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bkeme
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Joined: 31 Jan 2007 Posts: 29
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Would You Date Someone With Herpes?
Posted: 02-05-07 08:21am
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I had just contracted
herpes..............And suddenly
everything seems different now. Its not a
deadly disease and true enough, sex is not
everything in a relationship., but hey,
who are we kidding, there are couples who
will never get married if they had not had
sex and I have friends who wont start a
relationship after know how the sex life
like.
We are in the 21st century where sex is
part of life. It is somtimes used to
determine how hot/fun the relationship
is/could be.
So.....I would really like to know, (from
guys especially), if you fancy a girl and
after a few weeks dating, you learn that
she's has herpes from previous
relationship, would you still have
continued on? Would it be a shock for you
to accept?Would u think that getting
herpes = someone who sleeps around/loose?
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Color of Paper
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Posted: 02-05-07 10:13am
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Well for me it all depends on the girl and
how open she is with it.
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bkeme
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Posted: 02-06-07 07:16am
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Sadly, if the girl/guy didn't want a
relationship with another herpes carrier,
there's really nothing to blame them
about. They also want to protect
themselves.
Maybe this would be a good test to find
true love?
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bkeme
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Bad Response
Posted: 02-08-07 07:15am
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Hmmm response not very good.
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Spirit
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Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 388 Location: Canada
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Posted: 02-10-07 05:56am
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Well.........I'm a chick but since only
one dude responded..........Here's my 2
cents...........................Honestly?.
...........First
reaction?......No.............But you did
say after a few weeks of dating.........It
would be a shock and frankly the "thought"
of the person being "loose" would cross my
mind
..........You have a long tough road ahead
of you.............And if some guy gave
that to me, let's just say he'd have an
expire date stamped on his
forehead.........Yea, it will be a major
test of true love.........Most guys are
turned off when they find out you got
kids?! 
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bkeme
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Posted: 02-12-07 05:29am
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I have herpes..........Not kids........But
honestly, i'm not sure which is
worse...... 
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bluetruth
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Posted: 02-17-07 00:56am
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I wouldn't have a problem dating her.
The catch would be: would I have sex with
her? Not before marriage, and even then
I would be wishy-washy. It's a massive
adjustment to go through which I don't
know if I could handle it or not. I
certainly wouldn't have a problem seeing
her though since I don't base
relationships off sex.
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RedDelight
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Joined: 06 Oct 2006 Posts: 131 Location: I'm a Yettie!
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Posted: 02-20-07 00:01am
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[quote="Spirit"]Well.........I'm a chick
but since only one dude
responded..........Here's my 2
cents...........................Honestly?.
...........First
reaction?......No.............But you did
say after a few weeks of dating.........It
would be a shock and frankly the "thought"
of the person being "loose" would cross my
mind
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Loose? lol I am far from it- and I have it
 If anything- I am
the preppest looking sandra bullock
look-alike goody goody with a trucker
mouth lol jk [i am though ^.^]
I would- even if I didn't have it. I
would date someone with it..because to me-
sex is not everything. I guess maybe
that's because of my age.. and the guy
would have to tell me the story. Be
upfront. Because if you are truely honest
with the person, and you are healthy, and
maintain good control of your
herpes...then I know you care a great deal
about your health..and you are "aware".
Active. That's important.
I haven't ventured into the dating world
again.. I have to be mentally stronger
now- because there are going to be ones
that will freak out and walk away. I just
wish people would keep that in mind..when
the person is telling you their horrible
secret
-=Red=-
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RedDelight
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Re: Would You Date Someone With Herpes?
Posted: 02-20-07 00:03am
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It's nice to see that some people will..
you have no idea what that means to me.
Hope.
-=Red=-
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atx1975
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Posted: 02-23-07 18:40pm
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I am gonna say that I would if I truly
loved the person, and that does not
include sex. Sex is something society
feels is a part the relationship, true
love will come without sex. So to answer
your question if I loved her yes like you
said its not life threating its just a
nuisance that I would gladly live with or
protect myself against if I loved her.
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bkeme
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Posted: 02-26-07 05:08am
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well said answers. Anyone got rejected
before because you have herpes?
how do you break the news to someone you
have herpes?
if you had been told by your date/partner
that he/she has herpes, how do you react??
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atx1975
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Posted: 02-26-07 19:32pm
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Well thus far I dont have it so cant
answer that question.
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Moo
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Posted: 02-26-07 19:39pm
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It only takes one encounter so that's
always worth bearing in mind!
In all honesty I think it would depend on
how long I'd been dating him (i'm a woman
lol). The main thing that would influence
me would be honesty about it!
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change is good
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Posted: 03-12-07 06:17am
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i believe love has no bounds. so i would
say the answer would be yes.
i would have a relationship with someone
who has herpes. i believe we fall in love
with people for who they are, not with
what they have or don't have.
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DPantelones
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Posted: 03-14-07 12:11pm
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Condoms protect against herpes too don't
they? then yeah, I would have sex and a
relationship with you, if you were open
& honest about it, and I liked you
enough.
If I had it and was dating, I'd just say
(after getting to know the lady) "hey,
there's something you need to know before
we go any farther, I have herpes and
here's how I got it, and this is what I go
through to make sure it doesn't spread to
others..." and so on. Be as open and
honest as you can, let them sort out their
feelings about it (don't push them) and be
happy with how it turns out.
Good luck to you!
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The Godly One
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nightangel73
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Posted: 03-31-07 21:14pm
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This is a tough one. Loosing your health
for someone, I would just have to be in
the situation to be able to tell. I guess
it would depend on the person and must be
like only if i'm going to marry the
person. But to experiment around no way.
There is online chat rooms and dating
sites for people with herpes. If I had
herpes I would definetly check out those
sites. Nothing to loose.
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 04-06-07 09:57am
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| DPantelones
wrote: | | Condoms protect against
herpes too don't they? then yeah, I would
have sex and a relationship with you, if
you were open & honest about it, and I
liked you enough.
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you can still get herpes even wearing a
condom.
I would but I would probably not have sex
until/if we got married.
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paul995
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Posted: 05-06-07 18:22pm
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Well . . . I would, buy never would have
sex with.
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