Becky
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the Story of Neil Being An A**hole (really Bad)
Posted: 01-16-07 07:17am
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Ok so neil came round to see logan for his
birthday. I just knew it would end in
tears but I gave him the benefit of the
doubt.
When he came in he had a big smile on his
face and announced 'i'm going to the army
in april' I laughed thinking he was joking
but he was deadly serious. He hasn't
signed up yet but his contract with the
company his working for ends in april so
he said it's the ideal oppurtunity.
I was speechless. He has talked about
joining the army in the past (whilst we
were together) and I told him if he ever
did I would leave him cause he would be
turning his back on me and the kids.
He has no logic behind joining the
army. He is not doing it for his counrty
(he is portuguese) he basically just wnats
to do it for him so he is going to risk
never seeing his kids again.
I said what about your kids? Aren't you
going to miss them?!!! He said I will
visit them twice a year. I said no to
this because I think it will break the
kids hearts seeing their dad twice a year
for a week. They will miss him like
crazy. I'd rather they never see him.
All he could talk about was how he has to
break up with his new girlfriend. I said
I don't give a f**k about maria. Your
kids should come before anything!
Including a stupid urge you have.
I'm sure he thinks it's going to be a
vacation or something! He said to me 'you
always knew I wanted my freedom' then
robbie said 'freedom? Are you serious?
You don't have freedom in the army. You
do as your said and work like a dog'
i don't even know if he'll get in as he
has a problem with one of his eyes and he
can't see 100% out of it. But the way I
feel I said to my mum and robbie that if
he even makes the application (even if he
doesn't get in) then i'm not going to let
him see the kids anymore because in my
eyes he has deserted them already in his
mind. I will fight it in court if I have
to.
He is such a selfish a**hole for putting a
stupid whim that he has before the kids.
I could understand if he had a valid
reason other than 'i just want to do it'
i told him to get out of my house and
then I burst into tears when he left.I
just feel so sad for my kids that their
dad is going to desert them. I grew up
without a dad so I know how it feels.
That is the only reason why I am angry at
him for doing this
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tigresacanela24
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Posted: 01-16-07 08:39am
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Wow! I don't even know what to say
becks... I'm sorry that you feel that
way about it. Personally, I feel the
same way that you do about the army but I
don't know if that's typical or not for
americans. Seems like here joining the
army is the thing to do. Patriotic glory
and all that. But you said he's not
doing it for patriotism... I can't
understand why he would want to join the
army and be unable to see logan and
layla... I'm sorry to hear that he's
that much of an ass... 
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Becky
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Posted: 01-16-07 10:42am
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Thank you for that. He said many times
that he hates england and wishes he was
back in portugal so to serve for this
country is just highly hypocritical.
P.S d you still want robbie to make the
elf ears?
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tigresacanela24
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tigresacanela24
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Posted: 01-16-07 10:49am
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If he can... I don't want to
inconvenience anyone....
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Becky
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Posted: 01-16-07 10:54am
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Thats cool. He can do it over the
weekend. I will get onto him to let you
know the price for materials and I will
work out shipping. We won't charge you
anything on top of the bare minimum
required (obviously you're my friend)
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tigresacanela24
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Posted: 01-16-07 11:00am
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Thanks!!! Lol!!! Why is neil all gung
ho to join the english army if he wants to
go back to portugal?
Another question, do you plan on having
the kids learn portuguese? That'd be
cool!
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Becky
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Posted: 01-16-07 11:04am
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Cause he's a person 
i am leaving the choice up to them if they
want to learn portuguese when they are
older. I want them to learn english first
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 01-16-07 11:06am
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Aww,i'm sorry beck.So robby was there
while neil was there? Or you told robby
and he made that comment?
Poor kids,i don't know your laws but
here in the states I don't think they
would grant you full custody and not let
their dad see them .You'll have to have
some real good reasons for him to be
totally out of their lives girl.
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tigresacanela24
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Posted: 01-16-07 11:11am
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Awww! It's cool to be bilingual. Plus
kids learn a lot faster than you think, it
won't confuse them a bit! And since
they'll be speaking english at home with
you, they'll be perfectly fluent in
english. It's a little harder to learn
when you're older. I grew up speaking
english and spanish, and a little kreyol.
I'm not as fluent in kreyol because I
learned it later. English i'm perfect,
spanish I can say anything that I can say
in english. Kreyol I have to think too
hard so I don't really use it...
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Sunflower_pie81
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Posted: 01-16-07 11:39am
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Amelia's nana talks spanish....She is
learing both because all day long
clemensia talks spanish to her and I talk
english to her.....So hopefully she will
speak both....My mother speaks spanish and
french both and so my mom talks spanish to
her during the weekend so that she doesnt'
loose it. Lol i'm wierd...
Well becks...If you are getting a divorce
just wait until he is in the army...I
dont' know about over there....But here
the army takes care of the family and if
you get a divorce while he is in the army
they will make him pay...If I am not
mistaken you can get housing too.
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Posted: 01-16-07 12:01pm
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| tigresacanela24
wrote: | | awww! It's cool to be
bilingual. Plus kids learn a lot faster
than you think, it won't confuse them a
bit! And since they'll be speaking
english at home with you, they'll be
perfectly fluent in english. It's a
little harder to learn when you're older.
I grew up speaking english and spanish,
and a little kreyol. I'm not as fluent
in kreyol because I learned it later.
English i'm perfect, spanish I can say
anything that I can say in english.
Kreyol I have to think too hard so I don't
really use
it... |
lol...I like how you spell .Creole!! It's
very unique!! I think i'm going to use
it!
becks, i'm sorry .Neil is such an ass.
Men are known for that!
Sarah
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tigresacanela24
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Posted: 01-16-07 12:07pm
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| babymajic0506
wrote: | | tigresacanela24
wrote: | | awww! It's cool to be
bilingual. Plus kids learn a lot
faster than you think, it won't confuse
them a bit! And since they'll be
speaking english at home with you, they'll
be perfectly fluent in english. It's a
little harder to learn when you're older.
I grew up speaking english and spanish,
and a little kreyol. I'm not as fluent
in kreyol because I learned it later.
English i'm perfect, spanish I can say
anything that I can say in english.
Kreyol I have to think too hard so I don't
really use
it... |
lol...I like how you spell .Creole!!
It's very unique!! I think i'm going to
use it!
becks, i'm sorry .Neil is such an ass.
Men are known for that!
Sarah |
that's how you spell creole in kreyol. I
didn't learn the cajun french/louisiana
creole or whatever it's really called. I
learned haitian creole or kreyol.
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Posted: 01-16-07 12:11pm
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Aw hun I am so sorry to hear that he still
has his head up his butt. I havnt been on
in a while I was hoping that it would get
better for you and kids not worse. My
heart goes to you and kids. But like she
said I would wait till he joins the army
before the divorse if you can hold out
that long.
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