Me and the love of my life have been
together for almost 2 years now. We have
had 2 scares that I might be pregnant.
The first one over a year ago and now we
just went through one but I got my period
3 days ago. This time hit me hard though
becuase I really was hoping for it to be
true that I was pregnant. Me and my love
both want a child and we have the means of
providing for one. Im 17 going to be 18
in 5 months and my love is 18 already. Is
it wrong to start a family now? (i might
be pregnant as it is im still having
morning sickness and my period isnt
normal) if you have any questions let me
know.
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blacktear
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Jan 2007 Posts: 18 Location: Kelowna, Bc, Canada
Posted: 01-22-07 04:56am
I dont think its wrong for you to want to
be pregnant, I wanted to be pregnant for
the past 2 years, and finaly at 18 with my
boyfriend I said well lets do this, we
want one, and we are able to take care of
a baby, so we did it. Just think really
hard about it, try picturing in your head
how life is going to be like after having
a baby, cuz you are the babies mother, so
you cant just give the baby back to
someone when your done playing with her
lol theres already been a few times where
I think, caca did I make a mistake by
doing this? But I think thats just my
hormones right now cuz I really couldnt be
happier. Just make sure that you are
ready to basicaly completly change your
life, I know I few ppl that just dont
handle change very well. But if its what
you want and you are ready and are able to
take care of the baby finacial wise than
go for it!
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 01-22-07 05:49am
Babies need:
stability
a home
love
at least a basic level of care and
guidance
they also need you to be able to provide
for them financially.
If you can honestly provide that then no
it isn't wrong.
Just don't be under the impression it will
be easy because it won't.
It won't be easy whether you are 18 or
28.
Being a parent means you give up being
able to do what you want when you want.
Sure you can still go out but you need to
be able to plan things around baby
instead.
I's say at least try to get school
finished and have a steady income and a
stable home and relationship.
See if a local
school/college/hospital/planned parenthood
runs parenting classes, as these will help
you also (regardless of age).
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Mabel
Moderator
Joined: 09 Mar 2006 Posts: 8956 Location: Grinning like a Cheshire Cat,
Thanks: 179
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Re: Is This Wrong? Posted: 01-22-07 20:42pm
quietlyconfused
wrote:
me and the love of my life
have been together for almost 2 years now.
We have had 2 scares that I might be
pregnant. The first one over a year ago
and now we just went through one but I got
my period 3 days ago. This time hit me
hard though becuase I really was hoping
for it to be true that I was pregnant.
Me and my love both want a child and we
have the means of providing for one. Im
17 going to be 18 in 5 months and my love
is 18 already. Is it wrong to start a
family now? (i might be pregnant as it
is im still having morning sickness and my
period isnt normal) if you have any
questions let me
know.
take a pregnancy test then worry about
everything else. You may not even be
pregnant.
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Llewellyn
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 01-22-07 22:03pm
I do not think that it is wrong to want a
baby, but I do think that it is wrong to
purposefully have one if you know you
can't give it everything that it deserves.
Babies take a lot of time, money, and
stability.
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nadia19
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Dec 2006 Posts: 170
Re: Is This Wrong? Posted: 01-22-07 22:42pm
quietlyconfused
wrote:
me and the love of my life
have been together for almost 2 years now.
We have had 2 scares that I might be
pregnant. The first one over a year ago
and now we just went through one but I got
my period 3 days ago. This time hit me
hard though becuase I really was hoping
for it to be true that I was pregnant.
Me and my love both want a child and we
have the means of providing for one. Im
17 going to be 18 in 5 months and my love
is 18 already. Is it wrong to start a
family now? (i might be pregnant as it
is im still having morning sickness and my
period isnt normal) if you have any
questions let me
know.
i'm 19 and I found out I was
pregnant(wasn't expecting it) in early
december. I was really scared and
confused. It would have been really hard
for me and my boyfriend to take care of
that baby because it was just bad timing
and for financial reasons but we both
wanted to keep him/her. I lost that baby
last week. I'm so sad that it happened.
I loved him/her already and I was
preparing for the arrival. But in my
heart, I always knew I would never be able
to give my baby what he/she truly
deserved. I'm 19 years old, my
relationship was stable, but way far from
perfect, I was just starting college, i'm
in debt (still am
gawd-how do you get out of that??) and
wasn't working a lot. But I was always
gonna do my best and try hard to provide
everything I possible could for my child.
And now after losing the baby, i've never
wanted one more in my life. I *yearn* to
be a mommy. But I also know, that the
situation didn't change. I'm still in
college, my relationship is still a bit
rocky and i'm still 19!! I *still* won't
be able to provide everything that my baby
deserves. And you're only 17!! You're
still soooo young. Enjoy school-i assume
you're still in highschool. Party. Have
fun. There's sooo much time left in your
life to start a family. If you have one
now, you'll never get back your teen
years. Your baby deserves *everything* in
the world! If you're ready to provide
that, then I guess there's no one to stop
you. I just hope you'll think long and
hard about this. You're still so young.
(so am I and oh-my-gawd- I need an
alcoholic beverage soon before I explode,
I haven't had one since I found out in 2
months ago) anyway, enjoy your life. I
hope you make the right decision.
gawd-how do you get out of that??) and
wasn't working a lot. But I was always
gonna do my best and try hard to provide
everything I possible could for my child.
And now after losing the baby, i've never
wanted one more in my life. I *yearn* to
be a mommy. But I also know, that the
situation didn't change. I'm still in
college, my relationship is still a bit
rocky and i'm still 19!! I *still* won't
be able to provide everything that my baby
deserves. And you're only 17!! You're
still soooo young. Enjoy school-i assume
you're still in highschool. Party. Have
fun. There's sooo much time left in your
life to start a family. If you have one
now, you'll never get back your teen
years. Your baby deserves *everything* in
the world! If you're ready to provide
that, then I guess there's no one to stop
you. I just hope you'll think long and
hard about this. You're still so young.
(so am I and oh-my-gawd- I need an
alcoholic beverage soon before I explode,
I haven't had one since I found out in 2
months ago) anyway, enjoy your life. I
hope you make the right decision.