I Just Need Someone to Talk To... Posted: 01-06-07 00:20am
I dont know , things havent been good for
the past few years, like not good at all.
I have thought about suicide to be honest,
but I never could, its not about my
family, its always like what would my
friends think. Im 16 I shouldnt be
dealing with this. I have amazing friends
my problem is my family, my dad and his
whole side of the family is out of the
picture, this year my sweet 16 no one
called me from that family or christmas,
that sucks. I dont know, but then my mom.
We used to be so close, like you have no
idea, but then things have just changed,
all she does is yell at me, call me fat
pig becuase ive gained like 15 lbs . I
used to be thin, but now im not. She
tells me she hates me. Like that sucks so
bad. And the reason im writing this is
because she just yelled at me, and was
calling me names. I just cantreally take
it anymore. I have no one to talk to ,
im an only child and I dont want to
involve my friends in these problems and
when I go to my therapist my mom always
goes and she makes me look like a lunatic
becuase i'm the one with all the problems
and everything's my fault. I just cant
take it. Really. I try to ignore her.
But on top of it all , im failing like
everything. I try but then my mom tells
me how much of a failure I am so why
should I keep trying. Theres no point in
it. All my college letters she shreds
because she says im not getting in. I
just cant stand my life anymore.
Sorry, I just wasted everyone's time.
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littlesqueaks
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 May 2006 Posts: 296 Location: Caldwell, Idaho
Posted: 01-06-07 00:50am
Being a teenager is about the roughest
time in a young womens life. Though it is
not all girls but most have the hardest
time with their moms during this time. It
sounds though that your truely haveing a
hard time with your mom. Do you keep your
nose clean for the most part? (stay out
of trouble, away from drugs, alchol, so on
and so on) if you have close friends that
you can "trust" your friends are the ones
you will tend to lean on the most. As for
your therapyst it does not sound like it
is helpful much when your mother has to be
there. My suggestion is to see about
speaking to your school councelor with out
your mother. They are free so you don't
have to worry about the money. You can be
open and honest with them about how your
mother makes you feel. As for giving up
don't give up finishing school is for you
so that you can go on finish collage get
that good paying job and move on with your
life. Strengthen your shoulders and learn
to let what your mom says to go in one ear
and out the other. I am a mom as well and
I hope to not make the same mistakes so
listening to you and other youngsters will
help me as my boys grow so if you want to
pm me we can talk. I hope I have been of
some help and remember you are an
individual with good qualities just
recongnize them for yourself and keep your
chin up
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alpal22
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Jan 2007 Posts: 2
Posted: 01-06-07 01:12am
Yes it really is, and it just feels like
compared to my friends im having the
worst, but I also dont live with them
24/7. Yeah im having a really hard time.
It just seems like she always has
something to yell at me about. Yeah
thats the thing, I dont do any of that.
Im a good kid. I do , I have a best
friend who is having trouble but she knows
how to "control" it. She always is happy
and knows that she can talk to me. Well
I think im gonna continue seeing my
therapist only becuase she knows my mom
and can help me with her, and well my
school counselor would not help. Haha.
But about finishing school, im def. Going
to but its just hard keeping up the
motivation with my mom shredding up
college letters because she wants to be a
b*tch. Sorry for that :/ I know what I
want to do with my life. I want to be an
accountant. Im good at that kind of
stuff. I try to just rub it off and tell
myself its just her mood or something, but
when its continually being said its hard,
its not that she's a bad mom, she really
does provide me with everything, she pays
for me to go to catholic school and lets
me do stuff but if I dont do something
right then she freaks out.
Well thank you for listening, it really
helps. Good luck with your teenagers.
Haha
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littlesqueaks
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 May 2006 Posts: 296 Location: Caldwell, Idaho
Posted: 01-06-07 01:40am
I have a while before my boys are
teenagers (thank goodness) anyways why do
you think your mom might tear up your
college letters? Could she be affraid of
you moving away? Being that you are an
only child she could be affraid of you
growing up and moving away. Not to get
personal or anything but does your mom
have it rough (financial, education, body,
rough child hood herself) why I ask is
sometimes others down talk others so that
hopefully it makes the other person tough
so that they will choose not to go in the
same direction that they had. If that
makes sense? Like someone that is over
weight they will say something like "fat
pig" to the skinny one so that they make
themselves feel good and at the same time
it could make the other person aware of
gaining a few pounds so that they won't
let that get out of hand and gain more.
Have you been honest to your mother about
how her words and actions hurt you and ask
her why she does what she does? Well if
you want keep in touch I don't mind
talking. I do have a step daughter that
is also 16 and she also has her days where
her and her mom don't get along and she
feels comfort in talking to me because I
can help her understand why her mother may
do what she does and it seems to help her.
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nemoblink
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jan 2007 Posts: 7 Location: montreal
Re: I Just Need Someone to Talk To... Posted: 01-08-07 01:38am
alpal22
wrote:
i dont know , things havent
been good for the past few years, like not
good at all. I have thought about
suicide to be honest, but I never could,
its not about my family, its always like
what would my friends think. Im 16 I
shouldnt be dealing with this. I have
amazing friends my problem is my family,
my dad and his whole side of the family is
out of the picture, this year my sweet 16
no one called me from that family or
christmas, that sucks. I dont know, but
then my mom. We used to be so close,
like you have no idea, but then things
have just changed, all she does is yell at
me, call me fat pig becuase ive gained
like 15 lbs . I used to be thin, but now
im not. She tells me she hates me.
Like that sucks so bad. And the reason
im writing this is because she just yelled
at me, and was calling me names. I just
cantreally take it anymore. I have no
one to talk to , im an only child and I
dont want to involve my friends in these
problems and when I go to my therapist my
mom always goes and she makes me look like
a lunatic becuase i'm the one with all the
problems and everything's my fault. I
just cant take it. Really. I try to
ignore her.
But on top of it all , im failing like
everything. I try but then my mom tells
me how much of a failure I am so why
should I keep trying. Theres no point in
it. All my college letters she shreds
because she says im not getting in. I
just cant stand my life anymore.
Sorry, I just wasted everyone's
time.
hi alpal22
i know I don't know you,but your story
really touched me.I can understand were
your coming from,but me it wasn't my
mother but my dad,everything I did was
never good enough for him,he was never
happy even when I succeded.But you know
what i'm seeing a therapist as well,and I
don't know if she's told you about
cognitive therapy,it's a therapy were they
work on your self esteem,i'm working on
that right now,because my dad,people at
work ,and other people in life were always
putting me down no matter what I did
wether it was good or bad!And it just
totally ruined my self esteem.You
shouldn't let your mother put you down,and
have you ever tried knowing why your
relationship with her changed so
drastically,maybe something is not going
well with her either.I'm not taking
sides,but everybody has problems,if
their's one thing I can tell you is try to
understand why your mother is acting this
way and treating you like she is,i would
have like to have done that with my father
unfortunatly he passed away,and i'll never
have the chance to ask him why all those
years he always put me down!!And if you
ever need someone to talked to i'm here!It
may sound weird cuz I don't know you,but
that's exactly the case I don,t know you
so I won't judge you!And just to tell you
,you must be doing something right cuz
your getting college letters which means
your smart!!!Your lucky I haven't even
finished high school!!!So that's it I
won't keep you longer,but if it can help
you can talk to me anytime:)
-nemoblink-
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tannerz_rja
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2007 Posts: 13
Hey I Know How You Feel Kinda... Posted: 01-20-07 03:57am
My parents are so rediculious,i recently
dyed my hair black and they start calling
me gothic wich doing it drives me crazy
becuase I tell them everytime im not
gothic just becuase my hair is black. And
the music I listen to.When ever I try to
be open they just...Just shut me out I
just try to ignore it but my grades have
been taking a toll and they have lost
total confidence in me having a successful
future just becuase my first semester
freshman report card.Its so lame how some
parents can be, the pressure from my
parents,peers,friends,teachers,school, and
every little thing thats negative is
making me so frusturated, that I feel lost
and helpless in this world thats moving so
fast around me.So your not alone my
friend...Your not alone.
