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bebedogger

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Need Pregnancy Related Advice....please Help Posted: 01-18-07 05:18am


I came accross this site, and was intrigued by all the helpful advice, so I thought i'd share my story and hope to get some feedback on the issue. So here goes. I've been in a relationship for a year and a half and along the way have had some rocky roads, but things seemed to be getting on the right path. Unbenounced to me, according to a online pregnancy ovulation predictor we had unprotected sex during my ovulation time frame. He came in me for the first time ever, and I thought since it accidentally happened one time... What are the odds I will get pregnant? Today is 8 days after "conception" and many days until I get my period and I have this brownish mauve spotting and what feels like period cramps. Along with that I have gained weight in my abdomen and my breasts are extremely sore and quite full with blue veins that I have never noticed before. I know I can't take a pregnancy test just yet, but would it be wise to go to the dr's and get blood work drawn? I work in a restaurant/bar and it is a smoky enviornment and if I am pregnant I don't want to subject myself or the child to those harmful conditions. I just wanted to know what opinions there are to the likelyhood of pregnancy. I am also extremely concerned that I will not be able to support myself financially, and if there are any programs that will financially assist someone in my circumstance. Also, how do you tell your partner who has made it clear that having a child is something he is absolutely not ready for? Do you keep it to yourself for a while? I've just heard horror stories from unmarried women who are forced into getting an abortion because of a unwilling/reluctant partner. I don't think I can do this on my own, and it would be wonderful to have a man who was supportive in every aspect of the word, but I can imagine with all the hormones if they walk away it must be terribly painful to go through an entire pregnancy feeling abandoned? Any information about pregnancy related issues would be very helpful to me....... Inexpensive places to buy maternity clothing, baby furniture and clothes, and any good advice on what to expect during pregnancy. I am an only child, and have never been around a baby and I am completely clueless when it comes to pregnancy. Hoping someone will clue me in! Thanks for taking the time to read

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Posted: 01-18-07 06:09am


If u were ovulating theres a great chance , even if it was only one time, it only takes one time lol. It only took me and hubby 2 weeks to get pregnant with our second so anythings possible, blood test id do, but im not sure how soon u can do that . That would be the most accurate.

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Posted: 01-18-07 10:25am


If it is 8 days past ovulation, then I would go ahead and take a home pregnancy test in the next couple of days. A woman normally gets her period about 14 days after ovulation and many tests are very sensitive now. I can't know for sure, but it sounds like the spotting may be implantation bleeding, so pregnancy is definately a possibity.

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Re: Need Pregnancy Related Advice....please Help
Posted: 01-18-07 10:49am

bebedogger wrote:

unbenounced to me, according to a online pregnancy ovulation predictor we had unprotected sex during my ovulation time frame. He came in me for the first time ever, and I thought since it accidentally happened one time... What are the odds I will get pregnant? Today is 8 days after "conception" and many days until I get my period and I have this brownish mauve spotting and what feels like period cramps. Along with that I have gained weight in my abdomen and my breasts are extremely sore and quite full with blue veins that I have never noticed before.

I know I can't take a pregnancy test just yet, but would it be wise to go to the dr's and get blood work drawn? I work in a restaurant/bar and it is a smoky enviornment and if I am pregnant I don't want to subject myself or the child to those harmful conditions.

I just wanted to know what opinions there are to the likelyhood of pregnancy. I am also extremely concerned that I will not be able to support myself financially, and if there are any programs that will financially assist someone in my circumstance. Also, how do you tell your partner who has made it clear that having a child is something he is absolutely not ready for? Do you keep it to yourself for a while? I've just heard horror stories from unmarried women who are forced into getting an abortion because of a unwilling/reluctant partner.

I don't think I can do this on my own, and it would be wonderful to have a man who was supportive in every aspect of the word, but I can imagine with all the hormones if they walk away it must be terribly painful to go through an entire pregnancy feeling abandoned?

it sounds to me like it was not 'unbeknownst' to you when he came inside you. It sounds like you knew. But I won't argue that point.

When you tell him, if he is not ready, perhaps you could explain exactly how pregnancy happens and the fact that he was there doing his part in the whole process. You aren't 'forced' into getting an abortion in any circumstance - and abortion would be a personal choice, no one can 'force' you to get an abortion. You might have hard times, but we all face difficult times and plenty of the women here are or have been single mothers.

For your sake, the child's sake, and your boyfriend's sake, I hope you are not pregnant and this is all wishful thinking.

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Re: Need Pregnancy Related Advice....please Help
Posted: 01-18-07 10:59am

ingi wrote:

bebedogger wrote:

unbenounced to me, according to a online pregnancy ovulation predictor we had unprotected sex during my ovulation time frame.

it sounds to me like it was not 'unbeknownst' to you when he came inside you. It sounds like you knew. But I won't argue that point.

i think she means that she did not know that she was having unprotected sex during her fertile period.

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Re: Need Pregnancy Related Advice....please Help
Posted: 01-18-07 19:10pm

foxy wrote:

ingi wrote:

bebedogger wrote:

unbenounced to me, according to a online pregnancy ovulation predictor we had unprotected sex during my ovulation time frame.

it sounds to me like it was not 'unbeknownst' to you when he came inside you. It sounds like you knew. But I won't argue that point.

i think she means that she did not know that she was having unprotected sex during her fertile period.

but 8 days later she knows? Interesting.

bebedogger

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Re: Need Pregnancy Related Advice....please Help
Posted: 01-19-07 01:42am

ingi wrote:

foxy wrote:

ingi wrote:

bebedogger wrote:

unbenounced to me, according to a online pregnancy ovulation predictor we had unprotected sex during my ovulation time frame.

it sounds to me like it was not 'unbeknownst' to you when he came inside you. It sounds like you knew. But I won't argue that point.

i think she means that she did not know that she was having unprotected sex during her fertile period.

you misunderstood. I didn't know I was ovulating the time of the unprotected sex until I came accross a website that tells you the most fertile days for you based upon the information provided, and most certainly didn't mean I didn't know I was having unprotected sex. I'm in a monogomous relationship, and certainly know the ramifications of having unprotected sex; but, have spent a large majority of time on depo provera and even on that wouldn't let him exaculate inside of me as an extra precaution. I didn't ask questions or come on here to get judged. I simply wanted to know from those who have been pregnant before, and have had implantation bleeding, if what I described may have been similar to their experience.

But 8 days later she knows? Interesting.

bebedogger

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Re: Need Pregnancy Related Advice....please Help
Posted: 01-19-07 01:46am

foxy wrote:

ingi wrote:

bebedogger wrote:

unbenounced to me, according to a online pregnancy ovulation predictor we had unprotected sex during my ovulation time frame.

it sounds to me like it was not 'unbeknownst' to you when he came inside you. It sounds like you knew. But I won't argue that point.

i think she means that she did not know that she was having unprotected sex during her fertile period.

well, thank you for understanding my question. I didn't know I was ovulating at the time. You hit the nail on the head...Lol

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Posted: 01-19-07 02:51am


That's what happened in my situation. I had no idea when my fertile days were, &my boyfriend &.I apparently had unprotected sex during those days, because .I ended up pregnant. &.It didn't even cross my mind until .I noticed little things about 8 or 9 days later. It was mainly the veins in my boobs. I swore that they were super noticeable &.I started to wonder if .I could be pregnant. So .I looked up when, on average, .I would've been ovulating, &sure enough.. I took a test with .First .Response 3 days before my period &got a faint positive. I didn't have any implantation bleeding. Good luck!