Please, I Am Lost And In Need of Support Posted: 01-16-07 17:28pm
***i know this is very long... The first
part is just explaining, the *** is my
real question...***
i believe I may be pregnant. I am scared
and I don't know what to do.
I was sexually active while on antibiotics
which my pharmacist informed me was like
having unprotected sex. (i have been on
the pill since 15 for cycts, heavy
bleeding, etc.) the following night after
it was "unprotected" I got the morning
after pill. Since I take my birthcontrol
back to back (skipping a period a few
months at a time to help avoid cycts) it
was suggested to me by the pharmacist and
a nurse over the phone to stop taking them
a few days later to see if my period would
start indicating I was not pregnant. They
said a pregnancy test would take about 2
weeks to be effective, but this may give
me an indication.
We were unprotected on 1/9... I took the
morning after pill on 1/10... I stopped
taking my pill to begin my period 1/14. I
am now 3 days late. A nurse told me over
the phone that this may be an indication I
am pregnant, butthere could also be a
chance the morning after pill affected my
hormones until even now.
*** I need to make a decision now. If I
do decide on abortion I think I will only
do the medication form which has to be
done relatively early. I am 21, I work
full time caring for developementally
disabled children. (in a search for an
abortion forum I mistakenly came across
radical pro-choice sites and read articles
about how the other forms of abortion may
not work and cause birth defects.) if I do
this, I have to do the med kind. I am
also going to school full time to get my
social work degree.
I am terrified that if I chose the med
kind, I heard there is more than one pill
you take at a time. It would not be out
of my character to take one, panic and
change my mind and not take the other.
***also, how do I decide what is right for
me?
On one hand I am a full time employee
a full time student
barely scraping buy with money paying for
school myself
irresponsible with bills, etc.
Forget to feed my puppy
my mom would support my decision in
getting an abortion, but she lives out of
state so I wouldn't have her close
support
am unsure of who I am
i am concerned I am not emotionally stable
enough to carry out with an abortion
on the other hand my job is caring for
developementally disabled children, so I
know I have the ability to nuture, love,
emotionally support, care for, and help
build self esteem
i know I could get help from the state to
continue going to school somehow after I
would take a break
my boyfriend and I have talked and while I
know he would prefer an abortion, I know
he would be there as best as he could
handle either way
i know my mom would support my decision,
but she lives out of state so she could
only offer support long distance
i am unsure I am not emotionally stable
enough to raise a child
adoption is not an option for me, if I
feel a baby inside me I know I will not
let them go... Selfish maybe, but it is
how I feel
i am in desperation. I know that I must
be pregnat. I have no one to talk to, I
am trying to assure my boyfriend
everything will be fine until I know for
sure.
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Tylanas
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Re: Please, I Am Lost And In Need of Support Posted: 01-16-07 20:30pm
ifiwerenamedlola
wrote:
***i know this is very
long... The first part is just
explaining, the *** is my real
question...***
i believe I may be pregnant. I am scared
and I don't know what to do.
I was sexually active while on antibiotics
which my pharmacist informed me was like
having unprotected sex. (i have been on
the pill since 15 for cycts, heavy
bleeding, etc.) the following night after
it was "unprotected" I got the morning
after pill. Since I take my birthcontrol
back to back (skipping a period a few
months at a time to help avoid cycts) it
was suggested to me by the pharmacist and
a nurse over the phone to stop taking them
a few days later to see if my period would
start indicating I was not pregnant.
They said a pregnancy test would take
about 2 weeks to be effective, but this
may give me an indication.
We were unprotected on 1/9... I took the
morning after pill on 1/10... I stopped
taking my pill to begin my period 1/14.
I am now 3 days late. A nurse told me
over the phone that this may be an
indication I am pregnant, butthere could
also be a chance the morning after pill
affected my hormones until even now.
*** I need to make a decision now. If I
do decide on abortion I think I will only
do the medication form which has to be
done relatively early. I am 21, I work
full time caring for developementally
disabled children. (in a search for an
abortion forum I mistakenly came across
radical pro-choice sites and read articles
about how the other forms of abortion may
not work and cause birth defects.) if I do
this, I have to do the med kind. I am
also going to school full time to get my
social work degree.
I am terrified that if I chose the med
kind, I heard there is more than one pill
you take at a time. It would not be out
of my character to take one, panic and
change my mind and not take the other.
***also, how do I decide what is right for
me?
On one hand I am a full time employee
a full time student
barely scraping buy with money paying for
school myself
irresponsible with bills, etc.
Forget to feed my puppy
my mom would support my decision in
getting an abortion, but she lives out of
state so I wouldn't have her close
support
am unsure of who I am
i am concerned I am not emotionally stable
enough to carry out with an abortion
on the other hand my job is caring for
developementally disabled children, so I
know I have the ability to nuture, love,
emotionally support, care for, and help
build self esteem
i know I could get help from the state to
continue going to school somehow after I
would take a break
my boyfriend and I have talked and while I
know he would prefer an abortion, I know
he would be there as best as he could
handle either way
i know my mom would support my decision,
but she lives out of state so she could
only offer support long distance
i am unsure I am not emotionally stable
enough to raise a child
adoption is not an option for me, if I
feel a baby inside me I know I will not
let them go... Selfish maybe, but it is
how I feel
i am in desperation. I know that I must
be pregnat. I have no one to talk to, I
am trying to assure my boyfriend
everything will be fine until I know for
sure.
first... Relax
you need to find out for absolutely sure
if you are pregnant first, before worrying
about abortion or parenthood - which seems
to be what you feel are your best choices.
I also understand your feeling about
adoption... I know that once I started
bonding to the fetus - if i'd decided on
adoption - that I wouldn't be able to give
it up upon birth.
Simply being able to provide the child
with love may not be enough. You are
still very young and in school, plus going
to school. When are you going to have
time for a child now? Where will you get
the money for it? Where will you live?
Will your boyfriend marry you to help you
out - since it is his child too? An
abortion now will not prevent you from
being able to have a happy healthy child
when you are settled in a job and a home,
done with education, and maybe even
married.
There are many things you need to think
about, but first, you need to get that
test taken. Now is a good time to talk
things through with your boyfriend and
discuss all of the available options.
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jenn_smithson
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Nov 2004 Posts: 808 Location: Texas
Posted: 01-16-07 21:35pm
Since you took emergency contraception the
day after the "unprotected" sex, your
chances of pregnancy are only about 2.5%.
So, try to take a deep breath and relax a
health forum are that you won't become
pregnant.
I don't know why they told you to stop
taking your pills but my advice would be
to continue taking them just in case
stopping the regimine causes your body to
ovulate (this has happened for some
women). It's always safer to continue
taking the pills than it is to stop them
for any reason.
For the rest of the month or as long as
you are still on antibiotics, consider
using a barrier method to prevent sperm
from entering your body (condoms, sponge,
spermicide, cervical cap or diaphragm if
you have one of those).
Now you get to wait and this part of it
sucks, trust me I know. But, try to
focus on something else. You have quite
literally done everything in your power to
prevent a pregnancy and the emergency
contraception should work. Try to relax
and just wait for your period. If you
are very worried, you can take a good
pregnancy test about five days before you
expect your period to start. If it comes
up negative, give it a few days for your
period to start. If you don't start
after you're supposed to, take another
pregnancy test.
Try to relax. I think you'll be just
fine.
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IfIWereNamedLOLA
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jan 2007 Posts: 6 Location: US
Posted: 01-16-07 22:24pm
Thank you very much for your responses and
support. I am 3 days late which is very
uncommon for me, although I am aware that
this could be from stress.
Just for sorting out my head purposes...
I do feel like many things may fall into
place in my particular situation... This
(below) is in not in anyway directed
towards suggesting abortion is not an
option, rather, considering both of my
options...
I currently live with my grandmother who
would be willing and has the means to
provide a safe home for the time being
my education would be put on hold once I
had a child, although I believe I would
start up again shortly with reasonable
involvement in school, I would make time
to be a parent, it would become my
priority, education would be #2...
Although I consider furthering my
education to the benifit of a child
my boyfriend is very supportive, however I
would not go into a marriage simply
because of becoming pregnant. Regardless
of how ever our relationship may go in the
future, I know he is and would be as
supportive as he could emotionally handle,
this goes for his family as well
in the event that we could not remain in a
relationship, we have had a friendship for
many years and I know he would support me
as his friend and I believe I would be
prepared to be a single parent
financially it would be a struggle, but my
grandmother is very supportive of me and
was of my mom when she had me young. I
would also use any resources available,
which I know there are from my mom being a
single parent
i belive I would be able to be a
responsible and nurturing parent and do
what would be necessary to provide for a
child
abortion would still be an option
considering the fact that I am 21 years
old and may in fact be too niave to
believe I am fully capable of caring for
another life.
Thank you all so much. I will be
returning when I am certain of my
situation. I am so glad there is a form
like this to help me and other women
recognize we do have a choice. I have
read many of your stories and am inspired
by the strength in those who are able to
find the decision that is right for them
and by the support offered here while we
are in the decision making process and
after the fact.
