Okay, So Now That We've Decided

Seriously try the ferber method. It worked *wonders* with jacob. Now all I gotta do is lay him in bed and he falls out. He has an occasional time once or twice a month where he fights it but thats any kid.

Hey love I posted on your other post. But I agree with sandra.......Ferberize all the way hun (is that a word?) but anyway it has worked with amelia, but with her it only lasted a week

Sometimes we would put nate in a swing and he immediately stopped crying and the rocking motion put him to sleep. We tried not to do this all the time because we didn't want him to be too reliant on the swing. Other times, we would lay him in his bed and let him cry for a few minutes. If his crying wouldn't stop after five minutes, we would try to soothe him. Every child is different. We didn't have to walk around with him for a long time until he fell asleep. That would be very difficult.

So how to we get her to fall sleep on her own when she sleeps between us. I won't be able to buy a co-sleeper until next week, but i'm ready to get her to go to sleep on her own. Should we just put her down drowsy and try to soothe her when she cries without picking her up?
I read the sleep lady book and it wasn't worth a crap. I just bought the no cry sleep solution online. I thought that's the one I had, but it wasn't. Hopefully that one helps a little more.

I have mentioned several times that the book the no cry sleep solution helped me to sleep train my son.
It is a gentle way that suggests routine and transitional objects at bedtime. Im not really into the whole let your baby scream in their crib thing, and this worked nicely for us.

Also, here is some info on ferber

in case you haven’t heard – ferber (of the famous ferberizing cry-it-out technique) has been in the news lately (including ny times & good morning america) saying that he has been misunderstood and that he never meant that crying it out should be used for all babies/children. he’s been quoted as saying you should try gentle sleep ideas first.


here’s a link:


http://babyparenti ng.About.Com/b/a/216406.Htm

he’s also revised his thoughts on co-sleeping! This is a quote from an msn article:

"now, in a new edition of his book due out this week, he has omitted his statement about the psychological consequences of co-sleeping. "that's one sentence I wish I never wrote," he told newsweek. "it was describing the general thinking of the time, but it was not describing my own experience or philosophy."

solitary sleeping was the norm when ferber's first book came out two decades ago. But the number of adults routinely sharing a bed with an infant more than doubled between 1993 and 2000, according to the national infant sleep position study led by the national institutes of health. The 2003 study found that in a two-week period, 45 percent of infants spent some time at night in an adult bed. There's growing acceptance of co-sleeping among pediatricians as well. "what ever you want to do, whatever you feel comfortable doing, is the right thing to do, as long as it works," ferber writes."

Lol .Nat I adore how much you read :-p

Haha yes, I am a nerd :p lol

I never let .Amelia 'cry it out' that is just wrong and crule. But the way that we did it worked for us. I would but her down drowsey and if she would cry I would just pat and soothe. Then she would finaly fall asleep. Now she goes down with maybe a little fussing.

Yeah we were always right by jacobs side.. Never left the room. (allthough the ferber method says to.) we just took ourselves further and further away each night until we were sitting in the doorway and after that night he was ok enuf to just be put to bed.

Which ever method you choose, crying will be involved.
The baba has been spoiled and it's gonna take time and patience to break that.

No baby never cries and never wakes up through the night. But instead of picking him/her up at night when they cry. Show yourself, offer a soothie, and just stand there if you have to. I find myself sitting next to .Oni's crib until she falls back asleep.

As long as you break the habit of "cry = pick me up", you'll be good.

Sarah