Joined: 03 Feb 2007 Posts: 2 Location: San Diego, CA
Dating And Herpes Posted: 02-03-07 14:30pm
I just found out for a girl i've been
dating for 5 weeks that she has genital
herpes. We haven't had sex yet due to the
fact that I really like the girl and have
been taking it slow. I don't know much
about the std or if infact it's wise to
attempt sex even with a condom and during
a non breakout time period. I'd hate to
lose her but I just know if it's worth the
risk of myself getting it.
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Llewellyn
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 02-03-07 16:57pm
I will be honest and say that any sexual
activity will put you at risk. Herpes is
a kind of nasty std as there is no cure
for it. If you get it, you have it for
life. You can treat the symptoms, but
not the disease itself.
Using a condom will decrease your chances
of getting it, but it certainly will not
eliminate your chances. Ulcers can occur
on places that condoms don't cover, so you
wouldn't be fully protected in that case.
Even if your partner is symptom free, you
can still get it, however.
I just contract herpes too..........And
what you had just posted will be something
that pops up in future for me
too.........
It does puts you in a delima right? I
know its a terrible feeling, honestly, I
have no answer myself. All I tell u is
that herpes is a damn infectious virus and
if u have the symptoms, the pain is like
slashing 1000cuts on your gentials and
pouring salt water on it all the time.
Thats the pain I had to put up with it and
still going on.
Why don't u seek a professional advice,
like a doctor, ask for other than condoms
prevention, i'm not sure what else can be
used.
But I would like to hear all the men's
opinions on this too.......Would u date a
girl with herpes
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Kgirl16
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Nov 2005 Posts: 137 Location: Canada
Posted: 02-06-07 20:11pm
I know guys, I just contracted herpes this
past december (merry effin christmas) but
its not the end of the world. My doctor
said being protected and without an
outbreak, the chances are really low.
Also!
Bkeme!
Woman are 10 times more likely to get it
from a man rather than vice versa. So the
chances of your future partners getting it
while wearing a condom are very small. We
just have horrible luck. Doesn't it seem
that women sometimes get the bad end of
the stick everytime?
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Ashrem
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Feb 2007 Posts: 2 Location: San Diego, CA
Posted: 02-10-07 07:10am
I'm still not sure what to do. I mean
she's a wonderful person, she just got the
raw end of the deal in a past
relationship.
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Mommy35
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Sep 2006 Posts: 3165 Location: Vacationland, USA,
Posted: 02-10-07 08:25am
I agree that you should talk to your
doctor. Is this girl on medication for
herpes? Go onto the website for the med
that is used to treat the symptoms of
herpes and see if you can get any info on
it.. I think it's called valtrex.
If she told you than she's at least being
up front and honest with you, which is
good.
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BeautifulLiesx3
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Dec 2006 Posts: 77
Posted: 02-10-07 20:23pm
To be completely honest with you, I don't
see anything wrong with dating her. I
definately think you should seek
professional advice on how to keep your
risk of getting this low, but as long as
it's not during an outbreak and you use a
condom, your chances are pretty low
anyway. Herpes really isn't anything more
than a permanent skin irritation, it'll
only get in your way if you let it. Don't
let something like that stop you from
pursuing things with someone if you really
do like them. Just ask a doctor how to
keep your chances low. =) good luck.
