Joined: 05 Jan 2007 Posts: 11 Location: 4135 NORTHGATE BLVD.
Husband Needs Space Posted: 01-23-07 06:54am
My husband recently told me that he
couldn’t get over hurt he has felt due
to my withdrawal. He travels almost all
the time and over time i've been hurt
because I never came first. He did try to
make it up to me many times, but I rarely
felt like he was serious about making real
change. I now know I was wrong and i'm
very sorry and ashamed. I've been trying
to help him heal for several months and he
cannot get past it all. Last night
everything came to a head. I thought we'd
made some progress the last few weeks, but
in his mind there has been no improvement
in his feelings. He says he still loves
me and there has been no infidelity. This
morning he left our home and will be gone
indefinitely. He doesn't know how long he
will need to get his mind cleared. He
felt like I constantly pushed him into a
corner when he was home and when we
communicated regularly on the phone when
he was out of town. He said he feels that
if he can get some time on his own with no
distractions from me he will sort this
out. He says he doesn't want a divorce,
but can't go on like he is. We don't
argue and we do treat each other with
compassion and respect. I love him with
all my heart and want him to be happy.
We've been married 4-1/2 years and most of
the time despite the heavy travel we've
been happy. Both are educated with good
jobs and no kids.
Has anyone had a similar experience with
separation? How do I cope with the
uncertainty? How can I help him if I
don't have contact with him?
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darren95al
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Jan 2007 Posts: 11 Location: 4135 NORTHGATE BLVD.
Husband Needs Space Posted: 01-23-07 08:22am
Hello,
I am in a similar situation, but worse.
Totally out of the blue my husband left us
a month ago, saying he doesn't love me
anymore, the spark is gone. We didn't
argue, we treated each other with respect
and I thought everything was ok (not
perfect, but what is perfect?)
i am now trying to work with Dr. Max's
marriage blueprint™ approach, a new
concept in marriage counseling and it
started helping me. I’ve been reading
to find everything I can about how to
handle this and I think she is right.
There is always hope, even in a desperate
situation like mine. Anybody out there
with a different approach?
Good luck
