Normally I don't talk about this stuff,
but because no one knows me here I feel
like laying my problems on the table.
My problem is mainly with my appearance.
I litteraly hate myself sometimes and wish
I didn't exist at all. Granted,
sometimes I feel pretty normal, but my
overall feelings are filled with
negativity. I think to myself "you've
been going to the gym for the last couple
of years and still look long and thin.
Or my head is too small for my body. I
look really strange from the side. My
arms are too thin. My face looks weird
etc..Etc.."
i think the main reason for this is that
i'm 21 years old and never had any sort of
girlfriend to boost my self-esteem. I
don't feel like going out with friends if
there are no girls around and am afraid to
talk to girls.
I've been admiring girls ever since I was
about 7 years old and always fantasized
about how it would be to have a
girlfriend, but I never took any action
and when I tried I didn't have success.
I did meet some girl over the internet and
she's nice and all, but i'm not attracted
to her.
Normally i'm a really nice and honest
person and I always like to make jokes
(probably to make myself feel less
depressed), but for some reason I never
get any attention from girls. Even my
friends never take me that seriously.
I'm always the dude who walks around,
talks to everyone and gets a red face when
talking to an actractive girl. Again I
think that might have to do with my
looks.
I seriously hate it when I think a girl is
attractive and see my friend take off with
her like that even though I talked to her
before.
How can I boost my self-esteem when I get
rejected every time? My family says I
look like a charming guy, but family isn't
a good source to ask about looks. My
friend says I act like a girl with the
self-esteem problems, but why should only
girls have that???
My problem is that my father when he was
as young as I am looked quite silly (he
looks much better now) and everyone tells
me I look like my father.. My mother
told me many times she didn't fall in love
with the appearance of my father, but with
his character.. Sorry, but that doesn't
help me and even makes me feel worse than
I already do.
I don't want to be the ugly and funny guy
anymore.. I want to feel respected and
finally get the girl I like..
Seriously, how is all this possible..!!??
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Color of Paper
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Jan 2007 Posts: 171 Location: Long Beach, Ca
Posted: 02-01-07 13:14pm
I have some very good news for you. You
sound like a really cool guy...I know this
isint what you want to hear but honestly
its the best thing. Giving that you keep
your composure and stay nice and friendly
you will meet a nice and friendly girl
also. The best way to meet a chick is
when you meet them and dont even notice
there looks...Just there attitude...This
is the same with girls. Dont get 2 down
on yourself man...Im the women out of my
group of friends. I get hit on by
guys...Not women.
Another thing...Being slender is good!
And you have been going to the gym which
is really good for your overall health.
Keep at it man and stay up...If you like
telling jokes keep telling them, dont
worry 2 much about others.
I'm 24 and was very immature looking for a
very long time...I was a super super late
bloomer...Like I think I was 18 when I
started getting pubic hair! So I
understand how you feel.
Joined: 22 Jan 2007 Posts: 171 Location: Long Beach, Ca
Posted: 02-06-07 11:23am
Once again you make a super awsome post.
I see so much hope in you and I know its
hard to get though these times.
I dont see a problem with expirmenting in
things...This is life...Things are here
....And we are human, its natural.
Keep your head up....Time will make things
much much better.
If your gona be drinking the best thing to
do regardless of your age is learn how to
control it. Learn that if your in a bad
mood dont drink. If your in a good mood
go for it...I promise these are very wize
words lol.
And the best thing to do while time works
its magic is be active..Stay up ^_^
