Joined: 03 Aug 2004 Posts: 17 Location: Fresno, CA
Is This Normal? Posted: 01-16-07 20:29pm
I have been with my girlfriend for about 5
1/2 years now and will be marrying her
soon. The reason for the procrastination
is because we're both trying to finish
school first. Anyway, during our first
2-3 years of the relationship we had sex
all the time probably couple times a week
or more. Then it started to gradually die
down. Now its once or twice every couple
weeks, but we have moments. I also find
myself looking at porn more often now. I
pretty much masterbate more than we have
sex. Sex was such a routine at the
beginning and i'm wondering if it was
wrong for us to have sex so much at the
beginning. Is this something normal for
couples to go through? I love this girl
alot and I don't want it to become an
issue when we get married. We've both
agreed that its just something that
happens when you've been together for a
long time and its nothing we both complain
about but I was just wondering if this is
a normal thing?
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Mabel
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Re: Is This Normal? Posted: 01-16-07 20:44pm
baldie
wrote:
i have been with my
girlfriend for about 5 1/2 years now and
will be marrying her soon. The reason
for the procrastination is because we're
both trying to finish school first.
Anyway, during our first 2-3 years of the
relationship we had sex all the time
probably couple times a week or more.
Then it started to gradually die down.
Now its once or twice every couple weeks,
but we have moments. I also find myself
looking at porn more often now. I pretty
much masterbate more than we have sex.
Sex was such a routine at the beginning
and i'm wondering if it was wrong for us
to have sex so much at the beginning. Is
this something normal for couples to go
through? I love this girl alot and I
don't want it to become an issue when we
get married. We've both agreed that its
just something that happens when you've
been together for a long time and its
nothing we both complain about but I was
just wondering if this is a normal
thing?
this is completely 100% normal and that
tends to be an excuse people give for
cheating. Your sex life will ebb and flow
throughout your relationship.
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Baldie
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Aug 2004 Posts: 17 Location: Fresno, CA
Posted: 01-16-07 20:59pm
I do think about cheating and i've had
opportunities but losing her is the last
thing I want which is why I haven't
cheated on her. Thanks for the reply and
making me feel alot better.
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HealthySex
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jan 2007 Posts: 414
Posted: 01-16-07 23:51pm
I'd say it's completely normal.
However, that does not mean there aren't
things you can do to increase your's and
her's sexual interest, satisfaction and
general healthy sex life. Look around for
techniques.
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Llewellyn
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 01-21-07 19:55pm
I have experienced that in every long term
relationship that I have been in. I
would say that it is very normal.
