Ultimatum...can I Do This? Posted: 02-04-04 10:58am
Ok last night me and tom talked for like 2
hours before we went to bed, and I came
out and told him about my ed....He didn't
respond the way I thought he would...He
responded 10 times better! He told me
he's going to do anything he can to help
me through this and support me, but I have
to be wiling to work hard to fight
it....After all was said and done he left
me with an ultimatum....He said that he
would be behind me 100% of the way, but if
I didn't keep up with my end of the deal
then he wouldn't be there....I'm not too
sure how to take that right now, I mean
it's definitely motivating and pushing me
to overcome this and *want* to overcome
it, but at the same time i'm carrying his
child, will he really leave if I slack
off? My mom also told me yesterday that
she wants me to come with her to visit the
renfrew center in manyunk(sp?), pa to see
what they can offer....I don't want to go,
I mean i've been eating....I'm up to
113lbs already! But I will admit that i'm
still in that ana mindset....I'll eat but
I don't want to eat, i'm only eating for
my child...I was laying in bed last night
and my heart was beating so fast and I
started getting heart palputations...It
really scared me, and it's making me
really rethink all of this...Should I just
give in and go? Am I at more of a risk of
something happening to me or my baby than
I think? I don't know what to do....Now
not only do I have my family up my ass
about this, he is too....I love him to
death and don't want to ruin what we have
over something so stupid...I don't know
girls....What do I do?!
vanessa & peanut
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JillMarie
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Dec 2003 Posts: 3022 Location: Iowa
Posted: 02-04-04 11:40am
Your lucky to have someone backing you up
so much! I know it's going to be hard but
if you concentrate on the future with him
and your baby I know you can do it!
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KariM18
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jan 2004 Posts: 1436 Location: Grand Blanc, Michigan
Posted: 02-04-04 11:42am
Hey hun.. Well I think that place might
benefit u. If it could help I dont see y
you shouldnt try it. Im so happy youve
been eating! It takes a lot of strength
and u must love this child alot to do this
for it! I dont know tho. .If u think u
can do it without then thats good too,
just make sure ur eating enough.. If u
dont go there, couldnt u see a councler
for your eating disorder? There are many
who specialize in it. I saw a good
councler for it and he helped a lot. Ive
actually seen 2. U can do this tho as
long as u dont give up, I do believe e/d
hospitalizations can help. When I went to
the hospital for my e/d, it didnt change
my actual eating habits right away but it
did change my mind-set.. So , sense ur
eating okay now, and the mindset is what
has to change.. Im sure it could help!
Let me know what happens!
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adormer221
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Sep 2003 Posts: 309 Location: colorado
Posted: 02-04-04 12:02pm
Hey I thought you left --glad to see your
back with us!! I thought that tom knew
about this ? Welll you should just go
with your mom- I mean if you still feel
that its diffucult , to eat then why not
go??I mean what can it hurt im glad that
you have gained wieght and are thinking
about the about the babys health --- we
need more people like you, who think more
about your baby then about them selfs---
:d so thats my advice k
ash
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CrombieChic16
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2003 Posts: 745
Posted: 02-04-04 13:37pm
Thanks for the responses girls, i've been
thinking about it all day, weighing the
pros and cons, and it's hard...I feel
vulnerable again and I hate it...I feel
like if I go then tom won't be here when I
come back...I know it sounds bad, but it's
just my insecurities talking I guess...Tom
called me at like 9 this morning before he
went to the gym and asked me if I had
eaten yet, I told him yes but I felt so
sick....He told me to go for a walk to get
my mind off of it, because if I eat when I
know I dont want to, i'm gonna feel
sick....Today's been a really hard day, it
got to the point where I almost purged,
but held back....I'm dizzy again and my
heart's still beating so fast....I'm pale
right now, i'm supposed to go for
bloodwork soon to check for anemia, so
that should be fun! Ugh I dont know
girls, I dont know where i'd be if I didnt
have you all behind me...Kari, that's what
my mom was saying, she said i'm eating
which is great, but I need counseling to
help get me out of that wicked mind
set...I went to meet with a dietician last
week and she told me she would help set up
a *diet* per say for me to follow...But
she said she can only help me if im wiling
to eat...And I am, im just not happy about
it...It was really nice talking with her,
she's a recovered mia and binge eater, so
I could relate to her in some ways...I'm
leaning towards going up with my mom just
to check it out...Wonder if they ever
dealt with a pregnant teen with an ed?
Hm, well I hope they can help...Cuz I
wanna be happy for the next 27weeks!
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youngmomtobe
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Oct 2003 Posts: 728 Location: Illinois
Posted: 02-04-04 14:31pm
Nessa hey hunnie! U can do this I know u
can!! Honestly counseling would be great
yes ur eating but ur struggling to keep
doing it we all need a lil help.....If u
dont do it for yourself do it for your lil
peanut!! We are all here for u!! We love
u girlie! And im praying for u babe!!!!
Jen & river
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Untimely Blessings
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Jan 2004 Posts: 383
Posted: 02-04-04 15:04pm
Vanessa, an easy way to help you is don't
weigh yourself! Get rid of your home
scale and at the docs, let them know not
to tell you, so that you can get well
without numbers, its easier! Your doing
great!
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