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Help!!!!!!!!! Posted: 02-01-07 15:34pm


Ok, I really think my son is the biggest manipulator alive....All he wnts is to be in my arms, sleep with me , play with me .....I can't even go pee without him crying up a storm!!! In the middle of the night he wakes only to feed 2 oz and sleep on me! What do I do to get him to be more independnt ...I need to clean the darn house!!!!

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Posted: 02-01-07 15:37pm


I'm probably not the best one for advice because I just let him cry as long as he was fed and changed. I put him down either in his swing or vibrating chair and give him toys and then go do whatever I had to do. I will admit it did take me a while to get to that point...

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Posted: 02-01-07 15:37pm


Let him cry, just not for too too long

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Posted: 02-01-07 15:39pm


Oooooh I was gonna e-mail u later cause I hadn't seen u in a while. You need to let him cry, he'll get used to it. Put him in his swing or can he hold his head properly yet?? I started putting trey in his bouncer (not the jolly jumper) at 2 months. Start doing this now, he's gotta get used to it.

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Posted: 02-01-07 15:43pm


I do let him cry for 10 min at a time but he cries to the point were he turns purple........Hes really bad....I think im gonna lose my mind...I put him in his swing and he will stay there for 10 min....And the same for his bouncy chair and crib but thats the most ....How can I do anything around the house with him....

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Posted: 02-01-07 15:43pm


This is a tricky subject. Taboo if you will... How old is he now? He has probably picked up a trait that i like to refer to as "arm-itis". You know, the second you loosen your grip, his lip pokes out. Or the second you walk away, you'd think he fell on his head he's crying so hard. It's damn near inevitable if you're a stay at home mom. But I found '.The .Ferber .Method' to help me the most. It's similar to the cry it out. Only you re-appear to show the baby that you are still here. But you're not going to hold him. Period. It's going to be hard for you. I mean, who really wants to hear their baby cry? No one. But if you're going to break him of this habbit, you should start sooner than later. Good .Luck. Make sure you talk to your partner as well about it. Make sure he understands what .Ferberizing really is. And that you're not being "cruel" by letting his son cry. Independence in an infant is extreemely important. Social skills are all based around independence and self esteem! sarah

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Posted: 02-01-07 15:44pm


I am not a big fan of cry it out at all but I think there are exceptions and your lil' one maybe one of them. I wouldn't let it go for two long, though. Also, do you have a good swing?? That sometimes works wonders. Tough situation.

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Posted: 02-01-07 15:46pm

babymajic0506 wrote:

this is a tricky subject. Taboo if you will...

How old is he now?

He has probably picked up a trait that i like to refer to as "arm-itis". You know, the second you loosen your grip, his lip pokes out. Or the second you walk away, you'd think he fell on his head he's crying so hard.

It's damn near inevitable if you're a stay at home mom. But I found '.The .Ferber .Method' to help me the most. It's similar to the cry it out. Only you re-appear to show the baby that you are still here. But you're not going to hold him. Period.

It's going to be hard for you. I mean, who really wants to hear their baby cry? No one. But if you're going to break him of this habbit, you should start sooner than later.

Good .Luck. Make sure you talk to your partner as well about it. Make sure he understands what .Ferberizing really is. And that you're not being "cruel" by letting his son cry.

Independence in an infant is extreemely important. Social skills are all based around independence and self esteem! Wink

sarah

i agree with you! He picked up this little habit while he was in the hospital for one week,,,i had no choice to hold him he was sick and there was nothing but a crib available....I do the reappearing thing and sometimes it works....Hes so horribly smart its scray...He cries in his bouncy chair and watches me from the corner of his eye .....Ill keep trying that way ..Thanks girl!

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Posted: 02-01-07 15:48pm


Hes 9 weeks old now...Yes, he does have a good swing , chair, bouncy chair , bumbo and all....

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Posted: 02-01-07 15:51pm


Your welcome. Oni got like that right after her bout with .R.S.V (which wasn't but a month ago). I had spent the past 5 months .Ferberizing, and poof down the terlet it went!!! Soooo, for the past couple of weeks, i've been having to start over. She'll wake up in the night, and i'll just sit next to her crib. She falls asleep, but if I get up and walk out before she's sleeping.... buuut, she just cut 2 teeth, and is working on the 3rd pair. I know that in between teething sessions, she'll get better. It just seems never endinggggg...Raawr!! Don't give up! You're the parent, ya know? He won't remember that you let him cry when he's older, ya know? Lol... How's his schedule? Do you have a night time routine? Even a nap time routine helps! Sarah

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Posted: 02-01-07 15:59pm

babymajic0506 wrote:

your welcome. Oni got like that right after her bout with .R.S.V (which wasn't but a month ago).

I had spent the past 5 months .Ferberizing, and *poof* down the terlet it went!!!

Soooo, for the past couple of weeks, i've been having to start over. She'll wake up in the night, and i'll just sit next to her crib. She falls asleep, but if I get up and walk out before she's sleeping.... Shocked

buuut, she just cut 2 teeth, and is working on the 3rd pair. I know that in between teething sessions, she'll get better. It just *seems* never endinggggg...Raawr!!

Don't give up! You're the parent, ya know? He won't remember that you let him cry when he's older, ya know? Lol...

How's his schedule? Do you have a night time routine? Even a nap time routine helps!

Sarah

shes teething she has an excuse...Shes so darn cute !

Anyhoo, there is no routine he is do unpredictable with his feedings in the day and it affects the night time too...Last night he went to bed at 8:30 and woke at 11:45 drank 5.5 oz and then woke again at 2 am for 2 oz and then again at 5 am for 2 oz and then 7 am for the rest of the morn...This afternoon I gave him 3 oz and slept in my arms for 30 min until I out him down and he woke up 3 minutes later...If he doesnt feel me he wont sleep alone, he doesnt know how to fall asleep alone unless he is in his swing....He slept for 1 hour in his swing nd woke 20 min ago...I need a routine...I seriously need some help here...He is driving me insane ..

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Posted: 02-01-07 16:01pm


Man....Yall are lucky .L.O.L. Brayden doesn't go to sleep on his own (very rare) I always rock him to sleep at night in the recliner, and when he wakes up during the night which is about 2 times on a good night, 5 times on a bad one!! he's 11 months old and it's still hard to clean house and stuff, he's at the age where he likes to help out though, like he is obsessed with the vaccum! I have a small one and a regular sized one and he tries to help with the small one and i'll give him a rag and he'll act like he's cleaning the floor. It gets easier when they get older, but I am sooo concerned about my lil man...Who still has no teeth!!!

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Posted: 02-01-07 16:05pm

dalicialovesyou wrote:

man....Yall are lucky .L.O.L.

Brayden doesn't go to sleep on his own (very rare) I always rock him to sleep at night in the recliner, and when he wakes up during the night which is about 2 times on a good night, 5 times on a bad one!! Shocked

he's 11 months old and it's still hard to clean house and stuff, he's at the age where he likes to help out though, like he is obsessed with the vaccum! I have a small one and a regular sized one and he tries to help with the small one and i'll give him a rag and he'll act like he's cleaning the floor.

It gets easier when they get older, but I am sooo concerned about my lil man...Who still has no teeth!!! Shocked

oh wow at 11 months and still not a single tooth....Have you advised your dr about this? It is late . By now he should have at least 2 teeth....

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Posted: 02-01-07 16:10pm


Some children don't get any teeth until 18 mos and this is still considered normal.

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Posted: 02-01-07 16:14pm

tigresacanela24 wrote:

some children don't get any teeth until 18 mos and this is still considered normal.

my bad..Never heard of it ...

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Posted: 02-01-07 16:26pm


Oni's Dr. Says 12-13 months is completely normal for a baby. You gotta throw that textbook out the window!! Lol the longer the teeth stay in, the healthier they are/will be!!! Do you bathe him daily? If so, you could try bathing him in a very warm bath every night before his "night night" bottle. massage is extreemely important in the development of a babas nerves/muscles. Massaging the toes/tummy can help tremendously with bloodflow/digestion. Also, while you're bathing him, rub his scalp gently in circular motions. This causes the nerves to release pressure and relax the baby. Showing him that a specific task is going to happen at a specific time, daily, will help him realize his schedule. Babies thrive on routine. They need it. It enforces the day to day activities that he/she will continue to follow for the rest of their lives. It'll take time, but it'll pass. As long as you nip it in the butt early. sarah

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Posted: 02-01-07 16:33pm

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oni's Dr. Says 12-13 months is completely normal for a baby. You gotta throw that textbook out the window!! Lol Wink

the longer the teeth stay in, the healthier they are/will be!!!

Do you bathe him daily? If so, you could try bathing him in a very warm bath every night before his "night night" bottle.

massage is extreemely important in the development of a babas nerves/muscles. Massaging the toes/tummy can help tremendously with bloodflow/digestion. Also, while you're bathing him, rub his scalp gently in circular motions. This causes the nerves to release pressure and relax the baby.

Showing him that a specific task is going to happen at a specific time, daily, will help him realize his schedule.

Babies *thrive* on routine. They *need* it. It enforces the day to day activities that he/she will continue to follow for the rest of their lives.

It'll take time, but it'll pass. As long as you nip it in the butt early. Wink

sarah

i love you! Im so against the damn text book....

Yes, I give him a bath every night and I do massage him..His dad is better at massaging him though...He does understand that the middle of the night \ morning is time to sleep because he sleeps instantly on me though....T least he gets that much....Wish me luck I just fed him and changed him and I put him in his bouncy chair..Lets see how it goes.

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Posted: 02-01-07 16:43pm

emma2 wrote:

anyhoo, there is no routine he is do unpredictable with his feedings in the day and it affects the night time too...Last night he went to bed at 8:30 and woke at 11:45 drank 5.5 oz and then woke again at 2 am for 2 oz and then again at 5 am for 2 oz and then 7 am for the rest of the morn...

have you tried not feeding him when he wakes up? He might not need to eat and at his age he should be able to go about 8 hours during the night. Does he take a pacifier? Finn wakes up once or twice at night (he sleeps 9-7 on average), i'll go in and give him back his pacifier but I won't talk to him and I won't pick him up. I might shush him a little but for the most part he goes right back to sleep once he has his binky.

Do you work? I feel bad for you either way but more so if you need to function at work and you're burnt out. Hang in there, it has to get better!

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Posted: 02-01-07 16:48pm


I will try not to feed him tonight.....The 11:45 feeding he is still hungry though but I wont in the middle of the night....How much does finn drink on his last feeding? P.S. Guys so sorry for the typos my keyboard is messed up and I dont have time to check over my posts ....

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Posted: 02-01-07 17:28pm


Emma, before you try any cry it out stuff I think you should tell us more about him. I remember you mentioning him being in pain-you thought it could have been acid reflux. My son was exactly like that when he was younger....If I had listened to everyone telling me to just let him cry it out I would have allowed a baby who was in pain just cry. I think that is really wrong. Anyway, I got to the bottom of it and found out he was inotlerant to milk .A.N.D soy protein and also had acid reflux. So basically he had a really damn good reason to be crying all the time and wanting to be held. He was in pain, and being with his mommy made him feel better. You need to make sure there is nothing wrong with your child before you just sit there and let them cry it out all the time. It sounds to me like your son is uncomfortable for whatever reason. Babies dont cry all the time just for the hell of it. There is usually something behind it-you just have to be vigilant enough to get to the bottom of the cause....Experiment I guess you could say.