Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4922 Location: Right here at work!
Should You Wait? Posted: 08-25-03 16:55pm
After being in here, reading all these
questions and seeing how many of you are
18 and younger I have a few things to say.
You are all so worried about being
pregnant, and why is your period late,
then you add that you are 16 or 13 or 14.
Why is it so hard to use a condom or get
on the pill? If you feel you forget the
pill get the shot, the patch or any
alternative to not getting pregnant. If
you get all worried about being late or
cant have a baby then you are not
responsible enough to have sex. Sex
should be a great memory in life with
someone you love, and you should be old
enough to enjoy it. It shouldnt be
straight from the playground to the
bedroom! There are many expenses
physically and emotionally to having a
baby! Imagine yourself with a baby, think
of all the crying in the middle of the
night then you have to make a bottle and
change a diaper and waste 30 minutes of
sleep to get your baby to bed. Then go
back to sleep and 2 hours later you hear
the crying again and have to get another
bottle. Imagine this straight for another
2 years. Then you see girls going to the
malls and parties and doing all these fun
things but you cannot go because your baby
is sick and you had to spend all your
money on medicine and more diapers. You
have no babysitter and no one to help you.
Then imagine your boyfriend whom you had
sex with say "this is too much for me and
its too soon. Im a kid" and he leaves you
as quick as you gave it up. He used you.
You both were irresponsible, but now you
are the one to pay for it. Please hold
off on sex. And if you dont want to,
please buy a few condoms. Do it for
yourself.
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lyingdownalone
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2003 Posts: 40 Location: Canada
Hey.. Posted: 08-25-03 17:41pm
I would just like to comment on the birth
control methods. Hun, im 17 and pregnant
and I was on bc during that time. I never
forgot to take my pill. Things happen and
birth control isn't 100% garuntee that you
wont get pregnant. Dont judge us before
you get to know us..Not all of us have
unprotected sex
**lying down alone**
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4922 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 08-25-03 18:54pm
No dear, if you read on in the topics,
most of the teens there had not used any
protection and are scared because they are
15 and think they might be pregnant. Im
not judging you because as I said, my
sister was 16 and got pregnant. But some
teens are excited about it when they are
too young to realize the struggles of it.
Ive seen it wih my sister and its the
hardest thing to go through with all the
bills. Maybe you should re-read what I
put. Good luck to you. Im sorry you had
birth control and now your pregnant.
Somethings happen for a reason. But isnt
your screen name alone or something? Is
that how you feel? Well thats how alot of
girls feel once they realize how they are
sol by themselves because they guy who
wanted them to have sex at 14 left them.
Sorry if you felt judged.
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HongKongChick
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2003 Posts: 222 Location: Oklahoma
Posted: 08-25-03 23:19pm
I agree with nikki of what she said. It's
true that alot of young teens are confused
between love and lust, sex and
responsibility!
But one thing is that they did not come
here before they already made a mistake.
They might be under peer pressure,
attracted by the media on how sex is such
a romantic thing, and all other factors.
The point here is that I sure do not want
to see these girls who have posted
problems here, post another one, then
another one.
I am a true believer that humans make
mistakes, we tend to not think before we
take actions and then it's too late.
It's life, it's the way humans learn, by
making mistakes. But one that that my
mother taught me is that making the same
mistakes twice is no body's fault but
yours.
I truly think (and being optimistic) that
most of these young teens here will learn
from their first mistakes and not to make
it again.
One more thing: I do not like to judge, I
am only here to help. As I am sure these
girls already are judgin themselves or
have others judging them, and
ehealthforum.Com is a place to help, where
these girls can fine peace and
information.
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Misty
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2003 Posts: 52 Location: Nova Scotia
Posted: 08-26-03 08:20am
You should read more of these messages
then because a lot of us did use
protection it don't always work. Maybe
you should talk to some of us to get our
full stories before you judge us we have
hard lives just like anyone else and we
make mistakes we're only human but almost
none of us regret those mistakes after we
have a beautiful baby in our arms. ~misty
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lyingdownalone
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2003 Posts: 40 Location: Canada
Hmmph.. Posted: 08-26-03 11:32am
nikki_caro
wrote:
but isnt your screen name
alone or something? Is that how you
feel? Well thats how alot of girls feel
once they realize how they are sol by
themselves because they guy who wanted
them to have sex at 14 left them. Sorry
if you felt
judged.
my screen name "lyingdownalone" wasnt
about the baby or about the guy who left,
it was about my family turning me down and
lending me no support when I needed it
most.
But anyways, I appreciate your opinions,
it cant hurt to hear what everyone thinks.
bye
**lyingdownalone**
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pookers1722
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Aug 2003 Posts: 5
Posted: 08-27-03 16:47pm
I think that ur way to judgemental some of
these kids just need someone to talk to
and ur not very understanding ! Look yeah
ok they are young and they might think
they are prego or are but what gives u the
right to judge them? And I am so sick of
hearing the babbys haveing babys caca!
Also the playground thing ! Get real !
People make mastakes ! Nobodys perfect
and sorry for ur luck ur not eaither! U
act like ur so perfect! Ok so ur goin to
be married befor u have kids well maby
some people want to raise there babys on
there own they dont need ur judgements! U
always seem to look at the negative side
of things ! The crying the no sleep the
sicknesses the nitely feeding! Well look
sum of these girls are excited to see
those lil hands hear those lil crys wipe
those runny noses all for ur so called
there mastakes of not useinf protection or
the pill !Get real! This is all reality
and grow up!
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4922 Location: Right here at work!
Boy Are You Wrong Posted: 08-27-03 18:07pm
Well excuse me if you jumped from 12 to 21
in 2 seconds. I am not judgmental and
yes, they are babies having babies! This
is reality darlin and if you want to live
in your own fantasy world of "awww how
cute, my baby just spit up on me, is
crying like crazy, and its 2 in the
morning, but I love it anyways" that is
reality. You grow up! Tell me who is 17
with a 3 year old daughter and loves it so
much with no hardship. Because that is
not how it is!!! Every girl I meet said
they should have waited or used protection
because now they had to grow up in two
minutes to raise a little one. I want to
see how excited you are when your 13 year
old daughter comes to you and says "mommy
im gonna have a baby" boy will you be caca
out of luck to raise the both of them.
And I am grown up dear. Ive got my job as
a secretary, im getting married next
month, ive got my own place, and I
volunteer my time to help teens, who are
scared because they didnt use protection.
Ive done my growing up now its your turn.
Because there is, and there will be alot
of crying, more crying, spit up, diapers,
bottles, teething, and bathing. Its not
all fun and dandy. So if you want to
paint a pretty pictuer of having a baby so
more girls will be 13 and pregnant, then
you do that. But im trying to prevent it.
Why should little girls have to learn the
hard way that they should have used
protection, when they can know ahead of
time to stop them from being young moms.
Yes they do make mistakes, my sister did.
She is 17 and her baby is 1. She has it
so easy with me and my mom to help, yet
its still so hard. Good luck to you, but
alot of girls appreciate my advice and I
have made a few friends in here. Good
day.
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Tanya
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Aug 2003 Posts: 145 Location: Hmm
Posted: 08-27-03 18:29pm
I agree 100% with nikki, no one says it
better
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4922 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 08-27-03 18:48pm
Thank you so much tanya!
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HongKongChick
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2003 Posts: 222 Location: Oklahoma
Calm Down Posted: 08-27-03 23:33pm
Ok, ladies, let's just all be peaceful
here! I think that both you girls have a
point or two, but there is no absolute
answers to everything in our lives.
I agree with nikki that alot of girls
might not want to realize how hard it is
to raise a kid, really, really hard! And
some even make the same mistake over and
over, some just give u the finger when u
try to show them why we suggest them not
to have sex without protection or even to
have sex at all at a young age.
And yes, some girls are gonna be more
mature than others, and they know what
they are doing, but accidents happened,
and we cant blame them.
But I also agree with pookers that
everyone makes mistakes and some of these
girls just want to have some comfort and
help rather than to be scolded by some
strangers that dont even know the whole
situation or truth...
So the thing here is that no one should be
saying who is right or wrong, because if
you think about it, every girl's situation
has two sides, and we will never never
know exactly unless we are them, so let's
not make any more assumptions and
accusations.... And just be friends
alright
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carvytaph
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Aug 2003 Posts: 87 Location: Pennsylvania
Posted: 09-03-03 10:48am
Well said, nikki!!! I agree 100% with
you!!!! We are human and we make
mistakes but almost everything is
preventable. We want to have too much
fun. Then we are upset when bad things
happen. True, deal with it, but if we
can help others prevent it. All the
better!!
bye
