing... What does
dilation of the cervix
mean? |
its not a bad think, basically its the
opening of the uterus, it stays closed to
prevent bacteria/germs from entering the
uterus. When your pregnant/in labor
your cervix dialtes to allow the baby to
pass through, when you are on your rags
you cervic usually dialtes as well to
about 1 cm.
What they do is they force your cervic to
dialate by inserting I believe like a
stick so they can suction the baby, they
should give you a prescription for
antibiotics after as well as preventative
measure against infection. Both times
I had my kids I got infections an it
sucked but they never provide antibiotic
to woman who give birth lol. I think
they treat woman who get an abortion
better lol!
Dont worry too much you will be taken care
of well!
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Posted: 12-14-06 15:57pm
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They need to open your cervix so that they
can insert the suction tube into your
uterus, that is what dilation is.
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Aaaaaaaah!!! Very Annoyed And Confused!!!
Posted: 12-15-06 09:12am
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So I went for my first appointment...
And when the doc was giving me the check
up he said I might be more than 8 weeks
pregnant!!!!! .O.M.G!!!! He said he
thinks its around 14 weeks!!! 14
weeks??? But I had all my period
regularly!!! Except november which was
when I took a home preg. Test!!
Arrrrggg!!! Can this be possible?? I
had no symptoms before!! Only these last
few weeks! Now I have to wait for a
freakin ultrasound on monday to see how
big the thing is!! I was so positive
about this but now I am just mad/ annoyed.
I was on the pill and I just stopped
taking it after my october period which I
am certain was a period. Arrrrrrrggg!
And they said if I am more than or about
16 weeks, ill have to wait till after new
years! This is absolutely not good
news!! Argh.
Could I have been pregnant and on the pill
so I was getting my period??? If so, wont
the fetus be abnormal??? How come I didnt
get any symptoms? I am short (5'1) and
thin...But I get fat easily...And im not
even showing. Shouldnt I be showing
already if I was 14 weeks? Omg omg omg.
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Posted: 12-15-06 11:00am
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Its possible I foun out I was pregnant
with my son at 10 weeks, I still had
periods for three months and it was only
defined by a blood test!
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Posted: 12-15-06 15:18pm
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Dj12...
Take a deep breath 
because you are so thin, perhaps your
uterus just feels larger than it normally
would in a normal sized 8-10 pregnancy.
This is a possibility, especially since
only an ultrasound can accurately gauge
gestation.
Do you live in the uk? Just in case..
Sometimes 'anti abortion' centers pose as
aboriton providers, they will often
postpone abortion until it can be too
late. Make sure you are going to a real
abortion provider.
Many women have an abortion at 14 weeks,
and I have assisted in abortions until 20
weeks.
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Posted: 12-16-06 00:56am
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No I live in new zealand... And we have
like 5 abortion places, all of which are
government funded (?) I think... Theyre
on the main hospitals anyway.. 1 from
every big region. And I don't think
they're pro- lifers as the doctor was
calling every place to an ultrasound right
then..But I guess there are plenty of
pregnant women. Plus I have to do that
bladder thing...I wasnt listening.
Cairfairy, can it still be possible that
im still 8 - 10 weeks? I hope it goes
well in the ultra sound, as I am really
really really not ready for a young one.
And I really want to do it surgically
because if i'm over 14 weeks the doctor
said theyre going to have to induce labour
(?) I think... Im much calmer now.. But
still really frustrated.
Thanks for everyones help again. =)
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Posted: 12-16-06 01:46am
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Labor induction is a method of abortion,
but here in the us it is mainly done for
women aborting for medical reasons.
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