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Sandbox Party
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*~*i Want to Scream!!*~*
Posted: 02-12-07 20:23pm
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Oh.
My.
.G.O.D.
My parents are being totally
unreasonable.
We found a place we're moving into in
about a week or so (we paid the deposit
tonight... ) and they especially my dad,
are going ballistic! Saying we're and I
quote: "medical answer them over big time"
and we "have no consideration for them" oh
and my favorite.. "im so selfish."
i've been telling them for a month and a
half now that we were leaving.
Then last week my dad quit his job. He
got another one, in like 2 days making
more money but still. Hes all like, "when
im going thru though times you're going to
up and leave like that. Your mother asked
you to wait until we found a bigger place
to stay and move with us."
first of all....
My younger brother hasnt called my mom
"mom" or my dad "dad" in years (literally)
its fool b*tch for my mom and bum for my
dad... My aunt is prostitute, my uncle is
crackhead (with good reason tho) im "pig"
and jacob is "stupid health question" and
.Caitlyn is "brat".
I refuse to allow my kids to be exposed to
such disrespect any longer.
Aside from the fact that once again the
cops are watching our house because of my
uncle and his drug crap. He got my
parents evicted from the last place they
lived for that.. People were complaining
to the police about drug activity and get
this.. The landlady actually *paid* my
parents to move. (seriously.) do they
said he wasnt welcome back in their
home.
Well guess what.
Mhm.
So yeah .Rob and I dont want any of this
influence on our kids anymore. Plus we're
sick of living in one room.. Jacob sleeps
in a playpen because I cant fit a real
crib in there and .Caty is about to
outgrow her bassinet, and I definately
cant fit another playpen in there.
Im just at a loss... I dont want to d*ck
over my parentals but I seriously need my
own place. I cant live like this
anymore.
Oh yeah..
Sunday we gave my mom $100 they still want
another $50 .P.L.U.S they want us to pay
the entire $156 light bill this
.Thursday.
All I am is an income to them. Thats it.
Thats all we're good for. We decided to
stay in this .P.O.S state so my mom
wouldnt miss the kids.
Im seriously considering getting our
deposit back and going up to .Illinois
anyway.
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Sunflower_pie81
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Location: to hell with this crap
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Posted: 02-12-07 20:29pm
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I am so sorry love, I know how it can be
with the rents. It's awful living with
them. But you have to do what is right
by your family, and by family I mean your
babies and your husband. I dont' think
that it's rightthat your mother and father
act like that. I hope that one day I am
not like that. I think that you have
made a good decision, your children don't
need to be around that. But is moving
back up with your mil such a good idea?
But you need to make the right decision fo
ryou and your family. God luck.
I love you hun, if you need to talk you
know where I am.
Gen
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Sandbox Party
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Posted: 02-12-07 20:32pm
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Oh hell no lol we wouldnt be living with
.Mil. We already have a place lined up up
there thru a friend of hers.. A nice 2
bedroom 2 bath on a huuuuuuuuuuuge piece
of property and a full basement. Only
like 400 a month!!! Down here you cant
even get a damn efficiency for that.
*sigh*
i'll prolly call u in a bit.
I wannt cry to sombody not rob cuz he gets
upset.
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tigresacanela24
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Location: Treat your children well, eventually they'll choose your nursing home.
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Posted: 02-12-07 20:34pm
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You're not screwing them over.
They need an attitude adjustment. Don't
let them lay a guilt trip on you, all
they're trying to do is get you to stay so
that they can have extra cash. Go, girl!
Run fast and far! 
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ladylee70
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Posted: 02-12-07 20:38pm
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Oh my! I think you are doing the right
thing with moving out. Our your parents
really blinded by your brother's horrible
influence right now?? It would seem
pretty obvious to me. It does sound like
they don't want to let you go. It it
solely for money or are they emotionally
dependent on you as well. You could be a
source of stability, which is not your
role and is not fair to you at all. You
don't need that kind of stress. This
sounds like a Dr. Phil show. You are
being selfish. It seems like it's the
other way around if your dad got a better
paying job but still wants you to stay
around, even if it is for $$$.
Does that suck how you stayed in florida
so they can be near their grandchildren
and your dealing with this??? We came
back to wa state for our child (soon to be
children) to be near his grandparents.
Our situation is different, but coming
back is not what I expected!!! We are
thinking of moving to boise, id or some
other place that is cheaper. I am
realizing it would probably be healthier
to be away from all of the negativity as
well!!! Pretty sad.
Do you know people in illinios? Why
ill.?? Just curious why you would pick
illinios. It seems like a nice state to
live.
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Sunflower_pie81
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Location: to hell with this crap
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Posted: 02-12-07 20:40pm
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Call me bab, I dont' know where my phone
is but if you call I can find it. Lol
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Sandbox Party
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Posted: 02-12-07 22:08pm
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| ladylee70
wrote: | | do you know people in
illinios? Why ill.?? Just curious why
you would pick illinios. It seems like a
nice state to
live. |
yeah .Robs parents live there... His
whole family does. Plus my bestfriend
wants to move up there with me.
I just feel totally terrible right now..
My mom just got thru calling me a
*fairweather friend*... Because last year
at tax time was when we moved back to
.Illinois for a few months. Apparently we
*used* them until we were finacially ok
and now that they need the *help* we're
taking off.
I swear she lays it on thick.
During her little tirade.. She was like,
(yeah get this.. Makes no sense..) "if I
had the money to go to the courthouse and
get you outta here I would." then goes
into her little spiel about how we're
doing them *so wrong* by leaving in their
*time of need.*
make up your farkin mind!!!
She claims she can re-arrange my room to
fit two cribs, a bed and a dresser in
there. Yeah right!! Im gunna take pics
of the room all 4 of us sleep in... Just
to show u how itty bitty it is. (but my
batteries r dead right now so it'll be
tomorrow.)
i hate crying.
Especially when I cant figure out exactly
why im crying.
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arcadia
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Posted: 02-12-07 22:57pm
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Aarrrgghhh! Your parents are so
inconsiderate of you, .Sandra! That's so
unfair to you & the babies! You guys
deserve so much. Especially your own
place to just relax & be your own
family! You'll be outta there soon.
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meggan
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Joined: 10 Nov 2005
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Location: westchester
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Posted: 02-12-07 23:30pm
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Girl I think you are doing the right
thing.. F your parents... You have your
own family and your own life.. I know tha
tyou feel that you have to do for htem but
trust me from experiance your life will be
homicide.. You are right to get a bigger
place and just be you hubby and the kids..
I wish you the best of luck... But
always remember dont do something you dont
really really want to do.. Luv ya and
good luck
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littlesqueaks
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Joined: 06 May 2006
Posts: 296
Location: Caldwell, Idaho
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Posted: 02-12-07 23:46pm
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Run as fast as you can and don't look
back. That sucks what you are going
through and shouldn't have to be going
through it especially with two young
children. You need to be on your own
raising your children in a healthy stable
enviroment. Kids can sense with something
is not right and you will notice a change
within your household the minute you get
out from under the hands of your parents.
When you get out of there I am sure things
will be rough between you and your family
for awhile but sooner or later they will
have respect for your choices and know
that you have taken the right steps.
Independence is very important once you
have become a parent yourself so what you
are doing is the corect direction to take
and let their words go in one ear and out
the other you will be the better person in
the end and alot happier. Hope you don't
mind that I came in on your discussion but
I know what your going through I went
through it as well after my divorce I had
to live with my parents and they were kind
of the same way about me moving out on my
own. Not as bad and they had selfish
reasons of why they did not want me to
move out and that was they thought I was
taking their grandkids away.
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Kia
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Location: Planet Tampaxia,
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Posted: 02-13-07 06:16am
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Parents or not - i'd be heading for
illinois for sure.
I understand the loyalty thing about
"they're my folks" etc but you're the
mommy now and the mommy is always in
charge.
So stop thinking of others and do what
feels right for you and your family (ie
you hubby and kids).
Make you happy sandy, not everyone else.
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Melissa_20
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Location: Florida
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Re: *~*i Want to Scream!!*~*
Posted: 02-13-07 07:19am
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| rainfire1424
wrote: |
sunday we gave my mom $100 they still want
another $50 .P.L.U.S they want us to pay
the entire $156 light bill this
.Thursday.
all I am
is an income to them. Thats it. Thats
all we're good for. we decided to
stay in this .P.O.S state so my mom
wouldnt miss the kids.
Im seriously considering getting our
deposit back and going up to .Illinois
anyway. |
<333
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Sandbox Party
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Posted: 02-13-07 10:11am
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| kia
wrote: | parents or not - i'd be
heading for illinois for sure.
I understand the loyalty thing about
"they're my folks" etc but you're the
mommy now and the mommy is always in
charge.
So stop thinking of others and do what
feels right for you and your family (ie
you hubby and kids).
Make you happy sandy, not everyone
else. |
yeah I know.. Its just so hard, you
know?? Rob doesnt understand it either.
I have such a big heart and care so much
about people that treat me so horribly.
| melissa_20
wrote: | | I love you sandra!!! Move
to melbourne! <333
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lol its just as crowded and expensive down
there! I might as well stay here!
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yellow ribbon
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Posted: 02-13-07 10:11am
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Ugh I dunno what to say how can parents
act like that?? Its like they accomidate
the bad ppl and f*ck with the good ones.
O well sandy come back to me!!!
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Sandbox Party
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Posted: 02-13-07 12:51pm
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| macysmama
wrote: | | ugh I dunno what to say how
can parents act like that?? Its like
they accomidate the bad ppl and f*ck with
the good ones. O well sandy come back to
me!!! |
lol we're considering it..
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musikmaker
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Posted: 02-13-07 13:03pm
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I don't really know you all that well, but
I think that I would run as fast as I
could and never look back. Family
shouldn't abuse each other that way.
You should definately move to illinois. I
know that I love it! I have lived in this
great state my whole life.
I hope that everything works out great for
you.
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Sandbox Party
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Posted: 02-13-07 13:04pm
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| musikmaker
wrote: | i don't really know you all
that well, but I think that I would run as
fast as I could and never look back.
Family shouldn't abuse each other that
way.
You should definately move to illinois.
I know that I love it! I have lived in
this great state my whole life.
I hope that everything works out great for
you. |
omg you live in .Chicago!! My favorite
city in the entire .U.N.I.V.E.R.S.E!! I
wanna move therrrreeeee!
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arcadia
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Posted: 02-13-07 13:09pm
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| rainfire1424
wrote: | | musikmaker
wrote: | i don't really know you all
that well, but I think that I would run as
fast as I could and never look back.
Family shouldn't abuse each other that
way.
You should definately move to illinois.
I know that I love it! I have lived in
this great state my whole life.
I hope that everything works out great for
you. |
omg you live in .Chicago!! My favorite
city in the entire .U.N.I.V.E.R.S.E!! I
wanna move
therrrreeeee! |
.Have you guys looked at anything outside
of .Chicago, .Sandra? My brother used to
live in the suburbs & it was super
awesome. He was only about 30 minutes
outside the city.
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Sandbox Party
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Posted: 02-13-07 13:11pm
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| arcadia
wrote: | | rainfire1424
wrote: | | musikmaker
wrote: | i don't really know you all
that well, but I think that I would run as
fast as I could and never look back.
Family shouldn't abuse each other that
way.
You should definately move to illinois.
I know that I love it! I have lived
in this great state my whole life.
I hope that everything works out great for
you. |
omg you live in .Chicago!! My favorite
city in the entire .U.N.I.V.E.R.S.E!! I
wanna move
therrrreeeee! |
.Have you guys looked at anything outside
of .Chicago, .Sandra? My brother used to
live in the suburbs & it was super
awesome. He was only about 30 minutes
outside the
city. |
actually we were looking into moving to
springfield... They're opening up a
sunbelt rentals (which is where .Rob
works) and they wanted to make him some
shop foreman or something. $56k a year
salary so boo-yaaa lol.
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arcadia
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Posted: 02-13-07 13:14pm
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| rainfire1424
wrote: | | arcadia
wrote: | | rainfire1424
wrote: | | musikmaker
wrote: | i don't really know you all
that well, but I think that I would run as
fast as I could and never look back.
Family shouldn't abuse each other that
way.
You should definately move to illinois.
I know that I love it! I have lived
in this great state my whole life.
I hope that everything works out great for
you. |
omg you live in .Chicago!! My favorite
city in the entire .U.N.I.V.E.R.S.E!!
I wanna move
therrrreeeee! |
.Have you guys looked at anything outside
of .Chicago, .Sandra? My brother used
to live in the suburbs & it was super
awesome. He was only about 30 minutes
outside the
city. |
actually we were looking into moving to
springfield... They're opening up a
sunbelt rentals (which is where .Rob
works) and they wanted to make him some
shop foreman or something. $56k a year
salary so boo-yaaa
lol. |
.Ooooh .Springfield is really pretty! I
dunno if .I'll ever have the balls to move
out of .Moline.. I really kinda like it
here. Its not big, but not small. It's
pretty affordable & it's a nice place
to raise kids. We'll probably be here for
the rest of our lives.. Lol.
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