What Do You Tell a 4 Y.o. Why Her Dad Isn't Around? Posted: 01-13-07 10:22am
My granddaughter's biological father is
not active in her life. His mother and
brothers are, tho, so she knows she has a
grandmom and uncles. To further confuse
the issue, my daughter is living with a
man whom my granddaughter knows as her
daddy. He has been in her life since she
was 1. She's now asking questions about
her uncles and their relation to her
"daddy." she knows her grandmom is not
her daddy's mom. She's trying to figure
out who's who and my daughter is stuggling
with what to tell her and how much. I
opt for the truth, but how much can a 4
y.O. Handle? And what is the best way
to tell her? Any advice????
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lil_blaze2004
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Posted: 02-01-07 14:23pm
Sorry the response is so late, but I thikn
it wuold be best to explain it to her in a
way where you tell her she is lucky
because so many people have "chosen" to be
in her life. You can say her real
father was sick or something but his
family is here to love you. It's hard to
explain to ta 4 yr old sometimes.
Depends on their maturity.
Good luck.
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Beline
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Posted: 04-10-08 15:40pm
I understand your dilemma. My ex-husband
disappeared as soon as our divorce was
finalized. My little girl was two at the
time. She is 3 and a half now, and has an
obsession with people ‘coming back’.
If her grandfather, for instance, goes to
the store she just ‘switches off’. As
soon as he’s back it looks like somebody
switched a light on in her little face,
she’ll hug him and repeat: ‘you came
back, you came back’. We shower her with
love and attention but that hurt just
doesn’t seem to go away.
I know she will one day ask me why her dad
is no longer with us, and I dread the day
I’m going to have to tell her. For now I
think lil blaze is right. Focus on people
who WANT to be with her.
