quote elisa has gone out of
control, I do disicpline her her with
timeouts and room time but I cant seem to
control her, the other day I thought
someone had broken into the house instead
it was elisa in the kitchen with borken
eggs/flour on th floor.
It has gotten to the point I have to lock
her in her room at night to keep her away
from dangerous stuff cause she can climb
over the gate at the stairs and im
terrified of her flipping down the stairs.
I have talked to my dr and local health
nurse and all they can tell me is she is
having tantrums, I know she is going
throught "terrible twos" but omg it never
ends. I honestly feel like she never
stops and I cant take my eyes off of her
for a sec or she may doing something bad
or hurt her brother! end
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i just came across this post and wondered
how you were getting on now .Diamondsz?
My son is a little terror at the moment
too and he's not 2 yrs until march. He
has temper tantrums if I don't give in to
him and hurls himself to the floor, throws
his toys and shrieks. Sometimes I feel
like running for the hills screaming cos
it's one strop after another! Don't get
me wrong, I absolutely love and adore my
little boy but my god this is a bloody
tough job at times!
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Becky
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Posted: 12-10-06 15:44pm
Layla is like that too. She doesn't have
a tantrum as such but she will throw her
drink and walks out of the room and cries
when she doesn't get her own way. The
joys of parenting
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foxy
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Joined: 29 May 2006 Posts: 487 Location: Nassau, Bahamas
Posted: 12-10-06 16:04pm
That's a normal thing for 2 yr
old..........Wait until they get 3
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Jules
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Posted: 12-11-06 11:02am
But what the hell can you do with a
toddler who is not even 2 yet but is
throwing himself around the room and
screaming and crying - real tears!- over
me not allowing him in the kitchen when
i'm cooking? I've tried distracting him
with a book/toys but it might work for a
little while but then he remembers and
he's off again!
There is no answer is there?
Ah well, maybe earplugs...
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tigresacanela24
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Posted: 12-11-06 11:03am
I don't know! I have no idea how one
reasons with a two year old! When you
find out let me know
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 12-11-06 11:06am
I think that's just it...There's isn't
supposed to be any "reasoning".
They're the child. If they don't like the
options you've given. Too bad.
Like pure said...Get the earplugs
ready!!!! I know i've got my stash!
I refuse to sit and bargain with a
toddler.
Too many options is what their problem is.
Sarah
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diamondsz
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Posted: 12-11-06 11:06am
purestgreen
wrote:
but what the hell can you do
with a toddler who is not even 2 yet but
is throwing himself around the room and
screaming and crying - real tears!- over
me not allowing him in the kitchen when
i'm cooking? I've tried distracting him
with a book/toys but it might work for a
little while but then he remembers and
he's off again!
There is no answer is there?
Ah well, maybe earplugs...
honestly shes still evill
i have no control on her I will finally
get her to stop one bad habit and then its
another now she says f*ck u yeah~wonders
where my daughter picked that up from?~
i stopped screaming at her and have become
more stern when I talk to her majority of
the time if I tell her shes going to her
room she stops. Everykid is different
but man its very trying purest!
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Mommy35
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Posted: 12-11-06 11:16am
Consistency is key in dealing with
toddlers or any kid for that matter.
If you don't let him or her do something
today, then don't let him do it tomorrow
or the next day. If you put him in time
out (or whatever form of consequence you
believe in) for something today, then it
has to be the same deal the next time he
does it. Fathers and grammies have to be
on the same page too!!!
Trying to reason with a kid is pointless.
When they are crying, screaming, or
tantruming the only thing they can
concentrate on at that time is crying,
screaming, or tantruming. Your best bet
is to make sure they are not going to do
something to hurt themselves or somebody
else and wait until they are done to talk
to them.
Praise them and give them all the positive
attention you can when they are being
good, and ignore them (don't yell) when
they are being tyrants.
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 12-11-06 11:37am
mommy35
wrote:
consistency is key in
dealing with toddlers or any kid for that
matter.
If you don't let him or her do something
today, then don't let him do it tomorrow
or the next day. If you put him in time
out (or whatever form of consequence you
believe in) for something today, then it
has to be the same deal the next time he
does it. Fathers and grammies have to
be on the same page too!!!
Trying to reason with a kid is pointless.
When they are crying, screaming, or
tantruming the only thing they can
concentrate on at that time is crying,
screaming, or tantruming. Your best
bet is to make sure they are not going to
do something to hurt themselves or
somebody else and wait until they are done
to talk to them.
Praise them and give them all the positive
attention you can when they are being
good, and ignore them (don't yell) when
they are being
tyrants.
my thoughts exactly!
Sarah
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MommyC
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Joined: 08 Dec 2006 Posts: 5 Location: St. Louis
Posted: 12-12-06 14:50pm
My son is 3 and is a mooonnnsstterrrr!
Tantrums constantly - and I mean
constantly. From the time he wakes up
til the time he goes to bed it's fit after
fit after fit. What works best for him
is just ignoring him if he's screaming
just to get attention. If he actually
needs something I get down to his level
and say "what do you want?" and then he
shows me what he wants and he's fine. I
will say, it's a bit more difficult with
him because he's special needs, and can
barely talk yet, so much of his fits are
frustration. He has the words, just
can't get them out - if that makes sense.
Anyway, you just have to find what works
for your child.
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Mommy35
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Posted: 12-12-06 14:54pm
I think how you handle it is great
mommyc!!!
Sometimes having a book that has pictures
of common things a 3 year old could want
(drink, food, potty, hug, etc) is helpful.
The agency I work for serves kids/adults
with special needs, developmental
disabilities, and intellectual challenges
and this is what they suggest for the non
verbal or those with limited verbal
skills.
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 12-12-06 15:01pm
Oni is 7 months and we do the 'sign' for
eat, sleep, yes, and no. Next month,
we'll do milk, water, more, and *maybe*
thank you.
Baron's brother is def. He doesn't do
sign language, he reads lips. But he
knows sign. So I want .Nana to be able to
communicate with him better, so we're
teaching her sign.
It also helps relieve that frustration
some baba's may have. By physically
showing you what they want with simple
hand gestures is amazing.
Teaching sign is easier than you'd think.
Kids with verbal problems are great
listeners when it comes to learning new
things. And knowing that they're learning
to connect with you better will intrigue
them more.
Sarah
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sandyallen
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Posted: 12-12-06 18:43pm
I used to tell my kids that I could not
understand them when they were yelling or
throwing a fit and if they hurt others,
they would be hurt back and that generally
helped, my kids cussed once and tasted a
little soap and did not cuss againand had
to sit in the chair for a couple of hours.
I would take away their tv privelidge(sp)
or certain toys for a couple of days but
a lot of times idle threats would help my
kids but all kids are different.
