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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 02-01-07 17:33pm
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| nataliachick7
wrote: | emma,
before you try any cry it out stuff I
think you should tell us more about him.
I remember you mentioning him being in
pain-you thought it could have been acid
reflux.
My son was exactly like that when he was
younger....If I had listened to everyone
telling me to just let him cry it out I
would have allowed a baby who was in pain
just cry. I think that is really
wrong.
Anyway, I got to the bottom of it and
found out he was inotlerant to milk .A.N.D
soy protein and also had acid reflux. So
basically he had a really damn good reason
to be crying all the time and wanting to
be held. He was in pain, and being with
his mommy made him feel better.
You need to make sure there is nothing
wrong with your child before you just sit
there and let them cry it out all the
time.
It sounds to me like your son is
uncomfortable for whatever reason.
Babies dont cry all the time just for the
hell of it. There is usually something
behind it-you just have to be vigilant
enough to get to the bottom of the
cause....Experiment I guess you could
say. |
she's right. Like I said, talk to his Dr.
About his schedule behavior and see what
s/he says.
If he's crying and crying for hours on
end, something isn't right. Reflux could
very easily be the problem and if left
untreated could cause damage + severe
pain.
Sarah
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tigresacanela24
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Posted: 02-01-07 17:39pm
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That's why I said i'm not the one to ask
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 02-01-07 17:44pm
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K, are you home or at work?
Sarah
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Becky
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Posted: 02-01-07 18:35pm
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My kids are both the same. Layla never
was this but I think she is starting to
get jealous now and wants a cuddle all the
time. Logan follows me around the room
screaming to be picked up. I can't even
go pee either. It is horrible but I do
leave him to it most of the time. He is
in my arms for at least half the day but I
.H.A.V.E to draw the line when I have
chores to be done so I give him loads of
toy in his highchair and do the washing up
etc.
Children can be very mainpulative 
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Posted: 02-01-07 19:00pm
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Do you have a sling? I wore my daughter
while I did everything short of showering
and changing my clothes.
The reality is, they are only this small
one single time in their lives. It
does not make it easier to hear
that, I know, but when he is walking and
nonstop talking, you'll long for the days
he was small again. 
there are many schools of thought on this:
one is that children under 6 months old
are not manipulative but in need of
comfort. The other is that they are
manipulating you.
Short of letting him cry it out, there
isn't a lot you can do.
((hugs)) I know this is a trying time.
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tigresacanela24
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Posted: 02-01-07 19:16pm
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| babymajic0506
wrote: | k, are you home or at
work?
Sarah |
just walked in the door about 5 minutes
ago. I had to bring work home too.
That sucks. I was at work until 6:30 now
i'm home and i'm still working. I can't
wait to win the lottery
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Posted: 02-02-07 07:50am
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Trust me there is nothing physically wrong
with him.....The moment he gets picked up
he stops crying and starts smiling...There
were days when he was in pain and had
indigestion thats for sure but the
majority of the time he just wants to be
in my arms or anyones arms for that
matter. It really doesnt matter who you
are , could be a total stranger as long as
you pick him up. I left him for an hour
and a half to play alone last night and he
cried for a whole 10 mintues and
stopped...Obviously I would check on him
every few min...He just wants his way
thats all.
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 02-02-07 11:54am
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So, last night, he realized that you
weren't gonna pick him up and stopped
crying?
A couple more days of that, and he'll
start catching on. Just remember to show
your face to remind him that you're
"here", you're just not gonna pick him
up.
Sarah
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Posted: 02-04-07 09:05am
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| babymajic0506
wrote: | so, last night, he realized
that you weren't gonna pick him up and
stopped crying?
A couple more days of that, and he'll
start catching on. Just remember to show
your face to remind him that you're
"here", you're just not gonna pick him
up.
Sarah |
yes indeed! I would show myself every
couple of minutes and sure enough he
actually let me cook dinner. I think it
might just work...Youre awesome ..Thanks!
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tigresacanela24
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Posted: 02-04-07 09:25am
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Yeah, it's hard at first but totally worth
it. Chu goes to bed on his own with no
falderol or fanfare. We do dinner, bathe
him, do a little baby massage, read him a
book and he goes to bed when we lay him
down. He goes to bed at 7:30 so after
that it's grownup time. During the day
he will play by himself for awhile before
we play with him. He's sooo cool, he
wants to do things by himself first. I
can get things done and still enjoy time
with chu. I don't think it would have
been that way if we had let him continue
developing arm-itis.
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 02-04-07 14:07pm
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No problem!!
K, don't get comfy! Once them teefuses
start cuttin, that's alll down the
terrrlet! Ha!!
Sarah
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Posted: 02-04-07 14:36pm
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This is my view on this. It's only my
opinion based on my experience, what i've
read about babies, and what i've learned
in college (i have a degree in birth to
five/ early intervention education.
A baby is use to being in the womb all
snug and warm, it's hard for them to come
out into this strange world and expected
to soothe themselves. I don't think a
baby until the age of 3 months should be
left to cry it out. They need to know
that they can trust you and you'll tend ot
their needs. All babies want to be
held. It's warm and cozy just like the
womb. In my opinion, babies are only
babies for a short time and you'll cherish
all those naps in your arms and time you
spend with him. For the last three
months i've held ava for her naps and she
sleeps in bed with us. Now that she's 3
months i'm working on getting her to nap
alone. She's fine when she's left to
play for me to do housework, whether it's
in her jumper, bouncy seat, or swing.
Children don't know how to manipulate
until they're 6 months. Of course he
wants what he wants. He wants that
coziness of your belly and he's being
expected to just cry it out and soothe
himself at only 9 weeks. I personally
feel this is too young. Make him
comfortable and hold him as much as he
wants and when he's 3 months then try to
make him independent. I just think 9
weeks is a little too early. This is
again just my opinion. Everyone does
things differently.
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Nataliachick7
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Posted: 02-04-07 15:32pm
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| jessesgirl
wrote: | this is my view on this.
It's only my opinion based on my
experience, what i've read about babies,
and what i've learned in college (i have a
degree in birth to five/ early
intervention education.
A baby is use to being in the womb all
snug and warm, it's hard for them to come
out into this strange world and expected
to soothe themselves. I don't think a
baby until the age of 3 months should be
left to cry it out. They need to know
that they can trust you and you'll tend ot
their needs. All babies want to be
held. It's warm and cozy just like the
womb. In my opinion, babies are only
babies for a short time and you'll cherish
all those naps in your arms and time you
spend with him. For the last three
months i've held ava for her naps and she
sleeps in bed with us. Now that she's
3 months i'm working on getting her to nap
alone. She's fine when she's left to
play for me to do housework, whether it's
in her jumper, bouncy seat, or swing.
Children don't know how to manipulate
until they're 6 months. Of course he
wants what he wants. He wants that
coziness of your belly and he's being
expected to just cry it out and soothe
himself at only 9 weeks. I personally
feel this is too young. Make him
comfortable and hold him as much as he
wants and when he's 3 months then try to
make him independent. I just think 9
weeks is a little too early. This is
again just my opinion. Everyone does
things
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i agree 100%.
And many experts say that babies cant
actually manipulate until a year old.
Everything I have read states the more
cuddling and contact they get, the more
secure they will be when they growup.
Babies that are left to cry all the time
grow up with trust issues and
insecurities.
They are only babies for a very short
while-cherish this time!!
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Posted: 02-04-07 17:03pm
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| nataliachick7
wrote: | | babies that are left to cry
all the time grow up with trust issues and
insecurities. |
i also just read that babies that are left
to cry too long are prone to developing
personality disorders.
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ThriftyGal
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Posted: 02-04-07 19:37pm
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| iheartmybostonterrier
wrote: | | nataliachick7
wrote: | | babies that are left to cry
all the time grow up with trust issues and
insecurities. |
i also just read that babies that are left
to cry too long are prone to developing
personality
disorders. |
i've read the same things. That they
will end up crying more than children who
were immediately tended to as infants
because they don't develop as much
confidence and independence.
Even more importantly I don't know how you
guys do it. When rowan gets upset and
she looks right at me while she is crying
as if to say "make it better mommy" I
can't imagine just leaving her so sad.
The only thing I can think about is how
much I want to make it better, and how
much it breaks my heart to see her so sad.
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Posted: 02-04-07 19:44pm
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| tanyaface
wrote: | | iheartmybostonterrier
wrote: | | nataliachick7
wrote: | | babies that are left to cry
all the time grow up with trust issues and
insecurities. |
i also just read that babies that are left
to cry too long are prone to developing
personality
disorders. |
i've read the same things. That they
will end up crying more than children who
were immediately tended to as infants
because they don't develop as much
confidence and independence.
Even more importantly I don't know how you
guys do it. When rowan gets upset and
she looks right at me while she is crying
as if to say "make it better mommy" I
can't imagine just leaving her so sad.
The only thing I can think about is how
much I want to make it better, and how
much it breaks my heart to see her so
sad. |
same thing here.
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Posted: 02-05-07 10:06am
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Well, its a good thing my Dr. Told me not
to beleive everything you read... Im sure
some of it is valid but babies need
routine and they need to learn how to be
independant ...I dont agree wiht letting a
baby cry for more than 10 minutes at a
time but my son just pulled a crying fit
for 3 minutes until he feel alseep....Lots
of the time its crankiness ...
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Posted: 02-05-07 10:08am
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To each their own.
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 02-05-07 10:09am
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| emma2
wrote: | | well, its a good thing my Dr. Told
me not to beleive everything you read...
Im sure some of it is valid but babies
need routine and they need to learn how to
be independant ...I dont agree wiht
letting a baby cry for more than 10
minutes at a time but my son just pulled a
crying fit for 3 minutes until he feel
alseep....Lots of the time its crankiness
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i agree 100%.
They go from hating the .Furber .Method,
to asking how to get their child ot stop
crying when they put them down....I don't
get it...
Sarah
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tigresacanela24
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Posted: 02-05-07 10:14am
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I read lots of childcare books
unfortunately chuy doesn't fit any of
their models, so I learn as I go. And an
approach that is right for my child may
not be right for someone elses and I think
we all need to remember that
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