I Think I Am Having a Relapse....... Posted: 02-03-07 18:05pm
I really need some clarity and positivity.
I have been split from my ex-boyfriend
now for 2 years after a long, mentally
abusive and cruel relationship. He had
an affair for 9 months when still living
with me and refused to move out of our
home, instead I had to and oversee the
selling of the property from a far. Our
possesion's were simple squandered or
through away, my life turned upside down
as I thought he was the 'one'. As a
consequence I suffered severe depression,
weight loss/gain and self-esteem issues
which I fought hard to overcome. We kept
brief contact, here and there. Now at a
desparate time due to the sudden loss of a
close family member he ran to me for
support. I was there whole heartedly, as
it seemed the right thing at the time but
now, as quick as it happened, I have been
cassed aside realing in pain and anguish
from the impact of him entering my life
again. His mental abuse is stronger than
ever and he has manipulated people into
thinking I am at fault. I dont feel
strong enough to cope and feel all my hard
work to start a new was a waste. I feel
lonely and depressed, used and frowned
upon. What's more I am now the subject of
his new hurl of hate which has now seen
him involving his family and friends
branding me as a selfish and uncaring
person. This hurts tremendously as I am
neither of these things. Help! Your
words of advice would be much appreciate
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Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Jan 2007 Posts: 171 Location: Long Beach, Ca
Posted: 02-03-07 20:48pm
Hi there kiki...You really gota take a
step back and look hun.
First you and him creat a toxic
relationship which is unhealth. You need
isolation from him so you can grow from
all these crazy events. I know its hard
and I konw your ina whirlwind of
emotion....Thats how our bodys work.
When we have hardships with lovedones it
takes over the rest of our lives. You
need to be strong and realize that its
time to start thinking whats best for you,
whats gona make you happy in the long run.
This is your life, your body you decyde
who its with.
Be strong...Its always a bumpy road
exiting a relationship. I had to leave a
very toxic one last year that leaft me
dumfounded at what I was doing in life.
Slowly I became to realize shes not good
for me and I really do need to do
whatever! It takes to move on. For me
that was isolation from her and keeping
myself busy...Its worked wonders.
Stay up and feel free to spit anything out
here....Were all good people ^_^
