Zanny
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Don't Know Who Else to Talk To..
Posted: 01-12-07 14:39pm
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I dunno what to do.. I hate my body so
much i've pretty much stopped eating
altogether.. I know i'm stupid but I
really hate what I see when I look in the
mirror. I just want to be beautiful and I
want .Jonny to fancy me again.
Sorry, there's just no-one else I can talk
to about this, coz they never take me
seriously. I know it's stupid to get
upset, but I guess my hormones are all
screwed up at the moment, too.
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oh_mommy
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Posted: 01-12-07 14:52pm
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Dont worry I think everyone feels that way
after the baba is out.. I do, but u gotta
eat for ur baba so u stay heathy and can
take care of her.. I look at my streach
marked boobs and belly and my wrinky belly
button and I feel like my body is ugly...
But remember it will get back to normal
after time
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 01-12-07 14:58pm
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Awww girl,you'll be fine.Its gona take you
a while to get use to your body.You just
had a baby and your body isn't the
same,but its suppose to be like that.I
can't talk cause i've never had a kid but
it *will* get better if you work on it.Pm
me if you ever wanna talk.
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Bridget
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Posted: 01-12-07 15:00pm
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Aw zanny, I think you're beautiful and I
truly *love* your new hair! But I know
what you mean, I feel pretty disgusting
and undesirable.
Are you not eating because you want to
lose weight? If so, your starving body
will hold on to the weight. Why not try a
diet plan or some exercise to help shed
the weight? I don't think you gained much
when you were pregnant but i'm sure you're
scrutinizing every little thing about your
new body.
I'm sure jonny still thinks you're
beautiful too! Don't worry, it just takes
time for your body to get back together.
Your body may seem wrecked but you got a
gorgeous little girl out of it!
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Kia
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Posted: 01-12-07 15:05pm
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It's the same with any weight loss and
even more so after pregnancy (you also
have to reduce you increased blood levels
and stuff as well).
It took 9months for your body to get where
it is now, allow yourself just as long to
change it back.
Not eating actually makes it worse because
your body starts to retain fats and
liquids in order to survive.
If you really want to take control be
active and focus on eating healthy.
Maybe even do a detox diet if you aren't
breast feeding.
But yeah by not eating your skin and the
rest of your body lacks essential
nutrients and therefore skin gets that
sallow uncared for look - not eating won't
make you attractive.
Eating healthy will.
And, who says jon doesn't fancy you any
more?.
You need some "me time" time to have a
long bubble bath, manicure and pedicure,
to go with your gorgeous hair.
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arcadia
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Posted: 01-12-07 15:06pm
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Zan, you are gorgeous &you have
to stay healthy for your little .Jenny!
She needs you to be healthy! Your body
will get back to normal eventually- just
eat healthy, use some cocoa butter on your
stetchies, &when .Jenny is a little
older, start working out! You're
beautiful &.I want you to be happy!
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ThriftyGal
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Posted: 01-12-07 15:16pm
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Zanny on your myspace there is body shot
of you after jennie, and I promise you,
you look really freaken good. Not even
for just having had a baby, you just look
really freaken good period. I know what
it feels like to feel disgusted with
yourself, and i'm sorry you feel like
that! It's an ugly place to be.
Working out is the best though, not for
just losing weight, but it makes you feel
a million times better and really helps
with those little depressed feelings.
Seriously, don't stop eating, start
working out, and then eating healthy
sometimes just naturally follows (it did
for me, cause I know when I was feeling so
good from working out I didn't feel like
over eating and eating tons of junk.)
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 01-12-07 15:23pm
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| tanyaface
wrote: | | zanny on your myspace there
is body shot of you after jennie, and I
promise you, you look really freaken good.
Not even for just having had a baby,
you just look really freaken good period.
I know what it feels like to feel
disgusted with yourself, and i'm sorry you
feel like that! It's an ugly place to
be. Working out is the best though, not
for just losing weight, but it makes you
feel a million times better and really
helps with those little depressed
feelings. Seriously, don't stop eating,
start working out, and then eating healthy
sometimes just naturally follows (it did
for me, cause I know when I was feeling so
good from working out I didn't feel like
over eating and eating tons of
junk.) |
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Kia
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Posted: 01-12-07 15:40pm
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Working out releases endorphins I do
believe - the body's own natural "feel
good" hormones 
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Becky
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Posted: 01-12-07 15:57pm
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I was thinking the same thing tanya.
Zanny I was .S.O.O.O.O.O jealous of your
myspace pic that you took after giving
birth. You look gorgeous girl!
Believe me I have lost alot of weight and
now I feel tired all the time. I am
slowly starting to put it back on again
but it drains energy out of you. Not what
you need when you have kid/s to look
after.
Just take it slowly and eat healthily.
Don't try drastic measures as they usually
fail and, like I said, you will end up
drained of energy with bad breath and
constant hunger pangs. 
love you hun! You look great!
Xxxxx
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Zanny
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Posted: 01-12-07 16:32pm
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Thank you.. I love you guys.
I've always hated my body, it just makes
it worse now. I've been bullied all my
life about how I look. Pathetic that I
still let it get to me, I know.. But i've
had all confidence knocked out of me.
Jonny doesn't seem to find me attractive
anymore.. And the other week he even made
a list of all the women he'd like to sleep
with.. All of whom were a hell of a lot
skinnier than me. I know it's stupid to
get worked up about that, but it hardly
made me feel better about myself.
I don't think I stopped eating to lose
weight.. I just don't feel hungry
anymore. I do feel tired and dizzy
sometimes.. But I manage to take care of
.Jenny ok. I tried to eat something today
but couldn't manage very much coz it made
me feel sick.
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 01-12-07 16:42pm
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| zanyzanny
wrote: |
jonny doesn't seem to find me attractive
anymore.. And the other week he even
made a list of all the women he'd like to
sleep with.. All of whom were a hell of
a lot skinnier than me. I know it's
stupid to get worked up about that, but it
hardly made me feel better about
myself. |
you think its stupid to get worked up over
him making a list of women he wants to
sleep with?!?!?!? F*ck no it isn't!
Thats one of *the most* disrespectful an
unthoughtful things to say to someone who
just effin had *your* baby! How could he
say something like that! Id ring his
neck!
Your beautiful girl! Everyone sees it but
whats most important is that *you* see it
yourself.Screw jon,you don't need
that.Don'tt hin kabout what him or anyone
else has to say.Its what *you* think about
yourslef that matters.If *your* not happy
with somethign,fix it,if someoe else isn't
happy with something,tell them to go f*ck
themselves! I <3 you!
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Kia
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Posted: 01-12-07 16:46pm
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| zanyzanny
wrote: | | jonny doesn't seem to find
me attractive anymore.. And the other
week he even made a list of all the women
he'd like to sleep
with.. |
excuse
me?
did I read that right?
Bi*ch slap him from here to next week.
That is bang out of order for any man to
do whatever his girlfriend/fiancee/wife is
feeling - even if she is full of
confidence and on top of the world.
Sorry but he just went down down down in
my estimation.
I'm gobsmacked, sweetie that must have
been heartbreaking. I'm sending you lots
of bug hugz (yes bug - they're the squishy
kind  )
you are worth so much more than that kind
of treatment.
<<< this does not come near how
mad I feel at this guy I have never met -
wow just wow
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 01-12-07 16:49pm
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I'm with .Mel. If .Aaron ever said "ooh
.I'd like to eff suchandsuch and
suchandsuch" .I'd slap him in his mouth.
I'd be like "well guess what, you don't
get
to eff suchandsuch or suchandsuch. And
now you don't get to eff me either, you
big 'tard." how utterly disrespectful.
jenny needs her mommy to be healthy. She
needs your love and comfort, needs to feel
your arms cuddling her, and needs to feel
those lovey positive vibes only mommies
can deliver. You have to take care of
yourself darling, for her sake if not for
your own. Maybe you should resume taking
your prenatals, and possibly contact your
doctor if you start feeling worse. I
don't want you to start slipping into ppd.
If you ever need to talk, you know
we're here for you! We love you babe!
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LaurensEntourage
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Posted: 01-12-07 16:55pm
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My husband learned very quickly not to
pull that shi†. We were at a friends
house the other day and he was on their
computer and he says "hey babe, remember
how I said I cheated on that one girl with
her sister? That's because her sister
looks like this" and shows me a picture of
this chick that actually looks pretty
similar to me. So I showed our friends
girlfriend this picture of this *gorgeous*
guy I had slept with right before I met my
husband. He shut up pretty quickly.
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michelle1981
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Posted: 01-12-07 17:09pm
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It doesn't help if your b/f is making a
list of all the other ladies he'd like to
screw. He needs to be supportive and
encouraging than belittling you. That's
horrible .Zan!
I agree, kick his behind!!!!!!
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 01-12-07 17:12pm
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| michelle1981
wrote: | it doesn't help if your b/f
is making a list of all the other ladies
he'd like to screw. He needs to be
supportive and encouraging than belittling
you. That's horrible .Zan!
I agree, kick his
behind!!!!!! |
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michelle1981
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Posted: 01-12-07 17:18pm
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| melissa_20
wrote: | | michelle1981
wrote: | it doesn't help if your b/f
is making a list of all the other ladies
he'd like to screw. He needs to be
supportive and encouraging than belittling
you. That's horrible .Zan!
I agree, kick his
behind!!!!!! |
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lol
i tried saying it in a nice way 
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Zanny
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Posted: 01-12-07 17:23pm
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Hehe yeah maybe I should.
He did that even after i'd nearly broken
up with him for all the sh*t on his
myspace page (he's since deleted it)...
He was pretending to go out with other
girls, and even sent a pic of some girl to
someone telling them she was his
girlfriend. The girl left comments on his
page saying stuff like "i love you so
much, i'm so glad we're back together
again" etc.. He claims it was all a joke,
and it was just a way of making this other
girl jealous.
I don't know why he couldn't have just
told this "other girl" that *i* was his
girlfriend, and showed her a pic of me
instead..
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Kia
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Posted: 01-12-07 17:30pm
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| zanyzanny
wrote: | | i don't know why he couldn't
have just told this "other girl" that *i*
was his girlfriend, and showed her a pic
of me
instead.. |
Sounds more like he is trying to make you
jealous.
Zan, if you want this guy I suggest you
sit him down calmly and talk about this,
if he won't talk, well, you're better off
with someone who loves you for you.
You deserve to be treated like a princess.
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