tigresacanela24
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Baby Showers?
Posted: 12-11-06 13:26pm
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What is your opinion on throwing a baby
shower for a second (or third, or fourth)
baby? My sil is throwing a shower for
baby #2 born last week and wants us to
come. I was always raised to believe
that having a shower for number 2 was
disgustingly tacky. I think that if I
was going to have another one, i'd still
have a shower but I think i'd feel guilty
about it. I would just do it for the
presents. Sounds bad, huh? What do you
guys think?
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SamanthaM
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Posted: 12-11-06 13:29pm
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I think it would be okay to have a little
get together, not to recieve presents, but
just to welcome the new baby or something.
I wouldn't have a full blown shower, or
expect gifts, because that is quite tacky!
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 12-11-06 13:30pm
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I think it depends on a few things...
If the second baby is a different
gender.
If it's been more than 5 years since the
first.
If it's more like a get-together than a
"please buy me new things for my baby"
party.
Otherwise... It's a bit tacky, imo. 
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BabyGirlsMami
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Posted: 12-11-06 13:48pm
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Sure why not? I dont see a problem with
it. It dosent have to be getting stuff as
much as it is coming together to celebrate
the new baby and mommy
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Posted: 12-11-06 13:52pm
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Ok, well would this count?
My good friend lost everything in the
storm. Soooo, i'm(i don't know about
everyone else) going to have a party for
her and give her *tons* of things!!
Her son is going to be 2 the day after her
due date  so i'm sure
she'll need some help. So I plan on
staying with her to help her manage
.Jathan & the new baby brother.
She has everything from 12 months up, but
is missing everything else!
Other than that....A get together would be
ok, but not a baby shower. Unless, like
.Laura said, it has been 5 years or is a
different gender!
Sarah
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Posted: 12-11-06 14:14pm
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I think baby showers are tacky in the
first instance - so for a second child I
think it's a big no-no! 
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Posted: 12-11-06 15:26pm
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My sister-in-law is due next month and
someone threw her a "supply party" just to
get her baby supplies, not clothes or baby
gear. She's having another girl so she
has everything she needs already.
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tigresacanela24
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Posted: 12-11-06 15:42pm
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Sil is having another boy...So she really
doesn't need anything. She just wants
new...
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michelle1981
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Posted: 12-11-06 15:43pm
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I agree with .Laura!
I had one with .Brian, not with .Jordan,
but I am having one with .Jersey
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 12-11-06 17:03pm
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Baby showers arn't done in the uk really
but I don't see it as a major no no, a
health forum to expect new things soon
after having a baby before hand but if the
second is a different gender then yeah why
not. I wish I was having a baby shower.
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Posted: 12-11-06 20:08pm
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Wait... Is she throwing *herself* a
shower? That's what it looks like you're
saying and if that's the case then it is
*beyond* tacky!
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tigresacanela24
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Posted: 12-11-06 20:19pm
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| iheartmybostonterrier
wrote: | | wait... Is she throwing
*herself* a shower? That's what it looks
like you're saying and if that's the case
then it is *beyond*
tacky! |
yep, she's throwing herself a shower!!!!!
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Posted: 12-11-06 21:27pm
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| tigresacanela24
wrote: | | iheartmybostonterrier
wrote: | | wait... Is she throwing
*herself* a shower? That's what it
looks like you're saying and if that's the
case then it is *beyond*
tacky! |
yep, she's throwing herself a
shower!!!!! |
im sorry, but.....Lmao!!!
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Posted: 12-12-06 06:09am
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I havent had a baby shower...But why do
you guys think they are tacky? Isnt it
just a tradition that seems to be bigger
in america than over here. I dont see
whats wrong with it? And why cant that
girl throw one for herself if no one else
has planned to? I dont get it...
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tigresacanela24
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Posted: 12-12-06 08:29am
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| allie_18
wrote: | | i havent had a baby
shower...But why do you guys think they
are tacky? Isnt it just a tradition
that seems to be bigger in america than
over here. I dont see whats wrong with
it? And why cant that girl throw one
for herself if no one else has planned to?
I dont get
it... |
allie, baby showers themselves aren't
tacky. It's having a baby shower for a
second (or other) baby that's tacky. A
girl shouldn't throw one for herself.
It simply isn't done. Usually the
girl's best friend throws the shower for
her. If you throw your own baby shower
it makes you look like you have no manners
and you seem greedy. It's like running
around asking people to give you things.
It's actually a little bit pathetic too.
It's a breach of etiquette. It's like
throwing your own bridal shower...
Don't know if that answer's good enough
but it's the best that I can do.
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Posted: 12-12-06 09:00am
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Oh right...I see, thanks for explaining
tigres.
Well this is just my opinion, friends and
family are most likely going to be excited
about you having a 2nd 3rd 4th baby
...Because a baby is an exciting event
even if its not the first one. Everyone
is still going to be happy for you and
probably want to buy you a gift/s anyway
and want to celebrate it, so I see nothing
wrong with having a baby shower during
each pregnancy. I dont think its greedy,
they dont have to spend loads on a gift,
you'll already have the larger things from
your first, (hopefully) and most people
like buying baby clothes or a toy cos its
fun shopping for baby stuff. Its more
about spending time with everyone close to
you altogether, talking, having fun,
celebrating the baby....A nice
tradition.
I dont think its good to have more than 1
shower for each baby though. I know a few
on here have done that. To me thats what
seems greedy and strange.
I dont see anything wrong throwing the
shower yourself either. If none of your
family or friends have organised one
(which is kinda mean), then you go ahead
organise it yourself definately! Dont
miss out on one just because other people
were too rude to arrange one for you.
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tigresacanela24
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Posted: 12-12-06 09:06am
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| allie_18
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i dont think its good to have more than 1
shower for each baby though. I know a
few on here have done that. To me thats
what seems greedy and strange.
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it's actually not unusual for people here
to have more than one shower for the same
baby. Usually the reason for that is
coworkers will throw you a shower and
family and friends will throw you one as
well. Trust me, you don't want to joan
the office drone at the one for your
friends. It's best to keep work
separate...
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Posted: 12-12-06 11:45am
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| allie_18
wrote: |
i dont see anything wrong throwing the
shower yourself either. If none of your
family or friends have organised one
(which is kinda mean), then you go ahead
organise it yourself definately! Dont
miss out on one just because other people
were too rude to arrange one for
you. |
the only way throwing a shower for
yourself would be somewhat acceptable
would be if you wrote in the invitations
"no gifts, please". That way it is just a
party celebrating your new baby and not
you asking for presents.
Either way, I still think it's incredibly
tacky to throw yourself a shower.
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Posted: 12-12-06 15:26pm
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I don't think it's tacky to have more than
1 shower for the same baby. I'm having
two. My aunts are throwing me one for my
family &co-workers to come to, &my
best friend is throwing me one for just my
friends. Because .I know that my family
&co-workers don't want to co-mingle
with a bunch of silly 19 &20 year
olds.
&.I think showers for 2nd or 3rd or
whatever children are okay as long as it's
either for a different gender baby than
what you already have, or if it's the same
gender, if it was quite a few years down
the road.
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Posted: 12-13-06 08:48am
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I had 2 baby showers with my son, one my
mom threw that I sorta ended up putting
together my self. And my work threw one
for me, of course the day the planned it I
calle din sick to work , sucks but eh
things happen but the next day they
suprised me with a cute lil cake and a
washing basket full of stuff and gift
cards for toys r us 3 $25 ones I ended up
giving my sister 2.
This one I do not plan on a baby shower,
im 38 weeks anyways but I just moved here
in july, my friend got one from the
church, ims ure they wanna do one for me
but we havent been to church in a few
weeks cuz hubby hats going so its a pain
to get him to go with me and this
pregnancy has been a pain as well. They
assume ive had the kid already so when
someone still sees me pregnant they are
like omg I thought u would have popped by
now.
They are 2 diff genders but eh we got the
major baby stuff and I got out and went
crazy buyin all the girl stuff the px has
wich is prob wher eeveryone else would
shop for baby shower gifts as well. So I
dont see a point in doing a baby shower,
maybe a dinner or something when shes here
with friends would be nice. But eh I
didnt like my shower with my son that my
mom wanted to do that I ended up planning
and putting together myself. And its hard
here when I only know 2 girls lol all
hubbys friends are mostly single guys ,
and they dont do babyshowers haha
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