Help! I’m Completely In Love And Very Depressed Posted: 01-12-07 23:06pm
Hi, i’m 23, I had a boring life, then
all of a sudden this girl asks me out,
things happen we go out another 2 times
and I fall completely in love, everything
in her is perfect.
We haven't gone out since (1 month) at
first I thought she hadn't the same
interest, but as I got to know here it
looks like she is a very busy person,
cause she shows concern for me.
We are friends now, I told her I like her
and she told me she likes me too but as
she just broke a very long relationship
isn't ready to have a boyfriend, plus she
says she can't promise anything but that I
have a chance.
In school she is always surrounded by
friends and she is like always into
something, it's impossible to get her
alone.
I initially thought she didn't care for me
anymore, but she calls me and we speak on
the phone sometimes 3 times a week, so I
guess she likes me.
The thing is, it looks like it's going to
be some time till she want to be with
someone, in the meantime I ask her out as
a friend but she is always busy, im
confused, I know she likes me but doesn't
show the same interest, i’ve asked her
if ill ever kiss her again and she says
probably yes.
I can't stand it, I think of her all day,
i’d like to at least be her friend, but
I don't know, the pain in my heart becomes
unbearable at times, I wish it would just
end, last time I was like this it lasted
like 2 years, I don’t want 2 years of
living hell, help please!!
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hannah4
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Dec 2006 Posts: 5
Re:help! I’m Completely In Love And Very Depressed Posted: 01-13-07 00:44am
I had the same problem before. I liked a
guy but I was much undecided also cusp he
was very different from me. He was like
u I think...Calm, obedient. And suddenly
he didn't ask me if he can kiss me. He
just did it, and he didn't ask me if we
can go out...He just came and pick me up.
And it worked cuz I fall crazy in love 4
him. Maybe u should try be more self
confident and risk it more...What you've
got to loose? Maybe u will win in
fact...Her heart. Meet friends for best
advices goodluck.
well dude !!! YOU know what the problem
is, fix it. i used to be just like you all
wishy washy, no self confidence, blah,
blah, blah. all i did was to make up my
mind to be INTERESTED in people and forget
my own crap. it WORKED !!! i'm engaged to
the most beautiful girl ever. share your
heart with this girl that you want. you
MUST be true to yourself before you can be
to someone else. you said that you asked
her if you'll ever get to kiss her again
and she said yes. what does her answer
TELL YOU ??? you have some fast, hard work
to get done, get honkin dude !!!
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paul995
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Apr 2007 Posts: 140 Location: ,
Posted: 05-02-07 19:08pm
It must have been a hurtful feeling for
the girl as you said that she just ended a
2-year relationship. Respect it.
I think that the girl is very sincere when
she loves. a 2-year relationship is hard
to let go. the pain and the emotional
baggages that go with it are unbearable.
Here comes "you", the knight in shining
armor who saved the princess from further
devastation. She must have seen something
in you that's why she went out and shared
feelings with. Take it as a complement.
However, you linger on thoughts as to
whether she'll be yours. She said she
can't promise you anything. It's all
because the pain is still there, and you
just can't take that away immediatiely.
The best thing that you could do right at
this very moment is to befriend her. Be a
friend without being too agressive that
you would want her to be your girl. It's
your sincerity that would make her feel
good and find comfort in you. Make her
feel that you are not pressuring her. Make
her feel that you are a genuine friend.
Who knows, she'll get over her past
relationship with your help, might realize
that you're far more better than her ex,
and later on, might end up together.
