Hi I am 17 years old and 28 weeks preagnet
and very happy about my pregnacey. I dont
have much support in my pregnacey only my
aunt and step dad which I love the most
for being there for me. Even with support
I am very confused and dont know what to
do. My life have changed ever since my
step dad and mother had kids together and
they separated year 2001 and ever since iv
been living with my step dad. Ever since
there sepration i'v been watching my lil
brother and sister. Everyday from the
time he works and the time he gets off
from work. The mother only comes around
when she feels like. Which it's not far
to me because these are not my kids. Now
that I am pregnate with my own child iam
confused for what the future hold. I feel
locked down for watching kids for 3 yrs
now and having my own ill be locke down
until my baby is 18 unless I give it up
for adoption. All I am saying is that if
I have this child I will be in this house
forever because I wont be able to afford
to move out on my own especially having
this baby in my life and at the sometime I
dont want my baby to struggle with me.
And the other half of me want to keep it
because I believe I can do it to be a
single mom.
someone please give me some advice.
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xbLonDiex
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Aug 2003 Posts: 4 Location: Owatonna
Posted: 08-26-03 00:18am
You're story sounds familar, one of my
friends went through the same thing you
are going through, if you really feel the
need to get out of the house.. Do you
have any other relatives or really good
friends that would be willing to let you
stay at their house for awhile, not to
live but maybe just to get away, it would
help... Til the babies born at least.
Maybe you could have a talk with your step
dad and tell him that the kids arent your
responsibilty all the time and you need to
worry about you and your childs life, not
his kids.. ¤brandi¤
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Misty
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2003 Posts: 52 Location: Nova Scotia
Posted: 08-26-03 10:59am
Hey girl, you have every right for feeling
so locked down - really you shouldnt have
to watch your brother and sister all day
everyday and then have to worry about your
own. You need to go out and live a
little. Adoption is a very open
opportunity out there these days, thats
what I was going to do with my baby just
because my family and I thought it would
be a better idea for everyone than raising
the child myself. But a little while ago
I lost my baby. - anywho back to you lol
- its up to you about this baby - well umm
wait a sec where is the father? What does
he have to say about the baby? If ya
want to PM me ~misty
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sweetpea
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Aug 2003 Posts: 2 Location: Arizona
Posted: 08-26-03 13:09pm
Feeling conflicted would be understandable
in your situation. I have a 17 year old
daughter, and I remember what it is like
to be 17. You are very young, and yet
you're very wise to know that you do not
want to remain in the same situation with
a new baby. Loving the baby so much,
means a tough decision for what might be
best for both you and the baby. Feel
comforted in the fact that so many loving,
responsible, and financially well off
couples are waiting for the chance to make
a difference in your life and the life of
your baby. Wouldn't it be great to give
your baby such a gift? You will then
also reap the reward of knowing you did a
very noble thing out of love, and will
also be able to get your feet on the
ground, make a plan of action to realize
your own dreams and goals. Only you can
make the decision. If you choose to let
your baby be adopted, you may even go
through open adoption agencies that let
you select the parents from profiles they
have! It is just a suggestion. You are
doing a great thing by choosing to have
the baby--
best of luck & blessings
