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WorriedMom2Be
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Please Please Please Help Me.
Posted: 01-08-07 21:39pm
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This is a private question that i'm very
worried about.
I was told that i'm 27 weeks pregnant
[will be 28 this wednesday].
My lmp was 6/27/06 [the first day of
it].
I had sex with #1 on june 22nd. And that
was the latest that I had sex with him. I
had sex with #2 june 23rd and on. I know
they told me my conception date was like
july 11th, but is there any possibility
that the baby could be #1's? And how
much? I just really want reassurance
right now.
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 01-08-07 21:51pm
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Get a paternity test when the child is
born. I'm assuming #2 knew you were
sleeping with #1? It shouldn't bother him
for you to get the test.
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WorriedMom2Be
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Posted: 01-08-07 21:58pm
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Correct. He knew. But it's killing me.
And I know the responses im going to get
back are "well then you shouldn't of been
sleeping with more than one person at a
time".
Let me just say this - I wasn't raped.
But it was definately not by choice.
Im just praying to god that this little
blessing is my husbands. [no I didn't
cheat on him - we didn't get married until
after I found out I was pregnant]
with the date of conception given by the
doctors being july 11th....Do you think
there's any realitive chance of it being
#1s? I hope not.
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tigresacanela24
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Posted: 01-08-07 22:02pm
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If you're 100% sure of the date that you
slept with him then I don't think so. But
get a paternity test. If you don't mind
me asking, I don't understand how you can
be forced to have sex with someone but not
consider it to be rape...Were you
blackmailed or something?
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WorriedMom2Be
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Posted: 01-08-07 22:09pm
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I was in a very bad situation with an
ex-boyfriend. I will just say that. I
dispise him with every bone in my body for
what he did to me and how he treated me.
I am 100% positive that the last time I
ever had sex with #1 was on june 22nd.
And the doctors are telling me that my
conception date was july 11th at the
earliest. It's just that one thought in
the back of my mind. And in all honesty -
I know that it's my husbands; i'm just
paranoid. I'm having a really bad night
and I might end up at the hospital. I'm
not threatening anything - just saying
that I have problems with anxiety; and
this is really stressing me out.
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Magical Logic
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Posted: 01-08-07 22:42pm
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Wow one guy after another.You must have
been horny 
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foxy
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Posted: 01-09-07 08:21am
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| worriedmom2be
wrote: | let me just say this - I
wasn't raped. But it was definately not
by choice.
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if it was not by choice then its
rape.......You need to realise that it
does not have to be a stranger for it to
be considered rape....Boyfriends and
husbands can commit rape as well, if you
said no and did not want to have sex then
its rape my dear.
Now if you are saying that you didn't want
to have sex but you willingly did it
anyway because of fear/guilt etc.....Well
that's a different story.
| worriedmom2be
wrote: |
with the date of conception given by the
doctors being july 11th....Do you think
there's any realitive chance of it being
#1s? I hope not. |
if you had sex with #1 on june 22 and five
days later got your period.....Then it is
highly unlikely.......Because 5 days is
not even enough time for the baby to
implant.
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 01-09-07 12:11pm
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You saying "i might go to the hospital
tonight, i'm not threatening anything
though" sounds to us like: "i'm a crack
head, but i'm not gonna smoke this rock
that's in my face" 
playing around with not only yours, but
your unborn babies life is totally
selfish.
Think about your "blessing" before you
cut, overdose, or try to kill, yourself.
Sarah
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WorriedMom2Be
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Posted: 01-09-07 12:29pm
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| babymajic0506
wrote: | you saying "i might go to
the hospital tonight, i'm not threatening
anything though" sounds to us like: "i'm a
crack head, but i'm not gonna smoke this
rock that's in my face"
playing around with not only yours, but
your unborn babies life is totally
selfish.
Think about your "blessing" before you
cut, overdose, or try to kill, yourself.
Sarah |
you completely took that the wrong way.
No - the reason I said I might go to the
hospital is because previous to the
pregnancy I was on medication for anxiety.
Lorazepam. I was allowed to have it in
the first two trimesters - but now that
i've entered my third - they told me that
if I was to feel stressed for any reason -
I needed to go straight to the er; because
if I was to have a panic attack or
anything of the sort - it could harm my
baby. So no - I wasn't planning or
threatening to "cut" "overdose" or commit
suicide.
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 01-09-07 12:33pm
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| worriedmom2be
wrote: | | i'm having a really bad
night and I might end up at the hospital.
I'm not threatening anything - just
saying that I have problems with anxiety;
and this is really stressing me
out. |
ok, I didn't take *anyhting* the wrong
way. This (above) is what you said! How
on earth am I supposed to assume it's
because of these specific details you
have, if you *dont* tell me?!?!
Come on, it totally insinuates you're
going to hurt yourself. You should've
explained it a lil better.
About the paternatity of your baba, you'll
have to just wait and see! I hope it is
your hubby's though.
Sarah
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WorriedMom2Be
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Posted: 01-09-07 12:39pm
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| babymajic0506
wrote: | | worriedmom2be
wrote: | | i'm having a really bad
night and I might end up at the hospital.
I'm not threatening anything - just
saying that I have problems with anxiety;
and this is really stressing me
out. |
ok, I didn't take *anyhting* the wrong
way. This (above) is what you said!
How on earth am I supposed to assume it's
because of these specific details you
have, if you *dont* tell me?!?!
Come on, it totally insinuates you're
going to hurt yourself. You should've
explained it a lil better.
About the paternatity of your baba, you'll
have to just wait and see! I hope it is
your hubby's though.
Sarah |
in you complete honesty - do you think
that there's even a chance if any that
it's #1s? I mean - my ob told me that she
[my little girl] was concieved on july
11th. [i only had sex with #1 on june
22nd] and I did have a period on june
27th - july 2nd. The only reason I have
any sort of doubt is because my husband
said "well - sometimes people have periods
when they are pregnant". But when I had
my test done at the doctors office on july
27th - the doctor came in the room and
said "it is a very very very light
result...But it is positive". I just
really want someone to tell me that it's
#2's.
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Magical Logic
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Posted: 01-09-07 12:43pm
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I dont think your doctor can tell what
exact date u concieved on. Its an
estimated date. Nobody on here can tell
you who the father is. Unless you want
one of the girls on here to bust out the
crystal ball
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 01-09-07 12:44pm
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We can't tell you that for sure, hon. It
probably is, but if you want to be sure,
get a paternity test when she's born.
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WorriedMom2Be
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Posted: 01-09-07 12:48pm
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| ayamiyaki
wrote: | | we can't tell you that for
sure, hon. It probably is, but if you
want to be sure, get a paternity test when
she's born. |
thank you.
Gah - it's just killing me. The subject
was brought up last night and I haven't
been able to sleep at all. My husbands at
work; and I just am completely depressed
over it all.
I know it's not my little girl's fault.
But I would just have this hate in my
heart towards her father if it was #1s.
And I don't want that.
My husband says no matter what it's his
little girl and he wants to keep her. But
I would just...I don't know. Maybe it's
just me. But - there's such a hate for #1
for what he did to me, that I would
possibly want to give her up for adoption
so she has the unconditional love that she
deserves.
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Kia
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Re: Please Please Please Help Me.
Posted: 01-09-07 12:52pm
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| worriedmom2be
wrote: | this is a private question
that i'm very worried about.
I was told that i'm 27 weeks pregnant
[will be 28 this wednesday].
My lmp was 6/27/06 [the first day of
it].
I had sex with #1 on june 22nd. And that
was the latest that I had sex with him.
I had sex with #2 june 23rd and on. I
know they told me my conception date was
like july 11th, but is there any
possibility that the baby could be #1's?
And how much? I just really want
reassurance right
now. |
22 june you slept with #1 (and not since)
27 june you had your period
you are not pregnant by this man
11 july you conceived - this has to be
with someone you slept with within 5 days
before - so it is not possible to be #1
based on the information you gave it is
not possible for you child to be fathered
by #1
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 01-09-07 12:54pm
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| worriedmom2be
wrote: | | i know it's not my little
girl's fault. But I would just have this
hate in my heart towards her father if it
was #1s. And I don't want
that. |
then I highly suggest you do not get a
paternity test. Raise her as your
husband's and let her know you as her
mother, the one who loves her unconditionally and without
prejudice, her soft place to fall, the one
she can rely on for support and comfort.
If the only way you can provide this to
her is if you believe she's your
husband's, do not risk that with a
paternity test.
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Posted: 01-09-07 12:55pm
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I am confused sorry, I dont want to pry
into your life but as others has said if
you didnt want sex and you were forced
then thats rape.
I wasnt aware your husband knew about it.
I know I wasnt forced into it or anything
but I have a huge dislike for my eldest
sons father but I love my son more than
anything in the world. To me he is the
most precious thing in the world, that
and his brother of course!
I hope you get the answers you are looking
for. I cant say more because I just dont
fully understand your story!
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WorriedMom2Be
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Thankful
Posted: 01-09-07 13:48pm
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okay - so I just got back from the ob.
They closed for lunch and I just waited
until 130 for them to open the doors. The
nurse saw me outside crying and let me in
immediately.
The doctor; nurse and ultrasound
specialist all said that my little girl is
my husbands. And also that the
possibility of it being #1 is so small -
it's pretty much non-exhistant. They all
strongly agreed it was my husbands.
[because my baby would of measured
differently if it was #1s and the dates
didn't match up to #1, but they matched
perfectly to #2] plus the fact that #1 was
with a condom and #2 we never used
protection.
This reassurance is exactly what I needed.
Thank yall so much.
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Jolie_3110
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Posted: 01-09-07 13:50pm
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Glad you got the answer you wanted. Now
you can look forward to a happy life with
your husband and baby girl!!
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mommao3
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Posted: 01-09-07 17:34pm
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I am glad that you got the reassurance
that you need. Now you can relax a bit
and enjoy having this beautiful new
blessing! Congratulations!
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