I'm Gonna Do It For 1st Time Posted: 01-12-07 11:17am
Hello everyone !
Well the story is like this I am 16 years
old (male), I started to masturbate like
6 months ago, and i'm doing it for about 4
times a week. When I am masturabting I
"finish" it after about 5 mins. Ok so
far its ok ( I think) ? Well 1 month ago
I started to date a girl, and she is very
nice and beutiful she is same age as
I am, but she allready had sex with her
ex-boyfriend. And once when we were
talking about all the bed action, she said
that her ex-boyfriend could hold on for
like 30 min !! In that moment I really
felt low, and had and still have like a
"disorder" feeling. I have been doing
much research across the internet about pe
and how to hold it longer. As far as I
know masturbation is one thing and sex is
another thing. Then again I asked my
self a question if doing a "solo" I could
hold for 5 min, then how long I can hold
it in bed ? 2 mins ? 30 secs ?
And this is the thing, which worries me
very much. Do you guys have any tips,
hints or own experience during the first
time, how to not release it too soon ? I
have read about all these " stop n' start"
methods, but as I said, I dont know how im
gonna react in bed. I have talked to
some guys, they said that a bit of alcohol
helps you to hold it. And another thing,
what should I do when we are getting to it
? How should I start, and how I know
when she is excited enough, so I can enter
her ? I have been watching a bit of
pornographic movies, to educate my self,
but pornopgraphic movies I think is
another thing, than love making in bed.
I know I maybe sound like a pathetic fool,
or anything, just please dont critisize me
( sorry for spelling). I would be glad,
if you would help me.
Thanks !
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fiona05
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Posted: 01-12-07 21:02pm
Aww, hi! You don't sound like a pathetic
fool, I think it's sweet!
Firstly stop stressing out! You're going
to have enough on your plate losing your
virginity without worrying about all this!
I'm sure most people would agree that
whatever you imagine your first time to be
like in your head, when it comes down to
it, everything goes out the window!
Don't put any pressure on yourself. If I
have any advice at all, it's concentrate
on relaxing and enjoying the mood.
All this research you're doing on pe is in
itself premature! You probably have no
problem at all! All this stuff you're
reading is for people who've been secally
active for a while and find they have
issues. I'm sure you'll be fine! When
you're actually having sex this isnt what
you'll be thinking about!
It's a common thing for people to say,
that on a guy's first time he'll not last
long. But i've had sex with two virgins
and for them it was the opposite. They
went going ages. I suppose cos they
weren't used to the feeling. So it just
varies from guy to guy. Everyone's
different.
I guess when she's ready you'll know, if
you don't then just be upfront and ask
her. If you find it's a bit hard to get
it in, try spitting on your fingers and
putting it either on you or on her to ease
it in.
1) relax stop worrying!
2) whatever you do, .D.O.N.T drink alcohol
before! Just trust me on this, you could
introduce a load of other complications.
I'm a heavy drinker myself, this isnt some
anti-drink babble, it's just really not a
good idea before getting laid!
3) don't go by what you've seen in pornos,
as you say, it's very different.
4) wear a condom
good luck and let us know how it went...!
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Mangucho
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jan 2007 Posts: 26
Posted: 01-13-07 20:23pm
Thanks for the advice, you helped me alot
well so I must say it was ehm... Superb !
I masturbated like 50mins before the sex,
and damn during the whole sex I felt like
I have a full command of my body (never
got this when jerking off). In my head I
just said: "don't go, don't go, don't go",
when she reached the climax I said to my
self okay, now you can go off, and like
after 10secs I finished. It was so weird,
like all my body was together with my
mind. For the first round I lasted for
like 20mins, and after a about 8min pause,
I went for a 2nd round and it was like
1hour and a half, she said, that it was
the best time, which she had. I could
breath easily, after that, my confidence
is now higher than ever ! Really this is
the greatest feelings of them all ! All
to the new virgins ot there, who are
afraid about the time, dont be ! Just
every 30 secs say in your mind don't go,
and if you feel really that you cant hold
on anymore, just close your eyes, start
thinking about numbers like I did, and
brreathe slowly and deep.
Oh man I feel like i'd just borned for 2nd
time.
Regards,
mangucho.
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fiona05
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Posted: 01-14-07 21:27pm
Hmm, ignore the guy above. These spammers
are real twats!
Well i'm really glad to hear everything
went so well for you and wish you all the
luck in the future! :d
she is same age as
I am, but she allready had sex with her
ex-boyfriend. And once when we were
talking about all the bed action, she said
that her ex-boyfriend could hold on for
like 30 min !! In that moment I really
felt low, and had and still have like a
"disorder" feeling. I have been doing
much research across the internet about pe
and how to hold it longer. As far as I
know masturbation is one thing and sex is
another thing. Then again I asked my
self a question if doing a "solo" I could
hold for 5 min, then how long I can hold
it in bed ? 2 mins ? 30 secs ?
