Please Please Please Help Me. (Page 1)

Get a paternity test when the child is born. I'm assuming #2 knew you were sleeping with #1? It shouldn't bother him for you to get the test.

Correct. He knew. But it's killing me. And I know the responses im going to get back are "well then you shouldn't of been sleeping with more than one person at a time".

Let me just say this - I wasn't raped. But it was definately not by choice.

Im just praying to god that this little blessing is my husbands. [no I didn't cheat on him - we didn't get married until after I found out I was pregnant]

with the date of conception given by the doctors being july 11th....Do you think there's any realitive chance of it being #1s? I hope not.

If you're 100% sure of the date that you slept with him then I don't think so. But get a paternity test. If you don't mind me asking, I don't understand how you can be forced to have sex with someone but not consider it to be rape...Were you blackmailed or something?

I was in a very bad situation with an ex-boyfriend. I will just say that. I dispise him with every bone in my body for what he did to me and how he treated me. I am 100% positive that the last time I ever had sex with #1 was on june 22nd. And the doctors are telling me that my conception date was july 11th at the earliest. It's just that one thought in the back of my mind. And in all honesty - I know that it's my husbands; i'm just paranoid. I'm having a really bad night and I might end up at the hospital. I'm not threatening anything - just saying that I have problems with anxiety; and this is really stressing me out.

Wow one guy after another.You must have been horny

if it was not by choice then its rape.......You need to realise that it does not have to be a stranger for it to be considered rape....Boyfriends and husbands can commit rape as well, if you said no and did not want to have sex then its rape my dear.

Now if you are saying that you didn't want to have sex but you willingly did it anyway because of fear/guilt etc.....Well that's a different story.



if you had sex with #1 on june 22 and five days later got your period.....Then it is highly unlikely.......Because 5 days is not even enough time for the baby to implant.

You saying "i might go to the hospital tonight, i'm not threatening anything though" sounds to us like: "i'm a crack head, but i'm not gonna smoke this rock that's in my face"

playing around with not only yours, but your unborn babies life is totally selfish.
Think about your "blessing" before you cut, overdose, or try to kill, yourself.

Sarah

you completely took that the wrong way. No - the reason I said I might go to the hospital is because previous to the pregnancy I was on medication for anxiety. Lorazepam. I was allowed to have it in the first two trimesters - but now that i've entered my third - they told me that if I was to feel stressed for any reason - I needed to go straight to the er; because if I was to have a panic attack or anything of the sort - it could harm my baby. So no - I wasn't planning or threatening to "cut" "overdose" or commit suicide.

ok, I didn't take *anyhting* the wrong way. This (above) is what you said! How on earth am I supposed to assume it's because of these specific details you have, if you *dont* tell me?!?!

Come on, it totally insinuates you're going to hurt yourself. You should've explained it a lil better.

About the paternatity of your baba, you'll have to just wait and see! I hope it is your hubby's though.

Sarah

in you complete honesty - do you think that there's even a chance if any that it's #1s? I mean - my ob told me that she [my little girl] was concieved on july 11th. [i only had sex with #1 on june 22nd] and I did have a period on june 27th - july 2nd. The only reason I have any sort of doubt is because my husband said "well - sometimes people have periods when they are pregnant". But when I had my test done at the doctors office on july 27th - the doctor came in the room and said "it is a very very very light result...But it is positive". I just really want someone to tell me that it's #2's.

I dont think your doctor can tell what exact date u concieved on. Its an estimated date. Nobody on here can tell you who the father is. Unless you want one of the girls on here to bust out the crystal ball

We can't tell you that for sure, hon. It probably is, but if you want to be sure, get a paternity test when she's born.

thank you.

Gah - it's just killing me. The subject was brought up last night and I haven't been able to sleep at all. My husbands at work; and I just am completely depressed over it all.

I know it's not my little girl's fault. But I would just have this hate in my heart towards her father if it was #1s. And I don't want that.

My husband says no matter what it's his little girl and he wants to keep her. But I would just...I don't know. Maybe it's just me. But - there's such a hate for #1 for what he did to me, that I would possibly want to give her up for adoption so she has the unconditional love that she deserves.

22 june you slept with #1 (and not since)
27 june you had your period
you are not pregnant by this man
11 july you conceived - this has to be with someone you slept with within 5 days before - so it is not possible to be #1

based on the information you gave it is not possible for you child to be fathered by #1

then I highly suggest you do not get a paternity test. Raise her as your husband's and let her know you as her mother, the one who loves her unconditionally and without prejudice, her soft place to fall, the one she can rely on for support and comfort. If the only way you can provide this to her is if you believe she's your husband's, do not risk that with a paternity test.

I am confused sorry, I dont want to pry into your life but as others has said if you didnt want sex and you were forced then thats rape.
I wasnt aware your husband knew about it.

I know I wasnt forced into it or anything but I have a huge dislike for my eldest sons father but I love my son more than anything in the world. To me he is the most precious thing in the world, that and his brother of course!

I hope you get the answers you are looking for. I cant say more because I just dont fully understand your story!

okay - so I just got back from the ob. They closed for lunch and I just waited until 130 for them to open the doors. The nurse saw me outside crying and let me in immediately.

The doctor; nurse and ultrasound specialist all said that my little girl is my husbands. And also that the possibility of it being #1 is so small - it's pretty much non-exhistant. They all strongly agreed it was my husbands. [because my baby would of measured differently if it was #1s and the dates didn't match up to #1, but they matched perfectly to #2] plus the fact that #1 was with a condom and #2 we never used protection.

This reassurance is exactly what I needed. Thank yall so much.

Glad you got the answer you wanted. Now you can look forward to a happy life with your husband and baby girl!!

I am glad that you got the reassurance that you need. Now you can relax a bit and enjoy having this beautiful new blessing! Congratulations!