????? Where to Go From Here ???????

Alright.

Me and my ex- keep trying to make things work. I call him my "ex" because at this point- I know it's not "boyfriend."

when we go out- we have a blast. Our opinions on things are different- which doesn't really bother me. What bothers me, is that I cannot do the things I normally did before we started dating. It's like- we have to do what he wants. Like he has to have control.

I'm a very independent person- he's very needy and needs consent attention/reassurance. I am willing to bend alittle, because if you care about the person- compremise [sp?] is the key. He's gotten better with it-but I am not sure he's going to keep that up. He is finally supportive of my goals- and is trying. Before- he would question everything- from going back to college, to helping my family- and wasn't supportive.

I do help my family alot. My parents are older, and they've helped me through alot. I have a very *small* family- and I cherish them...Even though sometimes, I am asked alot to do. I like doing it though- but it bothers him. My father needs assistance with computer- since he is not good with them- so I am basically his part-time secretary. The "ex" doesn't like that either. I feel- that he should be supportive and as long as it's not a daily occurance- and he needs to back the heck off. You should be able to do the things you did while you were still single. And it helps pays my bills- I do get paid for it.

I want this to work...But part of me thinks why am I doing this? I do care for him, a great deal- and we've had our share of probelms...I guess I was just wondering if anyone is going through the same thing? When is enough, enough when it comes down to compremizing?

Currently, I am back at my folks house- for living arrangements. He is living in "our" apartment- while I still pay for half of the rent, while he lives there [both names on the lease.] I don't pay utilities- he does. And if things between got better- I might move back. I took all of my belongs [i left him my bed to be kind.] I pretty much furnished the place. I proceeded to tell him, if we get better- maybe i'll move back. I did have an obligation.. And I did sign a lease, and miss him from time to time. Not only that- but it would be good for me, to have the experience with living with someone- to see if I got another place- if I could do it. When I told him this- he wasn't that excited, and told me he got used to living by himself. He also proceeded to tell me, that in order for this to work, I would have to move back in, asap- to have at least 6 months experience of living with each other, before he feels comfertable with me again- that I won't "abandoned" him- and he can fully trust me. Why is there a set schedule for him? What about me? What about meeting half-way on this?

I didn't see him having a problem having sex with me.... So I assume just from that, that he's "comfertable." our lease is up at the end of september. He also told me that he plans on moving out of our apartment, once the lease is up- and getting his own place. I cannot afford to live on my own at the moment- and living at home isn't so bad. But he keeps telling me about it... And I often wonder why he is bothering with me.. If he plans on getting what he called a "bachelor pad."

is he just using me, until the lease is up? Am I wasting my time? I know he loves me...Deep down.. I can tell. But sometimes, the way he talks to me... I question it.

*any* advice... Please..Please... I am at the point, I don't know what to do. And I am driving my poor friend melissa crazy with this~!

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