For Those of Us Who Didnt Plan It..

Dont worry hard times include happy and exciting times!!

Well its kind of hard when you are all ready for the last formal youll probably attend, and your "group" ditches you, so u try to get in your mothers "ideal idea" group and they dont want u to go and her excuse is "they dont want u to go with them because youre a promiscuous person and no one likes dan" I had talked to another friend who was planning on going to dinner with only her and her boyfriend and I guess that wasnt good enough. Nothings good enough any more. I seriously hate myself for bringing her into my mess of a life. I wasnt happy before but my mom seems to think I was so much better b4 alyvia was coming..

But life sucked worse then...
Why cant she be happy that im happy and stop effin dwelling on what happened and get on with it?

I pray that there really is a perfect plan for me and livy on this here earth, cuz sometimes I think i'd be better off dead.

Love mol

Mol,
you will make a good mother. Don't let anyone bring you down. Believe in yourself!
Love,
chanda

Whats done is done, I was just merely trying to talk to the girls who have not yet become pregnant. And dont worry mol youll be a great mom, dont let anyone bring you down.

~sara~

Hey hun,
hopefully its just a stage people go thru.. I know how u feel.. Lately i've been reading a lot of posts on here (and I mean a lot of posts have been put up about this!) about teen mothers and how hard it is and I know its hard and I know im gonna be stressed and cry and sometimes wish i'd disappear... But I used to come on here to feel better but lately ive been feeling worse.. I didnt plan to get pregnant but I dont regret it now but after reading some posts, I feel like i'm a bad person and its something ive done to make me have to have such a hard life earlier...
Hopefully ur friends will grow up and realize u were they for them when they needed u and now u need them. I've lost a few friends and it hurts.. But afterwards.. U know the type of people that, when after u have ur baby, they come and try to oogle and ahh over ur baby, just turn around and say u dont want them around... U dont deserve to be neglected... And hopefully u find someone who comes thru for u and is there for u. I would if I was there but i'm stuck up in canada lol! :p but I hope u feel better and **hugs**

shauna

I dont want you to feel that way. Nobody should feel bad about themselves because they are having a baby.. Therefore I am just going to give you a gist of how great it is, but dont get me wrong I am not promoting sex or pregnancy, I just think some joy needs to be brought in.

My daily schedule(when not in school):

wake up at 8am- get my shower

sean wakes up at 9am- get him dressed in those ohh so cute clothes, see his smiling, face, change his diaper ( not smelling very pretty)

play time, cuddle time, all that dancing time, until 12 noon

lunch time!! Eating lots of yummies and watching his glowing face, as he eats his favorite foods

nap time 1pm...Cuddle down with one of us (larry or me), watch some cartoons

2pm usually have some errans to run, so have to try to fit them in around this time. Sometimes like one of the girls said, I think it was chanda, the baby will scream because they wanna be held or just dont wanna be in the car. In this case I am a back seat driver!! "larry watch out!!"

4pm- nap time again if im lucky...Sometimes he does sometimes he doesnt. Depends on what the erran was for the day too..

5pm- grandma comes home, visit time, play time, cuddle time, dance time.

6pm: dinner, very hard time, feed him, feed myself, while he hangs on my plate

7-8pm. Bath time, change clothes for bed, clean up toys...

Play time until 10.. But I dont want you to mistake play time as he sits in a corner and plays, you know I am on the floor right there or he will fuss after a while.

Every two week expenses:
diapers( 2 different packages generic & pampers) (day & night)
wipes
cute clothes
diaper genie refill
shoes
socks
bath soap
formula(wic)
baby food
spoons
bottle supplies

keep in mind yes they can be tough, yes they can be fussy sometimes, but this can be the best thing that ever happens to someone. I am gonna be honest, my son saved my life. He has completed me. I never had a childhood and now in a way I do. I am happy, I am finally in a stable home, and I am away from my mother. This is not the answer for everyone. And this is not the only way to go about things. I just wanted you to see what I go through. But keep in mind sean is 10 months old and not all babies are as relaxed and calm and he is.. Anyone care to share a horror story??

Stacie & sean..

Hope this made sense

Thanx
i know that ur saying uve had it hard but its nice to hear some good things about being a parent too.. I get scared easily abot whats to come and all I had was regrets and bad things ( know theres a few bad things but I like how u showed there are good and bad in a routine day) thanx that really helps!

Shauna

Your welcome, is there a way that I can help you to not be scared? Can I help you to overcome your fears? Can I help you to be a more secure and happy mommy? When are you due? We have a lot of work to do :-d

stacie

Lol! I didnt know I came off as that scared teehee. Im due july 29th. I'm only about 16 wks. I'm just scared of well.. Things going wrong and not being able to do things. Like.. I had a m/c last pregnancy and now I fret about stillbirth and all that.. And i'm scared of sids ( a few babies have died up here due to that and it freaks me out!) and from what everyones said.. It seems almost impossible for me to do it and also financially.. Well i'm just making it by :s lol! I can go on forever but I better not haha! Dont wanna bring everyone else down wit me! Lol! Thanx again

shauna

Bring everyone down with you?? This site was built for everyone to help everyone. And I am here to help you...You can do it, medical question what everyone else says (if they say something you dont like) dont say anything back just ignore it and move on. You have to look deep inside your heart and realize that you are gonna be a good mom.. Have you ever raised a pet? Baby sat? Cooked supper? Made a bed? Being a mom is not all that hard, you take care of everything, granted, but you make it through. Once you see that baby face you will see what I mean. I was never around babies before I had sean and it was like I just magically knew how to do it, larry too..It is something that god gives us almost instantly...Financially, hmm where is the boyfriend? Maybe youll have a boy and I can then help you and jen... About the miscarriage I am sorry that you had to go through with it but there are tons of thousands of women who have had a miscarriage and then had a successful birth. My mother being one of those women.. About the sids, that is something I cant help you with as I think about it all the time. But you do what you can to prevent it. Get one of those grove things that go in the bed to keep the baby on his back, get a heart monitor that senses the babys heart rate and alarms you the instant it stops, there are things that you can do. But with you having one previous miscarriage I think that the best thing for you to do is to get a pregancy and birth book and lay in bed and read...Babys are a gift from god, and if it is right for you right now it shall be recieved!!

Thanx all for the support I feel a whole lot better and ,for once, I actually feel happy bout going to work (i usually get upset there becuz of teenage pregnancy discrimination) but ya'll helped thanx! I'll keep ur suggestions in mind.. Sorry if I came off as a b*tch.. I was a lil grumpy but I really can be a nice person teehee! Thanx all!

Shauna

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Stacie, your days seem pretty easy! And I know teens dont want to be put down if they are pregnant, which I dont. But I do not like to make teen pregnancy seem as easy as cake. I like to let them know, that it can be easy at times, but it can be very hard and very costly. I like to tell teens who havent gotten pregnant yet to hold off that way they can enjoy their youth and hang out with friends, not get stuck at home because you dont have a sitter. I have watched the baby a bunch of times by myself and it was so busy! But ill tell you a schedule too! One of which she was sick! And so was everyone else!!!! Except, by chance-me.

Woke up at 5:30 from the baby crying, had to run and make her a bottle, run back to feed her and burp her and put her back to sleep.

6:30 she was fussing again so I had to find her pacifier then I called in sick for work.

7:45 she was wide awake and I wanted to sleep in, after all it was my day off! But I had to get up.

8:15 get up and make breakfast for the baby, mom and sister while making sure the baby was fine in her high chair. I had to clean up after that and clean the baby off

9:00 tyr to play with the baby but she was fussy, so I had her mom giver her medicine...Still fussy and whiny

10:00 try to put the baby to sleep but she wants to crawl around and get into everything! While im dozing off

11:00 gave the baby a bottle and try to put her to sleep, worked for about 10 minutes and she was up again

11:30 leave the baby at home for a bit while I took my other neice to school, I was not dressed or had any makeup, I looked awful

12:30 making lunch and chasing the baby around, then I had to get medicine for my mom and sister and make them tea

1:00 still chasing the kid, trying to get her to watch cartoons but she keeps crying!! Stressing out now!

3:00 taking a warm bath for the baby so maybe she can feel better, worked for a bit and then I made her a bottle and she napped while I cleaned the house

5:00 pick up jose and make dinner, I was tired from cleaning, cooking, running around, changing a billion sick diapers!!

6:30 clean and let jose have the baby for a while

7:30 watching some tv while the kid played on the floor wih toys

8:30 she was sleeping and I saw we ran out of medicine but thought she should be fine, I had to clean up a box of cereal she had spilled all over the floor, I think I was getting bags under my eyes at the time!!

9:30 everyone was sleeping, I thought my job was done

11:30-midnight she is up crying and crying from being sick, scared the daylights out of me with that scream, so I had to make a bottle, feed, her, burp her, try to put her back to sleep

not working-midnight get dressed and go to the store to buy medicine. I was like dead tired and ready to knock out

12:30 gave the baby medicine and put her back to sleep

3 fussy again and once again I was up feeding her!!!! Trying to get her back to bed

5 crying again. I gave up. I woke her mother up and gave the kid to her. I had to work and was stressing and had little sleep.

I realized why I cant have kids!!!

Like I said at the end, sean is a rare baby..Most babies are fussy and sean isnt...I mean you could have a colicy baby!!

I definitly have full support to the teens that had an unplanned pregnancy.. Just like u hun, u can do it we all know u can*

Thanks everyone. Oh man, yesterday was an emotional day..I didnt realize what I posted in its totallity til this afternoon. Its guna be okay, yes it is. Thank u guys so much. I should get a shirt that says **beware,mommys comin,open the door for her,and be prepared for super mood swings** lol we're guna make it. Thanks again everyone.. Keep in touch. It helps and is greatly appreciated..

love mol

p.S. Im gettin my belly finally!!Shes bout 1 1/2 pounds and u can finally see something exists.