Am I the Only One?

I'm a single mommy also.. I have a 12 month old little girl who is everything to me. I was with her father for 6 years.. Yes 6! A month after we broke it off for good I found out I was expecting he isn't in her life very much and sometimes it's hard but I have great support from friends and family. Plus the hardest thing for me is finding out his new girl friend was expecting a baby in may and then are getting married this month.. And the fact that he wanted to start acting like a father to mia ( my little girl) when he found out his g/f was going to have a baby. Yes lame..

I just want to offer you moral support. I was a single parent for a long time. I was 25 when I got pregnant. My daughter is now 15 and she just met her father for the first time last november. Everything is great now. It was hard on me during the early years of raising her but my mother and grandmother were there to help me. I had forgiven him over the years and went on with my life. Anyway, my story is kind of unusual. Me and my daughter's father are engaged to be married now. We are both christians now much more mature than we were. Just keep positive, love yourself. Let us know how you're doing.

Hey, thank god you found out what a penis face he is now rather than after he's had a huge impact on your child. One happy parent is better than 2 unhappy ones!

I am 16 and 6 weeks pregnant with my first child. The father and I actually weren't going out at the time but one thing led to another and now I am pregnant. I don't want to tell him and I am scared. I know he will be around for the baby but I think it would just be easier to do it on my own. Good luck to all you single moms and I hope I do half as good of a job as you are.

Hello. I am jessica. There is a slight differance between you and me. I am just turning 17 on thanksgiving. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. I skipped my period all of october and I have yet to have one. In my head I was just telling myself " people skip all the time" but my boyfriend on the otherhand was most sure that I was pregnant. He felt that way since october. Things between us have been rough because I injured my knee pretty bad, tearing tissue and whatnot. I'm getting my knee scoped sometime this week. Eversince I got hurt my attitude has changed and I wasn't the only one that noticed. Matt my bf noticed and he didn't know what to do anymore. So he broke up with me. It was horrible. Two days after he left he started dating a promiscuous person from work. The only thing is that I know for a fact he is doing to piss me off and hurt me. Honestly he is doing a great job. Anyway four days after we broke up I told him "i still haven't" and he got pissed. So last monday we took a test and it came out positive. He said that he would leave his promiscuous person and try to make it work with me and that I had to nothing to worry about because he wouldn't be a punk about this and he would stay by my side. So the next day he tried to leave her. She flipped. She didn't want to break up. She didn't care if he was having a baby with his ex. I hate her... I hate him. But what kills me is that I am still in love with him. On top of that I am having his baby. My father who is happy for some reason keeps telling me" just leave him alone he is scared he will come to his senses and call you" today is day three and no matt. It is killing me. I can't and don't want to do this alone. I need him and he knows it but he is scared. What can I do to calm him and let him know that he isn't in this alone, how do I get rid of his promiscuous person who is making this harder and she knows it.?? Please help me in any way possible with any kind of advice. I'm sorry this is so long but I am alone... At least that is how it feels.

Ur not alone when u have friends and family who love u. I know how u feel about the bf. Mine left me a few days before I realized that I might be pregnant and when I told him he insisted I was sleeping around

ur lucky because u have ppl in your life who love u and will support u no matter what, just remember that.

I really appreciate your words. They help a lot. I found out from the doctor I am definately pregnant and I should be due on the 22nd of june. I am scared but I think I will be able to get through it without my ex. The more we aren't together the more I hear about how he is and I hate it. Don't get me wrong I will always love him but I hate who he has become and he wont change for me or this baby. I have to accept that and move on without him. It will be the hardest thing to do but i'm hoping in time it will pay off. But if you have anymore helpful advice I would appreciate more than you'll ever know. Thank you again.
Jessica

I know u can get through this with out ur bf. We don't need men to do great things. And if u ever need someone to talk to, I have yahoo, msn and aim. So just lemme know if u wanna chat sometime.



Aim - vannanunna
yahoo - vanna_gracielou
msn - fonzie_loves_chachi@hotmail.Com

don't be afraid to add me or e-mail me if u wanna chat.

-vienna

I just wanted to let everyone know that it nly takes one parent to raise a child so for all of you girls out there thinking the father needs to be or has to be there, you can do it yourself. There are many sucessfull mothers whom raise their children on their own, if you do plan to stay with your childs father or have him in your life you may want to check into counseling, normally speaking your local health department can offer you and the babys dad advice and counseling on how to raise a child together or alone if you just want to go... I also suggest that if you are young and pregnant after your child is bron go on birth control so that it doesnot happen again because being a young parent takes a lot and one is going to be hard. I want to also send and warm thank you to you girls whom step up to your responsibility and dont abort or adopt your child out. That is real mature and responsible of yall and everything will work out , you just will have to be patient and give it time

Hello, my name is stephanie and I am 23 years old and 18 weeks pregnant. I was dated this guy for 2 months and then we broke up but a week later I found out I was pregnant. Well I told him and everything was fine for about 2 months then out of no where he tells me he is getting back with ex wife and he wants nothing to do with his child. Well he lied about his ex-wife turns out he was engaged to a girl in california and cheated on her w/me! So I will be a single parent too! He will be paying out the butt w/child support though cuz I am taking him for all he is worth!!

Hey every1, well I am 20 years old and im due to pop any minute. They gave me a couple of due dates, one being today and the latest one being friday the 14th of jan. Me and my bf recently broke up, for the millionth time! There is so much behind this that I dont think I can type it all, but what made us break up this time is that I think he is cheating on me. He wont let me see his phone no more and when he gets a call he goes into another room to talk and when I do get to check his phone he has already erased the number. I mean how could he do this to me?? Im about to have his baby! O well, im really hurt cuz of this and when I asked him if he was cheating on me or trying to get with someone else he got all defensive and instead of answering me with either yes or no, he answered by asking me "r u?",,, I was like what??? Im f-ing pregnant and dont go out, how the hell would I cheat on him. This guy has been it for me since I was almost 16 so I would never cheat on him. Well anyways, I had just had enough of all this drama and ended things with him, this happend last wednesday, and he hasnt called, not even to see if I had the baby. Although im not that worried about it as I would be a couple of months ago, im still hurt. But thinking about my baby and how im soooo close to finally seeing her makes me feel a lot better. Plus reading a lot of ur stories lets me know that I am not alone. I know he will be there for our baby im just disappointed that he wont be there for me. But its all good, as long as hes there in my babys life, then im fine.

When I found out I was pregnant my daughter's father threw me on the street. It was then I made some real life changes...

I have been through a lot of scary things in my life including being a “street child” homeless in shelters for over 2 years, but being pregnant and knowing I was going to be alone was by far the worst. The feelings are indescribable. Through the pregnancy I had little to no support. Still, in the 3 years since my daughter’s birth I have learned to use a computer, started college and maintained a 3.75gpa (not bad for someone that barely passed high school), taught myself html and built a website, made quality friends that are also single mothers, landed a good job with full benefits, gotten off welfare and state assistance completely… the list goes on. If I can do it, anyone can.

Not long ago a friend of mine became pregnant and was dealing with a lot of the same emotional issues I was. Not only was I able to talk her through those but I was also able to help her contact the proper agencies to make sure she had health coverage, housing, etc. Because she, as i, was low income. She had the baby 2 months ago and is doing very well...

What I am trying to get to is if you find yourself in this situation you are not alone. I have created a website that is geared toward single parents. When you visit it sort of looks like we just goof off a lot, but if you look through some of the forums you will see when anyone of our members has an issue, all jump in with ideas. I am very proud of my members, and the length they go to support one another.

If you find yourself alone, and you need a friend, please visit http://missjenniferlee.Org

you should never feel alone.

Jennifer lee

We are not alone...
My boyfriend left me for someone else right before I found out I was pregnant with twins. He knows now and he claims they aren't his, which is a bunch of bull*#@!. He is no where to be found and it hurts so much. I really love him and I feel like I need him now more than ever. But I think I am going to be okay. I have got to be strong for my babies. I have my mom and my friends to help me get through these hard times. Maybe everything happens for a reason. I don't really think that he wouldn't been a very good father figure for my kids. It just sucks that I have to go through this pregnancy without him by my side. He wanted to get me pregnant for so long and he was just dying to have a baby. Now that he is having two, and these are his first....He runs away.

I started talking with this guy back in june..We met in august and he showed me the true man that he is...However I had fear and for the first time in my life I have no excuse for it....I spoke with him since we met and told him what was going with me and asked him if he could forgive me...He told me it was no big deal...I told him good because I would love the chance to show him that I do have the love that he is looking for and that I would like to visit with him for a weekend....We were suppose to make plans for me to visit because he is over 600 miles away from me...Well since then I have found out I am pregnant and we were both shocked, however after talking things over with me, he did tell me he will be supportive.....My concern is that kids always change people and their relationship for which I told him that...And he responded with only when people try to use their kids for an excuse for something...For which I can understand that...We both know that this is going to be tough for the both of us, but I still want to show him love...Any suggestions...I would perfer people that are married with kids however I would be happy with advise from anyone that has a postive outlook on things...

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