Well, my son's father whom I have been
with for 4 yrs. Has decided that he wants
to go out and mess around before he
commits to marrying me. This has been
very, very frustrating for me. I did
agree to it at first. (which was very
dumb) that was before he amended the
agreement and said that "you have to get
to know these girls first before u get in
bed with them". I told him that I did
not agree with that and that I wanted him
to stop. of
course he hasn't. He says that he really
wants to spend the rest of his life with
me, but he has to get this stuff out of
his system before he can actually marry
me. I feel that he is really taking
advantage of me. True, I know about what
he is doing, and he tells me everything
that he does, even asks me if he can call
the chick, but I feel really hurt. I am
beyond hurt. I mean I have to deal with
him waking up calling her, txting her
during the day, when he comes home from
work, he's calling or texting her, he
calls her when I go to work at night...
It goes on & on. Does it ever end??
he
says that i'm the one that he sleeps with
everyday, she knows about me too. He
visits her in indiana every other weekend
and stays all night. She sends him home
with hickeys all on his body. I just
don't know what to do anymore. I
absolutely, really love this guy and this
is how I get treated. What do I do??? I
want to leave him, but then again I don't
cause he's my son's father and I have a
fear of starting all over this late at my
age, 33. Please help me, I feel like i'm
going crazy!
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RedDelight
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Oct 2006 Posts: 131 Location: I'm a Yettie!
wowzers....! What are you doing, hun??
You have to be not only mad at yourself-
but him too. *sigh*
i know how that is.
Alright...Just because you told him he
could---back up--why in the hell did he
ask you to begin with??! That is *not*
what you ask of someone you love!! That's
crazy!! Secondly... He took you
seriously- when you told him he could??
The fact that he acted on it....Proves he
doesn't respect you or love you or his
son. What kind of "future" husband does
that to his family?!?!?????
Get that out of his system..?? That's
what high school is for!! Let's see how
much he'll care about this: change your
locks to your house/apartment- move out-
whatever you need to do to leave- do it.
Do not tell him... Do not warn him... Do
it while he is banging that hillbilly.
Then... Call and tell him. That he
might as well stay, since he isn't
welcomed home... And he won't be able to
enter, either.
Love does not include greed. Dont' feel
like you have to marry this pr*ck because
he had a child with you. In fact- look
at your child. I am sure he is hurt that
his father doesn't want to be with him or
you, he'd rather play around with some
toothless bimbo. What if he brought you
home a lovely surprise... Hum... Like
mine did- an std?
Then how would you feel? I am sorry to
be so cruel... But I have to be. This
isn't right. Your gut is telling you
something... Listen to it! I wish I had
earlier.. But now every day for the rest
of my life.. .I will remember what my ex
did to me and my health.
And age doesn't matter...What matters is
you and your son. Do you want your son
growing up and watching how his father
belittles you- and women in general?
That other woman... It will hit her too.
She can't get a decent man..She has to
share? Where's her self-respect? More
importantly...Where's yours?
Pm me anytime. Good luck... And
remember- look at your son. Do you want
him to end up like his father?
of
course he hasn't. He says that he really
wants to spend the rest of his life with
me, but he has to get this stuff out of
his system before he can actually marry
me. I feel that he is really taking
advantage of me. True, I know about what
he is doing, and he tells me everything
that he does, even asks me if he can call
the chick, but I feel really hurt. 
he
says that i'm the one that he sleeps with
everyday, she knows about me too. He
visits her in indiana every other weekend
and stays all night. She sends him home
with hickeys all on his body. I just
don't know what to do anymore. 
I
absolutely, really love this guy and this
is how I get treated. What do I do??? I
want to leave him, but then again I don't
cause he's my son's father and I have a
fear of starting all over this late at my
age, 33. Please help me, I feel like i'm
going crazy!
[jk]
