i read your post and nodded all the way
through...because u could have been
talking about myself.
i too do all the things with our kids,
cook the meals,clean,make sure everyone is
happy....except me!
i constantly feel put upon, like what i
want/need doesnt matter....but guess what?
thats the msg i send out everytime i let
my hubby or my kids away with trampling on
my needs/wants.
the other person is right in saying that
men think they are doing good by buying
things that can be put to good use...my
hubby was forever doing this with me,
until i lost and and told him that a
toaster/or something for the house/family
isn't for ME!
he stopped doing this, but still got me
things i didnt ask for or need.
for years i had been asking for a one
stone diamond engagement ring...but as we
couldnt afford it, it really was out of
the question.
as the years passed i still openly longed
for my ONE stone ring....then 2 years ago,
he brough me out to dinner,and slipped a
small box across the table...well my face
was a pitcure when i opened the box, he
only went and bought me a THREE stone ring
and god forgive me i couldnt hide my
disapointment!
we laugh about it now, but the thing is,
that if u stay quiet and say nothing, u'll
get nothing!
women tend to give way too much of
themselves, and forget that they have a
life to live too.
at the moment, i too am struggling with
anger i feel towards my husband over a
promise he made to me and also
broke/forgot about.
i find myself thinking of walking away,
but know i would never leave my kids
behind.
and either way, i love my hubby...though
right now, i dont know why!
i know that its going to get to the stage
very soon, when we have a serious talk,
because i feel like my anger is bubbling
inside me...and thats not good for
anyone!
all i can say is talk to your hubby, put
ur cards on the table and tell him
stright, that ur not happy with this, and
try to make him see why u feel like
this....i know, for myself, thats what i
am going to do, when the moment is right.
hope things work out for you.
and i for one dont think u are silly, u
have wants and needs like ur husband and
kids, u deserve to have them met too.
irisheyes
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