Joined: 22 Jan 2007 Posts: 171 Location: Long Beach, Ca
Mental Health. Posted: 01-22-07 15:25pm
I seem to have a problem. I seem to have
been traumitized by my last girlfriend.
We lived together and after about 5 months
I found out that she was very permiscious
in the past. If I would have known this
I would never have touched her. I tryed
to put it behind me but it kept comming
up. I tend to get angry when I find out
that a girl has had multiple partnets and
I havnt been with anyone since in the
fright that they have been with mulitple
partners. It seems like everyone has
such a lax attitude when it comes to sex,
im super reserved and think its the most
important thing a human can share with
another. what is my problem.
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Llewellyn
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 01-22-07 16:09pm
Some people are open about sex and some
aren't. Some people have sex anytime
with anyone, some people don't. There
are plenty of people like you and plenty
like your ex. There is not necessarily
anything wrong with either of you. I
like to talk about sex right from the very
beginning of a relationship, before anyone
gets attached. That way, there are no
surprises or misunderstandings like the
one that you had. That might a good
thing for you to start doing at the very
beginnings of your relationships as well
if it is an important issue for you. You
can talk about what you have both done,
what you are both comfortable doing, etc.
There are girls out there who are like
you. If the sex issue bothers you that
much, don't settle for what you don't want
and aren't comfortable with. You can
find a girl without much experience if you
look.
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Color of Paper
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Jan 2007 Posts: 171 Location: Long Beach, Ca
Posted: 01-22-07 17:04pm
Thank you for your response...Very much.
You make great sense to me by saying talk
about it before anyone gets attached. I
am still in contact with my ex and I think
its time to cut that off if im still
having these horrid images/thoughts.
Keep in mind i'm bipolar and have a
problem with ruminating thoughts, chewing
them up over analizing them etc. Thank u
for your reply again...It will help me
though this day.
