oh_mommy
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Sigh
Posted: 01-22-07 21:52pm
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Shawns mad at me... For not taking meat
out and have not had made dinner, ive been
nusy... He dosnt understand that reese
makes me drop everything to tend to him...
Hes just, gah...
Hes just being a d*** latily, he wants
everything his way, he only does what he
wants.. We never go anywhere unless its
to his moms so he can work on his car..I
suggested going there tonight so I can dry
the soaking floor mat, and hes all like
"no I want to relax i've had a long day"
like I havnt... And the nights hes sposta
get up with reese I end up doing it cause
he health forum and complains, then he
dosnt confert reese the nights he does get
up so I cant sleep anyways, he b**ches
about going to work so I yelled at him
saying "what shawn atleast u get days off
I dont, I have a full time job that I dont
get paid for. I get no thanks, I get up
at night when im tired and sore and sick,
and u bi**h about ur arm being sore, u
b**ch about a sore back" gah
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Mabel
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Re: Sigh
Posted: 01-22-07 21:53pm
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| oh_mommy
wrote: | shawns mad at me... For
not taking meat out and have not had made
dinner, ive been nusy... He dosnt
understand that reese makes me drop
everything to tend to him... Hes just,
gah...
Hes just being a d*** latily, he wants
everything his way, he only does what he
wants.. We never go anywhere unless its
to his moms so he can work on his car..I
suggested going there tonight so I can dry
the soaking floor mat, and hes all like
"no I want to relax i've had a long day"
like I havnt... And the nights hes
sposta get up with reese I end up doing it
cause he health questiones and complains,
then he dosnt confert reese the nights he
does get up so I cant sleep anyways, he
b**ches about going to work so I yelled at
him saying "what shawn atleast u get days
off I dont, I have a full time job that I
dont get paid for. I get no thanks, I
get up at night when im tired and sore and
sick, and u bi**h about ur arm being sore,
u b**ch about a sore back"
gah |
this is the eternal stay at home mom's
plight. For as long as i've ever known
moms who stay home, this is identical to
their complaint. And, often, my own it gets easier.
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hopefulmjz
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Posted: 01-22-07 21:58pm
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I hear ya girl! As .Reese gets older .I
promise things will get a bit easier.
Adriana is 10 months now and she almost
never wants to be held. Now all she wants
to do is explore. Tho she gets into
everything, there are ways to confine
little ones so they don't do that.....I
don't have a play pen, but there are times
.I wish .I had one just to put her in it
to play so .I know she's safe. But .I'm
thinking of getting those little fence
like things for children, you set it up on
the floor and they can't get out
(supposedly!)
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 01-22-07 22:00pm
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Yea, that's what we have to deal with.
They are the ones to get up and go to
"money making" work.
Although .Baron takes over on the
weekends, not many men feel the need to.
You're a mommy now. It's a 24/7 job.
None of us really get the required rest
during the week. Being a mommy is
draining.
But once .Reese gets older, and more
independent, you'll feel much better about
the situation!!
Sarah
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 01-22-07 22:06pm
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This sounds familiar. When .Aaron agreed
to take .Alyvia this evening so I could
have some time to unwind, I thought things
would be fine. After a while I heard her
crying in the other room. I walk in there
and she's sitting in her bumbo crying, and
he's on his computer ignoring her. So I
pick her up and he says "oh she's fine".
Nice parenting.
the other day before he left for work he
asked me to "do something today". Like I
don't spend all day taking care of his
daughter. And when he gets home from work
he's too tired to take her, so I continue
to take care of her while he unwinds.
Most days, the only break I get is when
.Alyvia and I go to bed.
A lot of guys just don't see
stay-at-home-mommies as "working".
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Nataliachick7
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Joined: 02 Apr 2006 Posts: 1535 Location: Wisconsin
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Posted: 01-22-07 23:29pm
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Yep same crap-ola here. exact
same crap. The male species makes me so
mad. But at the same time its like, if
you really think about it, they cant even
help it, its their wiring. I am reading
the book "the female brain". We are just
so different from them....I am starting to
realize I need to stop trying to change
him, cause it is not going to happen
lol.
Granted there are some exceptions but that
is
extremely rare.
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littlesqueaks
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Joined: 06 May 2006 Posts: 296 Location: Caldwell, Idaho
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Posted: 01-23-07 00:20am
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Hey ladies I know the feeling with men bs
but you know what men are like babies
themselves. When you think back before
having kids who did you give all of your
attention to? The man!! When they were
not feeling well or were hurt who took
care of them? Either there mothers or the
wife/girlfriend!!! Most ladies are guilty
of pampering their men in the beginning.
Then they get replaced so you can say they
become a bit grumpy, want things there
way, and pout when things don't. I think
there jealous.
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oh_mommy
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Posted: 01-23-07 01:20am
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Lol I agree heather, they so r
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tinkinpink84
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Posted: 01-23-07 02:02am
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Must be a husband code. Mines the same
way, his excuse is he needs a break
fromwork, I toldhim my job is 24/7 I dont
get off I dont get a break, wich would be
nice just to like have a bath wher eu can
sit and relax while he watches the kids or
something or even runing ot the store
alone to get milk is even nice lol. Me
andmy husband had a whole talk or argument
of this this past weekend so he is trying
to help out more because sometimes it can
be nervwracking, he dont understand that
babies sometimes just want to be held all
day. Last night I made dinner with
jordynne in my arms. I cant stand to hear
a baby cry and not hold them
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ANGELOS MAMA
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Joined: 26 Jul 2006 Posts: 1128 Location: , San Diego,California
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Posted: 01-23-07 05:10am
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| babymajic0506
wrote: | yea, that's what we have to
deal with.
They are the ones to get up and go to
"money making" work.
Although .Baron takes over on the
weekends, not many men feel the need to.
You're a mommy now. It's a 24/7 job.
None of us really get the required rest
during the week. Being a mommy is
draining.
But once .Reese gets older, and more
independent, you'll feel much better about
the situation!!
Sarah |
i agree with sarah.Its really a 24/7
job.Very very stressing.Even though "they
sleep though the night" when there awake
the drain the caca outta you.
I do everything with angelo.I put him in
his walker && do laundry, wash
dishes, cook.Etc. Its hard.Mommma.But im
sure you'll do fine.Keep your head up =)
my schedule each day is crazy.
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chrissy721
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Posted: 01-23-07 06:27am
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Until he does it, he won't understand.
Hang in there, you'll get used to it.
This dude just needs to learn to like
macaroni and cheese, alot! 
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Bridget
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Posted: 01-23-07 11:13am
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Sorry shawn's being a jerk. I'm with
everyone else, unless they do it
themselves guys have no idea what your day
is like. I'm sure a lot of them think
we're just sitting at home watching tv and
hanging out.
I guess I lucked out though. Nick is very
helpful and understanding, he knows some
days stuff doesn't get done because of the
baby but he helps out a lot. He gets up
with finn on the weekends so I can get a
couple full nights of sleep, he offers to
get up with him a couple times during the
week but I won't let him since he needs to
be rested for work. He gives finn his
evening bottle and snuggles with him until
it's his bedtime. He cleans, he offers to
cook (but I prefer to do it), he's
completely taken over caring for the dog.
I only have a couple tiny little
complaints, he leaves his dishes and
glasses all over his desk and he doesn't
put his ties away at the end of the day
(he leaves them on the dresser *next* to
the closet, why can't he actually open the
closet and put them away). I can't
complain though, he's pretty great.
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Sunflower_pie81
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Joined: 17 Jan 2006 Posts: 5041 Location: to hell with this crap
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Posted: 01-23-07 11:46am
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Wow!!! I thought I was bad....And I
don't even have a man to complain about.
I was crying to my mother the other night
because since .Milly has been born I
haven't had a break....But at the same
time I work too. I am a single parent in
every meaning of the term. But on the
same note....I was blessed with a
wonderful child. She is great. It
kinda makes me happy that I didnt' get
married because I would have to put up
with his sh*t too.
I guess all I can say is that it gets
better?!!!!
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lil_blaze2004
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Posted: 01-23-07 11:47am
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That's why I left, he never changed after
countless times of him saying "i'll try more"
I hate that word. I guess I could try and
take care of trey and try and
make sure he's happy and loved and try and
keep my job to supprt my son. So I
fuigured instead of fighting constantly
and having to pick up twice as much cause
of him and our roomate, i'd leave.
I've heard the first yr is the hardest and
it either makes or breaks the couple.
Unfortunately it broke us, but things are
better now. We see each other more and
he's better with trey now. He usually
comes when I need him too since trey has
taken to throwing tantrums all the time
and I feel like i'll lose it sometimes.
Thank god he lives 2 secs away so he can
just run over.
I always hated that he thought I did
"nothing" during the day. Hahahaha. He
angers me off.
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Melissa_20
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Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
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Posted: 01-23-07 11:58am
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This makes me not want to have kids. . .
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Zanny
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Posted: 01-23-07 12:34pm
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This almost makes me kinda glad that jonny
and I live far apart, because while i'm
basically a single mum, it means I don't
have to get mad at him for not helping out
and stuff. Although when he's here he's
usually pretty good at letting me get some
rest.
I just prefer to do most of the stuff
myself.. For some reason I won't let
anyone else sterilise .Jenny's bottles, I
*have* to do it myself for my own peace of
mind. It's the same with changing her
nappies.. If .Jonny does it I get
paranoid he's not cleaned her properly so
I prefer to do that myself too. I guess I
just know how useless guys are. Hehe
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oh_mommy
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Posted: 01-23-07 12:41pm
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Just to think one day reese is going to b
like that to someone.... Ill have to
teach him lol
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Idony
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Re: Sigh
Posted: 01-23-07 13:03pm
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| oh_mommy
wrote: | | hes just being a d***
latily, he wants everything his way, he
only does what he wants..
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lmao, at first I thought you were talking
about reese here...Then I realized who you
were talking about
im sorry hes being like this though, I
hope trevor stays like he is after the
baby is born, he is so helpful right now,
he realizes ive been having a hard time
(being sick so much and the headaches I
get along with school and all) he trys to
help when he can
i watch some kids for one of the girls he
works with and he realizes that I do
infact work all day, watching kids isnt
easy...He knows hes watched a few kids
lol
if he ever gets a few days off in a row,
let him have the first few days to himself
then leave reese with him for a while, let
him see how "easy" it is
i hope it can get better, guys can suck
sometimes
~alicia~
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 01-23-07 13:26pm
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| zanyzanny
wrote: | | it's the same with changing
her nappies.. If .Jonny does it I get
paranoid he's not cleaned her properly so
I prefer to do that myself too. I guess
I just know how useless guys are.
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oh my .God, this is so true. Aaron
doesn't like cleaning .Aly's bits because
he feels a bit wrong, so he gives them a
once-over and concentrates elsewhere (like
the crease of her inner thighs). I can't
count how many times .I've found feces
near/in her vagina folds after he's
changed her last poopy diaper. I get so
mad at him because .I'm scared she'll get
an infection. 
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lil_blaze2004
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Posted: 01-23-07 13:34pm
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I was like that with the bottles too. I
hated that my ex never cleaned the nipples
properly. Diapers on the other hand.
He can change as many as he wants-lmao.
Maybe it would be diff if trey was a girl
but he's not so mike is a little more
knowledgeable about cleaning that area and
pushing his foreskin back than me. Plus
the less poopy diapers I have to change
thehappier it makes me. Lol 
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