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Q: Seeking Advice.

asked by: babe03 on August 26th, 2003

New User

Hi I am 17 years old and 28 weeks preagnet and very happy about my pregnacey. I dont have much support in my pregnacey only my aunt and step dad which I love the most for being there for me. Even with support I am very confused and dont know what to do. My life have changed ever since my step dad and mother had kids together and they separated year 2001 and ever since iv been living with my step dad. Ever since there sepration i'v been watching my lil brother and sister. Everyday from the time he works and the time he gets off from work. The mother only comes around when she feels like. Which it's not far to me because these are not my kids. Now that I am pregnate with my own child iam confused for what the future hold. I feel locked down for watching kids for 3 yrs now and having my own ill be locke down until my baby is 18 unless I give it up for adoption. All I am saying is that if I have this child I will be in this house forever because I wont be able to afford to move out on my own especially having this baby in my life and at the sometime I dont want my baby to struggle with me. And the other half of me want to keep it because I believe I can do it to be a single mom. Crying or Very sad

someone please give me some advice.

Replies(3)

xbLonDiex

replied on August 26th, 2003

New User

You're story sounds familar, one of my friends went through the same thing you are going through, if you really feel the need to get out of the house.. Do you have any other relatives or really good friends that would be willing to let you stay at their house for awhile, not to live but maybe just to get away, it would help... Til the babies born at least. Maybe you could have a talk with your step dad and tell him that the kids arent your responsibilty all the time and you need to worry about you and your childs life, not his kids.. ¤brandi¤

Misty

replied on August 26th, 2003

Experienced User

Hey girl, you have every right for feeling so locked down - really you shouldnt have to watch your brother and sister all day everyday and then have to worry about your own. You need to go out and live a little. Adoption is a very open opportunity out there these days, thats what I was going to do with my baby just because my family and I thought it would be a better idea for everyone than raising the child myself. But a little while ago I lost my baby. - anywho back to you lol - its up to you about this baby - well umm wait a sec where is the father? What does he have to say about the baby? If ya want to PM me ~misty

sweetpea

replied on August 26th, 2003

New User

Feeling conflicted would be understandable in your situation. I have a 17 year old daughter, and I remember what it is like to be 17. You are very young, and yet you're very wise to know that you do not want to remain in the same situation with a new baby. Loving the baby so much, means a tough decision for what might be best for both you and the baby. Feel comforted in the fact that so many loving, responsible, and financially well off couples are waiting for the chance to make a difference in your life and the life of your baby. Wouldn't it be great to give your baby such a gift? You will then also reap the reward of knowing you did a very noble thing out of love, and will also be able to get your feet on the ground, make a plan of action to realize your own dreams and goals. Only you can make the decision. If you choose to let your baby be adopted, you may even go through open adoption agencies that let you select the parents from profiles they have! It is just a suggestion. You are doing a great thing by choosing to have the baby--
best of luck & blessings

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